Dumped by my Boyfriend

DesertMirage

I just got dumped by my boyfriend (literally JUST, uh like maybe half a hour ago), its almost 3am and I'm pulling my hair out about not sleeping and really wanting to go downstairs and chow down on the bags of Almond Joy Pieces and Dark Chocolate Pieces in the fridge. I want to walk but it's too late and I want to run but I can't move. What do I do, I'm trying to not be upset and want to do nothing and eat but it's kind of hard when the only one up with me was my cat and now she's pretty much rolled on her back snoring.

chefchazz

almost 3am?? we are on the same coast. i say just give yourself this time. get it all out and before the sun comes up.:flowerforyou:

leslturn8

Sorry to hear this but you did say stairs? if it were me id go down stairs have a glass of water do a run up the stairs walk down walk up down up down etc wear yourself out
Things will get better but DONT TOUCH THE FOOD

nmescalera

That sux.. im sorry to hear that! i would look at it as motivation oddly enough. I would want tp puch my self harder so that way the next time he sees me he would say " Damn... i made a huge mistake!!" Chin up... Yeah it hurts now but there are plenty of other fish in the sea but only one of you! Let him go.... not youself :0) im up if you wanna chat :0)

suzycreamcheese

:flowerforyou: :frown:
im sorry to hear that. Id be gentle on yourself, and go and have a bit of chocolate if it will make you feel better, or go and make yourself a hot chocolate drink and bring it back to bed and try and rest even if you dont sleep.

kelsiehoagland

You'll be okay. Just keep in mind that eating a ****load of food won't make anything better. Just go to sleep. It's his loss, screw him! Don't let some guy mess up your weight loss plan. Cheer up, honey.

lauramae81

Take a long bath, candles, bubbles if you like them(I'm not a fan). Cry if you need to cry, scream into a pillow. It's ok to allow yourself to feel, you don't need to drown the pain in the candy, it will only make you feel worse in the end.

rocki21

I agree with the stairs idea or if you have work out videos do those to tire your self out.. If you need someone to talk to just let me know im at work and its 2am so i can get pretty bored

sculptandtone

This is going to sound cliche, but you're 20 years old. He did you a favour. You can now play the field, trying on a bunch of dates for size. See what fits. Cause honey, if he's not bowing at your feet, thinking you are the best thing that every happened to him, he's not Mr. Right. Now, you're free to find that. In the meantime, heal your heart with good food and exercise and time. And if you're still upset in a few weeks, remember being happy and hot is the best revenge! Use this to motivate yourself, not fall off the wagon!!!!!

highrise

This is going to sound cliche, but you're 20 years old. He did you a favour. You can now play the field, trying on a bunch of dates for size. See what fits. Cause honey, if he's not bowing at your feet, thinking you are the best thing that every happened to him, he's not Mr. Right. Now, you're free to find that. In the meantime, heal your heart with good food and exercise and time. And if you're still upset in a few weeks, remember being happy and hot is the best revenge! Use this to motivate yourself, not fall off the wagon!!!!!

Best advice ever. I'm so sorry to read this, but don't let it push you off track. Hugs xx

DBabbit

{{HUGS}} Losing someone is hard, but revenge is sweet. Emotional eating will only hurt you, not him. Run up and down those stairs a few times, have some water or green tea, and get back in bed. Then think about how hot you'll look the next time he sees you because you chose not to drown your sorrows in food.

DesertMirage

Thanks a lot guys. I think I'm going to go run up and down the stairs a few times to try and wear myself out. I just have this weird thing when I get nervous or upset I can't sleep. Hardcore can't sleep. I think I was up for a week once. My sadness is half anger, but I don't WANT to be angry at him. I'm turning this anger into motivation, by the time I see him next I'm gonna be a bombshell and he is going to kick himself hard! And i'd love to chat.

suzycreamcheese

im similar with sleep, any stress and it just doesnt happen. at all.

