My boss made me feel like crap....

Elizabeth38NC

Honey... try not to let that make you feel bad... always the naturally skinng people say mean things like that when 9 times out of ten they can thank their genetics and metabolism for being able to be thin and not because he is probably doing anything spectacular or would do anything spectacular to "not get that way"... ... You be proud of what you are doing. You are beautiful inside and out and he is just rude and ugly inside and probably out too, not to mention judgmental. People like that should stop and think that life paths good bad or in between sometimes bring us to a place we don't want to be and it doesn't make us any lesser of a person.. You hang in there and keep on your path...:-) Love from NC ... Beth

mattbryan

Like was mentioned earlier, his cruel and heartless comment is more a reflection of what a piece of caca he is rather than a slight against your accomplishment! Keep your chin high and prove to him that you're a better person. You've started a good thing, and you will be able to finish it!

Kelly_Wilson1990

Ignore the idiot!!

babs23

Unfortunately... for some reason people feel it's okay to talk/look down to others who are overweight. We all experience it in one way or another. I was once told that I didn't get a job because they were "looking for someone to be the face of the company." What do you even say to something like that? It should be discrimination, but it's not considered so.

You are amazing for achieving that level of weight loss! You certainly don't need some *kitten* telling you anything different. *hugs*

Someone here linked this poem a while back... I like it a lot, I think it may help:

http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=1341746

“It’s No Fun Being a Fat Girl” ~ A Poem

It’s no fun being the fat girl,
As I’m sure you can all relate:

I’m tired of elastic waistbands and poppin’ buttons,
Of the chaffing thighs,
And the “Oh my my’s”
Shopping in the “women’s” department
And being the fattest one at a party.

I’ve had it with being the wing “man,”
The biggest bride’s maid,
Avoiding the beaches and bathing suits,
Looking at my chins multiply,
And trying to love my love handles!

It’s no fun when someone asks when the baby’s due,
When someone is outright rude—
And comments on how fat you’ve gotten,
Sadly, I have learned that being obese gives people permission
To treat you like you have no feelings.


Every girl wants to fit into that little black dress,
To feel good about how she looks—
To get compliments and to dress to impress,
But squeezing bulges into the latest fashions
Is no easy task, and that fat sure is hard to mask!

I done with hearing men’s insults,
I’ve learned never to ask, “Honey, do I look fat in this?”
I’ve heard I’ll leave you if you get fatter more that once,
And some boyfriends have tried to tell me how to eat,
Watching me every moment to see if I will cheat.

It’s nearly impossible to fit into a classroom desk,
An airplane seat or restaurant booth,
A crowded elevator . . . a roller coaster seat,
Some women embrace their fat,
And date fetish men that think of them as meat . . .

But that is not me.
I hate being big; I hate avoiding people because I gotten so fat,
I hate being the fattest friend,
I hate the wiggles and the jiggles and the cellulite thighs
The stretch marks and the strained bra strap.

I want to take pictures and not throw them away,
I want to know what it’s like to be thin,
I want to know what it’s like to wear a size ten,
I want to be the object of desire—
I want to feel like the Goddess that I know I am.

It’s no fun being the fat girl,
I’m ready to shed those layers of protection,
Those layers of self hate,
And do this for me
I’m going to lose this weight!

I’m sure you can all relate.

Jorra

What a jerk! If I had seen that I would have stepped right out and slapped him in the face! Report him if you can and want to, that's definitely five kinds of wrong. If you don't want to pursue it and just forget his sorry butt, that's just fine too.

Be proud of who you are and how far you've come, you are amazing!

heatherleigh12

I am sorry that happend to you!!!!!! You are doing amazing dont let someone like that take away all of your hard work!!!!!!

So proud of you keep it up!!!!!!

beccaclyma2002

sweetie you are awsome for losin that much weight, no matter what he says, we all belive in you !! we have been down that road more times than we can count. i know i have.. you are a great wonderful woman.. you can do this!!
pretty soon, that idiot won't be able to say anything to you.. you are goin to hit your GW and tell him to kiss off..
keep goin hun you can do it.. you have gone this far .. KEEP GOIN !! :flowerforyou: :flowerforyou:

mialsya

Excuse my language, but that guy is an @sshole. Does your company have an HR department? I would lodge a formal complaint. That's discriminatory and no one should have to stand for that.

