Am I crazy? Am I wrong? Can I find Clarity?

summalovaable

From the sounds of it you do not go to your doctor regularly so you need to remember that she is not following your weight loss journey. What i find is that sometimes you get wrapped up in how much better you look to yourself that you almost forget that its still unhealthy, even though you might be living a HEALTHIER lifestyle. Your doctor doesnt sound like a very nice lady, but you can't blame her completely.... most people DO lie because they dont want the shame of admitting they eat out on a regular basis. Its actually true that certain back rounds are more susceptible to disease (its simple sucky genetics), so your lucky she's getting that checked for you. Try not to be discouraged, she may have a phD but of that very little is training in nutrition. Ask to go see a nutritionist or find one on your own. Dont take the medication if your not comfortable with it, and keep going with your weight loss journey!

withchaco

And for the record, not all AA people have diabetes! A lot of the diabetes these days are brought on by the medications that many of the doctors are prescribing.

This is quite possibly how my mom became diabetic. She was prescribed a form of steroid for chronic back pain, and started showing symptoms within a few months. Then, some time after she was finally diagnosed, her pharmacist brother in Korea heard what happened and told her that steroids can kill pancreas. She goes to a different doctor now, who is very patient and professional, and doesn't prescribe her crap. (My mom's not in AA, nor is she a drinker, but that's irrelevant)

jus_me77

You need to change your doctor. That was very rude and unprofessional of her. You need to report her to the medical board. Please, please do not take diet pills! You are doing great. I was recently diagnosed with supraventricular tachycardia that was possibly brought on by me taking phentermine. I am on heart meds now because my resting heart rate was around 120 and it would shoot up to the 280's. Keep doing what you are doing. You will get there on your own.

arewethereyet

Thank you for the overwhelming responses! I was just glad that someone responsed and understand/experience the same feelings I had!
-Another thing was I almost felt like deserved to be talked to like that, because I have a hard time sticking up for myself in situations where someone is being overbearing and my mom gets onto me for that all the time *laughs* I really should've compained or made it clear that I was already dieting and being healthy. But lesson learned, I'm just not going to visit there again and go to the military hospital where they treat me a lot better.

I just want to hug you:ohwell:

I am the same way, but 50 yrs of living has taught me to speak up. If you are worried about bloodwork, check with your parents for a dr in your health insurance system close by.

One of the things I did.......er do:blushing: is write a letter to the offending person. You do not have to send it, but put your words on paper. Great therapy. Well I just realized, that is what your doing here!! LOL palm to face...

Keep up the good work on the healthier eating and exercise.

Oh and BTW, my 2 friends that are the fittest of everyone I know, both twisted their knees. One skiing and the other playing tennis. Neither are over weight.

Jerk doctor:explode:

coolsmartygirl

And for the record, not all AA people have diabetes! A lot of the diabetes these days are brought on by the medications that many of the doctors are prescribing.

This is quite possibly how my mom became diabetic. She was prescribed a form of steroid for chronic back pain, and started showing symptoms within a few months. Then, some time after she was finally diagnosed, her pharmacist brother in Korea heard what happened and told her that steroids can kill pancreas. She goes to a different doctor now, who is very patient and professional, and doesn't prescribe her crap. (My mom's not in AA, nor is she a drinker, but that's irrelevant)

She meant African American :]

girlontheseesaw

She sounds awful, and you sound in tune with yourself.

Find a new doctor, and trust yourself that you are doing well on your journey to lose some weight (your measurements are hardly extreme).

I would also be tempted to report her for her inappropriate judgemental attitude. Whether or not you do this is by the by, but I would avoid the appetite suppressants and keep on doing what you've been doing. Sounds like you've achieved a lot to me (and your dad sounds a great inspiration, too).

Papillon22

Everybody has said what I wanted to say. Just wanted to add that I'd feel just like you do if I was treated so disrespectfully by such an arrogant "professional''.

grimnir

That is a situation where I would have gotten real confrontational real quick. Calling me a liar is fighting words, and I wouldn't put up with it. I'm white, but I'd also take serious offense at the racist bull****. That's not okay, and her boss needs to hear about it. Might want to find yourself a doctor review website to complain on, as well. She is not House and haranguing her patients is not acceptable professional behavior.

I would be okay with the prescription, though. You can always sell the pills for extra $$$... Certainly you shouldn't take them if you don't want to, nor should you consider the opinion of this doctor to be valid.

kinlowd

Your doctor is crazy. You have gone down in weight. She needed to listen to you. If she wasn't willing to listen and then accused you of lying when you have been doing the things you need to do to lose weight, then forget this doctor. My doctors didn't start to say anything about my weight until I was already well over 200 pounds. Also, they didn't tell me the problems i could develop until after I reached over 300 pounds. I'm on my way back down but darn it, someone should have said something. But then again, this has been over the last 15 years.

