When is it ever good enough?

SarahofTwins

"When is it ever good enough?"

I only ask this because when I was at my heaviest in the 200's all I heard was "Oh you're getting big", "What are you eating", "Are you going to lose weight?"

Now that I've lost most of the weight I hear "Oh you're too skinny", "Are you eating enough?", "Do you want some food?"....

I've been on the two extremes of being heavy and now smaller....but I feel when is it ever good enough for others to just accept you for the way you are and not how big or small you are. It just pisses me off really. I've worked my *kitten* off and its not an easy thing to do. I know I shouldn't let others affect the way I feel but I just don't want to hear it from my own Mother that I was getting too big or now I'm too skinny now. It just baffles me that she just goes from one extreme to the next with me. Plus my sister is also on MFP losing the weight because she's been battling it her whole life to include my mom always telling her shes big. I don't see how that is helpful for any parent to tell their own kids they are getting big. We we're brought up with eating a lot of food...buffet style when we would eat breakfast, lunch or dinner. I don't think my mom knew any better.

Anyway my point is, is that I'm not a freaking measuring scale where I'm either too big or too small....I'm healthy, work my *kitten* off, and happy with my progress. Screw what people say cause this is who I am and my husband loves me for me at my best and at my worst. I love when others inspire me on MFP because those are the success stories that drove me to where I'm at today, so Thank You.

kdiamond

I believe people make negative remarks because they are unhappy with their own self image. Don't listen to the naysayers...like you said you're doing it for YOU and that is all that matters!

godroxmysox

Preach it girl! You are a true inspiration & I'm lucky to have you as a MFP friend

destiny637

EXACTLY!!! When people say "you're too ______ . . . " tell them, "really?!?!? cause I feel AWESOME!!-- better than I have in a long time." AND THEN GIVE THEM A HUGE SMILE!!

Girl, what matters most, is how you feel about yourself. Be proud -- you look AMAZING! You're an inspiration to me!

ColoradoRobin

Family can be a challenge when they are negative like that. The comments about getting too thin usually are due to their own insecurities or jealousy. People make excuses about not getting fit, but seeing you do it undermines those excuses. Rather than celebrating your achievements, some will criticize, trying to get back you back to their comfort zone. The place where losing weight is just impossible and we should just accept being fat and unfit. Also people get used to you at a certain weight, and any change can be scary to them, just like getting a tattoo or a radical new hairstyle.. You no longer fit their personal image of who they expect you to be.

Don't let your mom or anyone else divert you from the path you have chosen. It is good enough when you and your doctor are happy with your weight and fitness; mostly you.

FabCheeky

When people do that to me, I like to flex a muscle or talk about what I'm squatting now. I talk about how my fitness level has gone through the roof and I'm back to running again. Yesterday, I walked two miles and ran a little over 3 miles. I did two rounds of weight/circuit training. I talk about how addicted I am to Zumba...LOVE IT. I talk about how DELICIOUS the food that I eat is...and usually show them a snack. (I eat often.) If they ask me, don't you miss soda (as an example)? I say nope, because I know what it's made from and what it does to the human body---especially at the HUGE quantities that I used to drink. If they want to know more---I'm happy to share all of the bad habits that I've broken and how far I've come.

XFitMojoMom

Hrmmm. I never got "oh you're getting too big" - I think people actually relished seeing me struggle. As for getting "too small", unless you are severely malnourished and hiding an ED - ignore. Do what's best for you and keep rocking it and getting stronger.