Do you have any sleeping pills you could try?

nmescalera

Thats exxactly how you should think!! so that way when he sees you and is drooling.... you can say.... "oh im sorry.....NO!" lol and walk away..... trust me it feels soooooo good! lol

DesertMirage

I think I love you? And not just for the Jessica Rabbit photo you have (I sign my employee meals Jessica Rabbit), but the wonderful advice.

This is going to sound cliche, but you're 20 years old. He did you a favour. You can now play the field, trying on a bunch of dates for size. See what fits. Cause honey, if he's not bowing at your feet, thinking you are the best thing that every happened to him, he's not Mr. Right. Now, you're free to find that. In the meantime, heal your heart with good food and exercise and time. And if you're still upset in a few weeks, remember being happy and hot is the best revenge! Use this to motivate yourself, not fall off the wagon!!!!!

PinkZeppelin

Thanks a lot guys. I think I'm going to go run up and down the stairs a few times to try and wear myself out. I just have this weird thing when I get nervous or upset I can't sleep. Hardcore can't sleep. I think I was up for a week once. My sadness is half anger, but I don't WANT to be angry at him. I'm turning this anger into motivation, by the time I see him next I'm gonna be a bombshell and he is going to kick himself hard! And i'd love to chat.

I wish this was Facebook so I could "Like" that comment.

tameko2

Ugh that really sucks - stairs or a workout dvd (or some video games!) is what I would do.

DesertMirage

Eh I have melatonin but I hate taking anything for it. I figure it's my bodies weird way of dealing. Eventually it evens out, but for a day or so I can expect no sleep definitely. I guess it depends on how I channel everything.

im similar with sleep, any stress and it just doesnt happen. at all.

Do you have any sleeping pills you could try?

nmescalera

ok sorry totally off subject.....but your ticker looks like your kitty is licking the fishy! lol made me smile.... :0)

kelsiehoagland

ok sorry totally off subject.....but your ticker looks like your kitty is licking the fishy! lol made me smile.... :0)

That's exactly what I thought. So adorable. Go snuggle that cute baby kitty, it'll make you feel better

TinaS88

I am sorry to hear that I say, drink a beer.. try to relax... go to bed and when you wake up go and workout!! It will make you feel better! ♥♥

TinaS88

ok sorry totally off subject.....but your ticker looks like your kitty is licking the fishy! lol made me smile.... :0)

Haha, just noticed.. too cute!!!

jalapenos

<<hugs>> On a side note, think of it as a NSV!!! you lost XX amount of dead weight- him!!! :laugh:

If I knew where you lived I would pick you up to go running, ok- jogging, well, mostly walking (since I just start jogging 90 seconds straight ) and I really don't think that you want to deal with my fat butt sprawled on the floor gasping for air! <hopefully that visual made you laugh!>>

Keep your head up- you are worth sooooo much more! :flowerforyou:

c2me12ad6

It always helps me to go running do some kinda physical activity to keep my mind off of it. Or I cuddle up in bed get comfy to the point where i dont want to move so its less appealing to eat cause id have to get up to get it. Be strong!!!!

DesertMirage

OMG ha ha ha I never even noticed that!! xD ok that just made me giggle uncontrollably. Mostly because Abbey is passed out right next to me with a similar expression on her face. She's my run around the house being stupid throwing a toy mose then having to dig it out from under the sofa partner in crime.

TheBraveryLover

Yup. Dumped 2 weeks ago (although he's coming over this week so we can talk it out) and I ended up losing my appetite and didn't get it back until about 2 days ago. Unhealthy regardless, and I'm happy to be back on track. No man (or woman) should ever affect your goal of getting healthy (easier said than done). I suggest drinking a couple bottles of water whenever you get the craving to eat extra.