The key thing is. I'm on my way back down, and my doctor listens to me about what I say I'm doing and will provide alternatives. He's never offered an appetite suppressant (even when i thought I needed one) instead he helped me figure out how much I could really eat on 1700 calories a day and consistent exercise.

I'm happy for your success so far, and don't let this quack of a doctor destroy your positive self image and hinder your progress with unnecessary judgement.

Thriceshy

She's a git--reminds me of my own EX-medical professional!

Your blood sugar will show true--eating a bowl of cereal won't make you show diabetic, especially if two hours had passed. Plus, if she did blood work, she's looking at your A1c, and what you had for breakfast won't affect that at all--it's an average, not a glucose reading.

A few weeks ago, my EX-medical professional told me I was lying about how much weight I'd lost. So I totally get where you are here.

I would ditch the script--you're doing this in a healthy manner, and popping appetite suppressants isn't going to be good for you. Even if these things weren't being forever recalled for cardiac damage or kidney and liver damage, fact is, you can't pop pills forever. Better you do what you're doing and make real changes--like you are.

I'm sorry this happened to you. Sometimes I think doctors need new sensitivity chips. Or good smacks upside the head when they act this way.

Kris

Thriceshy

I would be okay with the prescription, though. You can always sell the pills for extra $$$... Certainly you shouldn't take them if you don't want to, nor should you consider the opinion of this doctor to be valid.

Do not sell the pills! One, you could go to prison for selling a script, and two, what if you sell the pills to someone who is then damaged by them?

Not looking to tangle, but please, please don't sell scripts. I'm sure you wouldn't, but it needs to be said.

Kris

Aliena

I'm in the UK and if my GP can find an excuse NOT to give me meds I need they will do. They dropped to dosage of my asthma medication to save money and I ended up ill. We have (for want of a better description) a tax based medical system. Your doctor seems to be throwing meds at you - which presumably you or your insuarnce company pay for. Do you think money may be something to do with this?

Regardless, she should not be prescribing meds of any sort so freely and she should have more regard for your feelings than her money!

Flush the pills and carry on with your healthy regime.

neurochamp

Just to add my two cents, since I didn't see any responses dealing with the fact that this was a college health service doctor (though, to be fair, I didn't read all of the posts thoroughly)...

I had a similar disappointing service with college health services. In grad school I developed severe chronic shoulder problems - I would wake up at night in so much pain that I couldn't sleep for days. During the day I was useless due to sleep loss, and I could barely move one arm or the other due to the pain (depending on which arm was currently acting up).

I saw FIVE DIFFERENT DOCTORS at student health services over the course of about a year. Not a single one of them believed me that this problem developed spontaneously. One even asked me several times if I had gotten drunk and fallen down, causing the injury to my shoulders (because apparently they had seen this problem before after alcoholic blackouts). At this point in my life I had never been drunk - or even buzzed - a single time EVER, so I explained that being drunk could not possible explain my shoulder problem. I don't think the doctor believed me.

Anyway, none of these five doctors really did anything for me. One took x-rays and told me there was nothing wrong. The best they would do is give me a prescription for naproxen or ibuprofen (which only got me stronger pills for cheaper than the OTC bottles of Aleve or Advil).

Eventually the sixth doctor did a thorough exam, and told me she was shocked that none of the others had told me that I needed to get into physical therapy ASAP (like, a year ago when the problem started) because IT WAS MY JOB AND STRESS (common in grad school - duh) that caused the problem in the first place, and I needed to learn exercises to stretch out my back before anything was going to get better. I went to PT for several weeks, and it helped, but it was expensive. My PT told me to consider continuing the exercises on my own and get regular deep tissue massages, which are cheaper than PT 2-3 times a week. I've been getting massages for a few years now, and I try to keep up with my exercises...my shoulders have only flared up 3 or 4 times in the past 3 or so years.


Bottom line: try a different doctor, one you trust that you can see regularly. Some of the doctors at college student health centers see A LOT of students for the same problems over and over again, and they're going to assume that your issues are exactly the same as the last 50 students they saw this week. It can be really tough to get personalized help, and you might end up with a few sucky experiences before you find a doctor that is the right fit for you. Don't take it too personally, you're obviously already on the right track if you've lost so many inches.

bentobee

I am sorry that the doctor wouldn't listen to your side -- to hear that you have been making good changes for your weight and health.

But I HAVE to confess, I'm very glad that the doctor DID bring up weight as an issue. Something that has bothered me a lot since I've started this journey is remembering all the doctors I've been to - four pregnancies with three different OB's, a couple general practitioners and a chiropractor... and none of them EVER brought up the cold hard fact that I was very overweight. Ever. I think that's insane and dangerous. Maybe I would have sobered up and stopped being in denial over my weight had a doctor propped it up as a problem.
So I have to say, while I sympathize with your emotional visit to the doc to have your knee looked at, I am overall relieved to know there are doctors out there not afraid to bring up weight issues to their patients.