UNSUPPORTIVE FRIENDS
barbarajean3
Posts: 132 Member
DO YOU EVER FEEL LIKE THE MOST UNPOPULAR PERSON ON YOUR MFP LIST? I LOOK AT MY POSTINGS AND I'M SENDING SUPPORT LEFT AND RIGHT TRYING NOT TO MISS ANYONE. THEN I LOOK AT MY PROFILE AND HEAR CRICKETS. WHY FRIEND SOMEONE IF YOU DONT WANT TO GIVE SUPPORT?
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I agree.it should go both ways.You need the support as well.
Good luck on your journey.
you can do it
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I'll be glad to support you! I can't always check in daily, but I usually am on at least every other day. Maybe you need some new friends. There are a LOT of us out here!0
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I think I am one of those bad friends. I try to check in and at least say "good job" or something, but I am NOT really good about it. Sometimes I will just post something on MY profile, saying that I am proud of my friends - BECAUSE I AM!!!0
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My only support I have is on mfp. In the real world, Im the unpopular one since I'm so into health and fitness0
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I hear ya! My friends are really good about that, and I try to be...I'm not perfect but i do try. Feel free to friend me! We all need support!0
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I've noticed that too - I think some people are attention-seekers who just want to accumulate friends, and they post news updates regularly, but very very rarely will they comment on anyone else's progress. But there are others out there who are really great and supportive. I just 'hide' and ignore the one-way-streets and focus my attention on the friends where the support is mutual. Feel free to add me as a friend - I try to keep up with all of mine regularly :-)0
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Okay, I just read this post and thought, "Hold the phone! I'm supposed to be saying stuff on people's posts?" I kind of thought that the people who comment on others' posts actually knew each other, like in real life. LOL.0
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Maybe you need some new friends. There are a LOT of us out here!
I agree!! It's unfair if you're not getting any support back.
Feel free to add me - I'll cheer you on! :happy:0 -
for anybody that needs a friend, feel free to add me - I am on usually at least one time a day. My encouragement comes 99% from MFP and I think there are others like that so I try to offer support to all
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I've noticed that too - I think some people are attention-seekers who just want to accumulate friends, and they post news updates regularly, but very very rarely will they comment on anyone else's progress. But there are others out there who are really great and supportive. I just 'hide' and ignore the one-way-streets and focus my attention on the friends where the support is mutual. Feel free to add me as a friend - I try to keep up with all of mine regularly :-)
i absolutely agree!! i do the "hide" thing too. i am on daily and comment on most of my friends posts.
feel free to add my if you like. :bigsmile:0 -
I've ran into some of those myself, I'm not perfect but I at least try to comment to all my friends everyday, even if it's not a big, long speech. You can add me to if ya like!! 0
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DO YOU EVER FEEL LIKE THE MOST UNPOPULAR PERSON ON YOUR MFP LIST? I LOOK AT MY POSTINGS AND I'M SENDING SUPPORT LEFT AND RIGHT TRYING NOT TO MISS ANYONE. THEN I LOOK AT MY PROFILE AND HEAR CRICKETS. WHY FRIEND SOMEONE IF YOU DONT WANT TO GIVE SUPPORT?
Look for new friends, there are a lot of people on here~you just have to find the right set for you. I don't expect a comment on everything I do and I certainly can't provide that either but some interaction is a must; where it's a good job or a howdy now and again, doesn't matter
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SOMEONE PLEASE TELL ME HOW TO HIDE PEOPLE. AND A GENERAL HOPE ALL GOES GOOD FOR EVERYONE TODAY HELPS ME SO NO ONE SHOULD FEEL BAD IF YOU CANNT GIVE A PERSONNEL MESSAGE TO ALL YOUR MFPS. BUT IF YOU CAN WRITE A BOOK ABOUT YOUR DAY YOU SHOULD BE ABLE TO ASK ME ABOUT MINE.0
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I've noticed that too - I think some people are attention-seekers who just want to accumulate friends, and they post news updates regularly, but very very rarely will they comment on anyone else's progress. But there are others out there who are really great and supportive. I just 'hide' and ignore the one-way-streets and focus my attention on the friends where the support is mutual. Feel free to add me as a friend - I try to keep up with all of mine regularly :-)
I couldn't agree more. I recently did a "friends list cleanse" because I got sick of people posting attention-whoring comments. Do you really need 200+ friends?