As for you, you should be so proud of yourself! Any amount of weight loss, especially as much as you have achieved, is extraordinary. You and your success helps those of us who are just starting find our motivation to keep chasing you and your numbers. If my ex-husband taught me anything, when someone tries to knock you off your pedestal, show them how low they are by raising yourself up higher!

sunshine__angel

You have made a great accomplishment and you shouldn't let anyone bring you down! I cannot believe your boss said that to you. Surely there is someone you can speak to about that?
Hopefully you start feeling better because you have come a long way and there is no looking back! Congrats on your loss so far, and don't let anyone be negative around you!!!

atomdraco

You should be proud of yourself and ignore the jerk! Try to turn this around to motivate you instead of being frustrated. You are at the right place (MFP) with all the people support you. It's very important to be surrounded with positive and supportive group.

skinnywithin

YOU SHOULD HAVE ASKED HIM IF HE NEEDED A CONDOM <SINCE HE WAS ACTING LIKE A TOTAL DI*K !!!!!!

blackchick41bb

u no what?turn every negative into a positive,and say to urself that u wont let urself get back to 235,and if u do,tell him and the rest to line up to suck ur *kitten* with a striped straw.ppl can only get u down if u let them.so wipe the tears away and move on to your journey.

lmoldes

Your boss doesn't sound like he very secure in your success. Don't let him take your accomplishment (and it's a wonderful one I assure you) and trash it. He sounds like he likes to tear people down. You hold your head up and keep up the great work, you are an inspiration.

puertoricanlady18

Ur beautiful! Don't ever have anyone make u feel otherwise!!! 

mrstoripowell

Im going to turn this into a positive and keep on losing this weight!!! I dont care what his skinny butt has to say! THANK YALL SO MUCH FOR THE INSPIRATION!!!!!!

isabelk

Keep a written record of it if you're not taking it to HR right now. I'd take it to HR if I could though. That's not okay! Plus, you are doing awesome!

FitJoani

First off screw him!!!! Second off you are amazing!!!! Never forget that. Last off...can you go to human relations over it??? File a complaint. I wish I could lend you my boss. He is complimentary and encouraging!!!

BabyDuchess

Unfortunately, there are always going to be people like that in this world. My "brother" posted a picture on Face Book of a grossly obese woman posting a sign looking for her lost Chihuahua and the dog was stuck in the crack of the woman's behind. Why did he post this? To make fun of me........I was grossly obese and I have four chihuahuas. He thought it would defeat me but I used it for motivation and I'm almost half way to my goal. Please don't let petty people define who you are! Rise above them my dear and you will have the last laugh! Friend me if you want. :flowerforyou:

jambs5

Stay focused and think positive. Don't let anybody bring you down. As hard as it is to do, ignore the negativity. You should be proud of yourself for the weight you've lost and what you still want to accomplish. It's a long, hard road BUT you can and will do it. Please feel free to add me on MFP for support/encouragement.

leslieanned

i dont know where u work but u should report that *kitten* to HR!!!! what a jerk!!!!! he obviously has NO class. whenever he says rude things like that just remember, "you can go to school, but you cant buy class."

EricInArlington

SCREW HIM!! :P

cmriverside

Wow. Ive had awful bosses like that. Maybe his cat died.

mialsya

I might just take this to HR if he says anything else about me.......

Don't wait. You don't know how many other people he's been like this to. Harassment is harassment and that's exactly what he did to you.

mom23nuts

well now he let his true colors show through and he is just a jerk....feel proud of how far you have come. It takes a very "big man" to make someone feel so small anything to make himself feel better, sometimes it's the only way people feel better about themselves when they can make someone else feel terrible.

You keep your head up and keep going and we are all here for you! Screw him!

rhodes2b

Why do you care what your boss says? What matters it that you feel better...you notice... and you are proud of yourself.

mrstoripowell

Why do you care what your boss says? What matters it that you feel better...you notice... and you are proud of yourself.

I dont know why it affected me the way it did and im proud of myself! I know alot of ppl who havent lost what ive lost in 2 years.

I want to thank everyone once again for the support and advice and i will file a report tomorrow

kirsteinm

He's a douche and should not be anyones boss, let alone yours. You are a strong, amazing, dedicated and powerful woman. If his head was out of his *kitten*, he would know it too. For now you will just have to pity his ignorance and revel in your success!

AMAZING JOB! Give yourself a big hug from me! :flowerforyou:

jnell82

Girl, you are doing amazing! Nothing he says can take that away from you. You have made the choice to embrace a healthier life and its working. HE is disgusting for letting himself become such a sef righteous @$$. Way to go on your weight loss, keep it up

Aesop101

Wow! What a bastage! You've done so well, Just keep going.

Aesop101

Why do you care what your boss says? What matters it that you feel better...you notice... and you are proud of yourself.

Many of us want to respect our managers and look to them for guidance. I don't find it ironic she used the word guidance.

My department got a new boss once who badgered me from day one. I said that won't matter, I know who I am. Well after nearly 3 years of this it did matter. She had issues.