And if all else fails, they say the best way to get over one guy is to get under another... ;-)

BunnybeeJG

... a bottle of wine.
... sad music... and cry.
eventually you'll pass out ... the wine will help you fall asleep at least for tonight.

tonight..
you need it.

just tonight.
I wish i could say it'd be alright but honestly I don't know. all relationships are different. when my boyfriend and i broke up for a couple days even I felt empty
like something snapped in me and i just... a piece of me died.
Its not something you get over easily whether you get back together or not... all you can do is take it day by day and hope it at least gets better enough that you can get thru your days without crying or doing something damaging.

you can always vent to us on here.

and though many would say i'm wrong i don't care man i recommend a bottle of wine.
the whole bottle.
just cry it out and stay away from the food it'll make your tummy hurt more.

DesertMirage

<<hugs>> On a side note, think of it as a NSV!!! you lost XX amount of dead weight- him!!! :laugh:

If I knew where you lived I would pick you up to go running, ok- jogging, well, mostly walking (since I just start jogging 90 seconds straight ) and I really don't think that you want to deal with my fat butt sprawled on the floor gasping for air! <hopefully that visual made you laugh!>>

Keep your head up- you are worth sooooo much more! :flowerforyou:

I'd go running/jogging/walking with you any time. Thank you.

DesertMirage

Zero Hour:

Feels like: Crap

Eating habit: Hasn't changed yet. Resisted chocolate though.

What I'm doing to combat 'feels like' emotion: Drinking a ton of water and jogging up and down stairs.

Sleep: None as of now.

Ultimate Goal: To feel good about myself and not feel hurt.

Baby Step Goal: Keep eating normally and exercise more.

BunnybeeJG

This is going to sound cliche, but you're 20 years old. He did you a favour. You can now play the field, trying on a bunch of dates for size. See what fits. Cause honey, if he's not bowing at your feet, thinking you are the best thing that every happened to him, he's not Mr. Right. Now, you're free to find that. In the meantime, heal your heart with good food and exercise and time. And if you're still upset in a few weeks, remember being happy and hot is the best revenge! Use this to motivate yourself, not fall off the wagon!!!!!

i'm sorry.. this is going to sound btchy.. but WHAT is wrong with us as women ... IF YOURE SAD CRY OR GO FOR A RUN... god indulge a little treat yourself make yourself feel like you're still special.. you don't HAVE to play the feild my god not all of us are *kitten* who have to fck every man we see to get over another one. and JUST because your younger doesn't mean thats what you should be doing anyway. MEN are people too believe it or not so doing that is hurtful. if youre just using a guy to get over another .. how on earth do you think that might make that guy feel? not all men are spineless brainless sex monsters and not all women are gods gift so to speak.
cry it out...
take care of yourself don't throw yourself into the single social scene of hooking up just to escape the pain... that just like stuffing your face w food or candy will only make you feel worse... and worthless. which you are not.

sweetie you're going to be okay. just give yourself time to heal... hopefully you guys can work it out so that its at least not a bad end if it ends completely.

we don't need enemies in life...

btw... i lvoe your kitty..
so so cute. here... this is to cheer you up a little ... since maybe just maybe you love kitties too

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=blVEC0ERdnE kitty really loves his food

Jeneba

This is going to sound cliche, but you're 20 years old. He did you a favour. You can now play the field, trying on a bunch of dates for size. See what fits. Cause honey, if he's not bowing at your feet, thinking you are the best thing that every happened to him, he's not Mr. Right. Now, you're free to find that. In the meantime, heal your heart with good food and exercise and time. And if you're still upset in a few weeks, remember being happy and hot is the best revenge! Use this to motivate yourself, not fall off the wagon!!!!!

If I may.... Here's another point of view:

I had been thinking this way about my last break-up until (1) I did a LOT of soul-searching & deiscovered that my dear one was much more vulnerable than I could ever have imagined & that it was, in fact, ME who had done the hurting. and (2) someone new came into my life who worships me etc. etc. but who REALLY has other motivations having to do more with money & status & ego.

So - I agree with Suzy Cream Cheese - have a tiny bit of chocolate & MAKE SURE YOU JOURNAL IT if you think it will help you. Then, get set for months and months of analyzing your behavior. so that you can determine if you also need to tinker with other parts of Self while you also re-build your body....