mixed children

Schwiggs

Best part is when they grow up into fine *kitten* mixed women. mmph.

NOTE: I said after they grow up. I'm not a pedobear.

CrzyAte

Your children will never ask that question. I have a son that is biracial and he has never questioned why his parents are of different races. Race does not matter to children. Race is an idea that parents and other adults put in the minds of children.

My children are white and African American. I was room mom when my twins were in kindergarden. One of their friends asked why my kids were brown if I was white. I explained that their dad was black so when you mixed the colors together you get their pretty carmel color. The best advice I can give you is teach them to be proud of who they are. I was raised with a cousin who was African American and white and his family always told him he was indian and made jokes about his skin tone. The day he found out the truth from another older mixed child was devastating to him.

auntdeedee87

As someone who plans to adopt, and possibly have children that look far different from their pale, brown-haired Mama, these responses make me happy to read.

branflake5

i have 3 children my older 2 are bi-racial mixed with white and black, and my youngest is white... when my youngest son was around 5 there was a rap song video that came on tv called white girl, my son said "mommy how come all these black guys keep talking about a white girl, so i said " well ur papaw is black and ur grandma is white" he said " WHAT!?!? i thought we were all tan!!!" he was completely shocked lol

none of my kids have ever asked why they are the color that they are, my entire family is full of many different races and all the kids have turned out to be confident and no identity issues what so ever

mznisaelaine

I don't have advice but I just wanted to say that no matter what race/nationality/culture you identify with, I think it is all beautiful! I think a diverse group of people is beautiful! Simply beautiful.

Crystal817

As someone who plans to adopt, and possibly have children that look far different from their pale, brown-haired Mama, these responses make me happy to read.

I know some people may disagree and say that it won't matter at all, as long as you love your child unconditionally, but for me (a Korean adoptee) having white parents has definitely affected me. I know lots of KAD's who feel the same way.

beccyleigh

I'm white & my husband is thai, our son has light olive skin with round brown eye & western hair (not thick straight asian style) his fathers culture, language, beliefs & food is an important part of our lives, we live in UK so make sure that the thai part of his life is well represented. He is fully aware that he comes from 2 different countries & cultures & accepts it as it is.

Kids do ask but not in a negative way & how you respond to those questions is the most important thing imo, honesty without making a big deal of the differences is the way we go, just state why the differences are there & leave the kid to think about it or not.

Beastette

I'm white & my husband is thai, our son has light olive skin with round brown eye & western hair (not thick straight asian style) his fathers culture, language, beliefs & food is an important part of our lives, we live in UK so make sure that the thai part of his life is well represented. He is fully aware that he comes from 2 different countries & cultures & accepts it as it is.

Kids do ask but not in a negative way & how you respond to those questions is the most important thing imo, honesty without making a big deal of the differences is the way we go, just state why the differences are there & leave the kid to think about it or not.

THAILAND AND THAI PEOPLE ROCK!! Sawadi ka!

beccyleigh

we think so too

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auntdeedee87

As someone who plans to adopt, and possibly have children that look far different from their pale, brown-haired Mama, these responses make me happy to read.

I know some people may disagree and say that it won't matter at all, as long as you love your child unconditionally, but for me (a Korean adoptee) having white parents has definitely affected me. I know lots of KAD's who feel the same way.

Has it affected your negatively?

LaMujerMasBonitaDelMundo

I'm not yet officially married but my partner is Spanish & I myself came from a mixed background (Mexican, Spanish & Filipino) so I think we will have somewhat mixed children also. I never asked my Latino dad why he look so different from my mom or why my mom thinks that way. I think it doesn't matter your parent's different background, what's important is how they treat each & everyone of their children with love & respect & be good role models for them.