The funny thing is I recently had someone remove me from their list and was sent a message telling me I was removed because I didn't comment enough on their statuses or anytime they burned a calorie. I was sick for 3 weeks I'm sorry I could drag my *kitten* out of bed onto the computer. I'll try harder in the future :huh:0 -
SOMEONE PLEASE TELL ME HOW TO HIDE PEOPLE. AND A GENERAL HOPE ALL GOES GOOD FOR EVERYONE TODAY HELPS ME SO NO ONE SHOULD FEEL BAD IF YOU CANNT GIVE A PERSONNEL MESSAGE TO ALL YOUR MFPS. BUT IF YOU CAN WRITE A BOOK ABOUT YOUR DAY YOU SHOULD BE ABLE TO ASK ME ABOUT MINE.
When they post something you can go to the right of the top line and it comes up to hide.....that will hide their posts0 -
You're way unlucky there! I have great support from all my MFP friends and I give them all support too. Sure we might miss some posts but generally we're there for each other every step of the way!
Feel free to add me as a friend & I'll be there for you too!!
Di
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I dont want to be rude and delete them but if I wait till they post something to hide them hell will have frozen over :laugh:SOMEONE PLEASE TELL ME HOW TO HIDE PEOPLE. AND A GENERAL HOPE ALL GOES GOOD FOR EVERYONE TODAY HELPS ME SO NO ONE SHOULD FEEL BAD IF YOU CANNT GIVE A PERSONNEL MESSAGE TO ALL YOUR MFPS. BUT IF YOU CAN WRITE A BOOK ABOUT YOUR DAY YOU SHOULD BE ABLE TO ASK ME ABOUT MINE.
When they post something you can go to the right of the top line and it comes up to hide.....that will hide their posts0 -
this is how I feel in my world too. I think I annoy people!0
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I try to support all my friends because I'm logging in constantly throughout the day from my phone. I just have to be disciplined and confident enough not to totally rely on others support. Its great to get, but ultimately your doing this for you!
I give the glory to God! He's my biggest supporter!0 -
I dont want to be rude and delete them but if I wait till they post something to hide them hell will have frozen over :laugh:SOMEONE PLEASE TELL ME HOW TO HIDE PEOPLE. AND A GENERAL HOPE ALL GOES GOOD FOR EVERYONE TODAY HELPS ME SO NO ONE SHOULD FEEL BAD IF YOU CANNT GIVE A PERSONNEL MESSAGE TO ALL YOUR MFPS. BUT IF YOU CAN WRITE A BOOK ABOUT YOUR DAY YOU SHOULD BE ABLE TO ASK ME ABOUT MINE.
When they post something you can go to the right of the top line and it comes up to hide.....that will hide their posts
LOL, then just go to their profile and it will show their last post.......:drinker:0 -
I dont want to be rude and delete them but if I wait till they post something to hide them hell will have frozen over :laugh:SOMEONE PLEASE TELL ME HOW TO HIDE PEOPLE. AND A GENERAL HOPE ALL GOES GOOD FOR EVERYONE TODAY HELPS ME SO NO ONE SHOULD FEEL BAD IF YOU CANNT GIVE A PERSONNEL MESSAGE TO ALL YOUR MFPS. BUT IF YOU CAN WRITE A BOOK ABOUT YOUR DAY YOU SHOULD BE ABLE TO ASK ME ABOUT MINE.
When they post something you can go to the right of the top line and it comes up to hide.....that will hide their posts
LOL, then just go to their profile and it will show their last post.......:drinker:
Oh, and I wouldn't worry about being rude by deleting them, sometimes you just have to weed out those who aren't compatible with you......I got over that when I had so many that just didn't say boo to me, EVER, after adding.0 -
You are not alone. I posted, what I thought, was a very good blog. Nada, nothing, not one reply. Some other individual posted, look at that ad. That's it, 40 replies. LOL.
I have deleted folks in the past for that. I won't do it again. The world doesn't evolve around me. While it may be one sided at least you know you are doing the right thing.
Unless they are rude or I run out of room I'm hanging onto my pals. I differentiate between pals and friends.
I so much admire my friends.
Addendum: I think some of it is age. I mean I'm not the most exciting thing out there at 57. Which is fine by me!0 -
I dont want to be rude and delete them but if I wait till they post something to hide them hell will have frozen over :laugh:SOMEONE PLEASE TELL ME HOW TO HIDE PEOPLE. AND A GENERAL HOPE ALL GOES GOOD FOR EVERYONE TODAY HELPS ME SO NO ONE SHOULD FEEL BAD IF YOU CANNT GIVE A PERSONNEL MESSAGE TO ALL YOUR MFPS. BUT IF YOU CAN WRITE A BOOK ABOUT YOUR DAY YOU SHOULD BE ABLE TO ASK ME ABOUT MINE.
When they post something you can go to the right of the top line and it comes up to hide.....that will hide their posts
You don't have to wait until they post something on one of your comments - just when their post comes up on your newsfeed - hover over the first line and you'll see the hide button :-)0 -
Okay, I just read this post and thought, "Hold the phone! I'm supposed to be saying stuff on people's posts?" I kind of thought that the people who comment on others' posts actually knew each other, like in real life. LOL.
This is a great statement!! I wonder how many people are out there that we think are being rude or self centered who actually didn't know!!!!0 -
Feel free to add me. Support is so key to staying on track for me. Plus I love seeing others success. Really helps me stay focused!0
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Feel free to add me. Support is so key to staying on track for me. Plus I love seeing others success. Really helps me stay focused!
This is so true - I get so much motivation from seeing how hard some of my MFP friends are working, it makes me try harder. I also steal yummy healthy meal ideas from their diaries 0 -
I keep my friends list low to keep up with them. I probably don't get the comments back i give. Use to bother me. Everyone has their life and we don't know what it consist of. I try to comment on weight loss and exercise i rarely comment on diary cause i don't have time to look at them. Plus i only have cellphone access to internet.
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I get that too! I don't expect someone to comment on everything i post or do but it would be nice to hear from you once in a while. I especilly hate it when someone doesn't ever post or comment nor reply when i say something to them so......Remove friend!!!0
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Honestly honey sometimes I only have time to log in, log the stuff I have to and log out....but because of your post I am going to do much better and taking the extra time to tell all of my friends what an awesome job they are doing. Don't take it personally, sometimes life just gets in the way, and we have a million and ten things going on and yes we do fall into the "friends think we are selfish" roll, although honestly, try to see it from where I am coming from. I get up at 5am, I dust, run the sweeper, sweep floors, mop, clean windows, do laundry, go to the gym, tan, come home to clean all over again because I have 3 kids at home and sometimes a fourth, or my oldest (at home) one has friends over. I mow the yard, cook, run a business (in the summer it's ideas and such) getting ready for vacation, a family party, holiday's, school is getting ready to start back up, on top of sports for the kids, or doctor's appointments.... so sweetheart, sometimes through all of that stuff, I do forget to tell the people on my page, good job, or even that is awesome, even though I think it every time I see that they have posted something or they have logged in for the 3rd day in a row, or they have made it under their calories. Or they have gained 2lbs and I want to tell them it's okay, that it's going to happen on their journey. If you would like you can add me, and I promise that I will do the best I can to give you the support and encouragement that you need/want. Good Job, and I am sure that your friends think the same thing, even though they don't take the time to tell you.0
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I try to get on every day too, but can't. I have great support from friends here, and try to give them support too.0
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