Not My Greatest Morning

devildog525

......So this morning at work (I work 24 hour shifts) people decided to tell me that I look too skinny, never mind the fact I just ran a PFT (Im in the Marine Corps as well) and ran my 3 miles in 19 min 41 sec, 18 pull-ups, 100 crunches in 1 min 15 sec. They just decided to tell me I look sick, I look weak, calling me anorexic, then telling me I should see a counselor becuase I have an eating disorder where I decide to eat healthy foods and I dont like junk food. then my wife at the same time decided to tell me that she doesnt find me attractive, and I and I quote "look like a p*ssy" So... I having taken all I can decided to tell them how fat they were and maybe I wouldnt look so skinny if they werent all obese.... completely forgetting where I came from (Ive lost 50lbs) Pretty much offending everyone that I work with.... Including my wife whom I called a fat cow and told her maybe she should work out with me.... and then telling a friend to get his fat *kitten* out of the way or could he not move that far..... Not my greatest moment....

BigAL456

Wow! that was a mouth full! Sounds like you kept all that inside and it kept building up to the point where you couldn't take it anymore.

MindyLynn77

wowwwwwwwwww dude..that IS a bad morning!!! That really sucks, Im sorry! F them ppl tho...if youre happy with you, thats all that matters

DKev

I'm sorry you're having to deal with this. From what I can see, people tend to say these things when they feel intimidated or jealous. Don't let them decide when you are healthy, YOU decide that. My DAD just told me Sunday that I "need to gain about 10 or 15 pounds. You look like a walking stick" Well, I'm sorry. No I don't. I'm almost 5'6" and 130 pounds.....according to any chart you may look at, that's healthy....and most of all I feel great. Chin up!

jtp5184

Its ok we all snap!

And its not easy when you're getting so much negativity for doing something that is good for you. Maybe they needed to hear it may be not...but what matters is that your wife is your family and your coworkers might be friends and at the end of the day these are the people that should stick by you thick and thin...keep your chin up.

MrsRobertson1005

sounds like you've had a bad day. Based on your profile pic you don't look too skinny too me.. Sounds like maybe they were having bad days and too it out on you or maybe they're jealous... not too sure why they said what they did but i'm sorry they said that mean stuff to you. hope your day gets better.

sche1amy

I went to a all girls family party months ago. About midnight a few decided to tell me I don't eat enough, you can see my wrist bones (always could) i don't eat enough, I need to go to a clinic and be locked up, my daughter should commit me ect. All being said by a woman who is 200+ lbs, heart condition, high blood pressure, anxiety ect. I thought WTF...really ? your telling me what is wrong with me!!!!!! Forget them and do not let it bother you. If your happy with yourself and the way you look Good for you!!!!!! Some people just do not know when to keep mouth shut!

sche1amy

I went to a all girls family party months ago. About midnight a few decided to tell me I don't eat enough, you can see my wrist bones (always could) i don't eat enough, I need to go to a clinic and be locked up, my daughter should commit me ect. All being said by a woman who is 200+ lbs, heart condition, high blood pressure, anxiety ect. I thought WTF...really ? your telling me what is wrong with me!!!!!! Forget them and do not let it bother you. If your happy with yourself and the way you look Good for you!!!!!! Some people just do not know when to keep mouth shut!

NicolCook

Sorry you had that experience. It is hard to not get defensive when you are being "ganged up on."

I hope they will all come to realize you are doing this for you and not their approval. It is okay to be healthy.

I am not into the "healthy" BMI yet and I am hearing I need to stop. But, like you, I do this for me.

TwinMamma09

That is a bad morning but just know that you can change things around. It sounds like you had a lot on your chest that you had to get off. Turn that into something positive and hopefully the people around you will understand.

Keep working on your goals and being happy!

Crystal_Rudolph

......So this morning at work (I work 24 hour shifts) people decided to tell me that I look too skinny, never mind the fact I just ran a PFT (Im in the Marine Corps as well) and ran my 3 miles in 19 min 41 sec, 18 pull-ups, 100 crunches in 1 min 15 sec. They just decided to tell me I look sick, I look weak, calling me anorexic, then telling me I should see a counselor becuase I have an eating disorder where I decide to eat healthy foods and I dont like junk food. then my wife at the same time decided to tell me that she doesnt find me attractive, and I and I quote "look like a p*ssy" So... I having taken all I can decided to tell them how fat they were and maybe I wouldnt look so skinny if they werent all obese.... completely forgetting where I came from (Ive lost 50lbs) Pretty much offending everyone that I work with.... Including my wife whom I called a fat cow and told her maybe she should work out with me.... and then telling a friend to get his fat *kitten* out of the way or could he not move that far..... Not my greatest moment....

Wow! I am so sorry for your bad morning! As far as your co-workers go--just ignore them, they might just be jealous. As for your wife and friends, maybe you could show them this post. It might help them understand why you blew-up...also, maybe think about doing somethiing special for your wife??? She might be feeling a little insecure right now. I know that I did for a long time because my husband is so "skinny" and fit.

NicolCook

Wow! that was a mouth full! Sounds like you kept all that inside and it kept building up to the point where you couldn't take it anymore.

Great progress btw!!!

RedTulipps

I woke up with swollen lymph nodes and find it hard to swallow. I wanted to throw my phone across the room b/c I couldn't eat toast. Seems like you're morning is much worse!! Hope it gets better!

I laughed at the fat comments you gave to others. I think about calling my obese cousins fat when I get criticized for dieting/working out. I always hold it in. I'm sure you feel awful, but sometimes it's good to say what you want!!

Also, great work on the running! That's amazing. You look great in your little picture, keep up the work!

aflane

In 3-4 weeks, they're all going to tell you that you look great. There's something weird about weight loss. Your body has to "settle" into it's new, improved configuration. But in the meantime, you look a little out of kilter, hence the anoerexic comments.

At nearly 100 lbs down now (with 130 to go), people keep asking me if I'm feeling alright. I haven't "settled" yet.

randa_behnam

clearly these are uneducated people. if they had a clue about how to stay fit and healthy then they wouldnt have reason to judge you, they would understand that your doing all the right things and they way you look is correct for the effort youve put in.

harsh words from the wife....sounds like shes just bitter cos shes not doing much to shift her extra pounds.

keep going. your doing brilliantly

overit

Wow! Definitely sounds like a rough morning, but we can only take so much criticism. They are just jealous and your wife may very well be too. My husband is in the military and I know I can get jealous of him when he can drop his weight and I am just sitting here struggling with each pound I lose. Great job on the PFT and for taking the action on your own to lose the weight. I know many military members that just stay overweight and don't bother with trying to fix the problem. Your command should be more than pleased with you. And if you look anything like your profile pic now, you seem to be at a healthy weight.

ChellieT

I've lost 32 lbs in the last few months.....people are like congrats! Are you being healthy??? Isn't that too fast???? you should slow down etc etc. I've finally just said look, I cut out the crap, I am eating healthy, I eat when I am hungry, drink when I am thirsty, work out and am loving it. You're still stuffing your face and sitting on the couch. Who in this scenario isn't being healthy.

Noticed too that this kind of thing always comes from people who I assume are feeling like they should be doing something too. Why is it that people feel threatened by these life changes??

Juliejustsaying

It is hard to stay on track and stay positive and loving when you are faced with so much negativity. I'd say there is a lot of jealousy going around. But you really only have to please yourself, and it sounds like you are very happy with your progress and the way you look. I'm sorry they aren't more supportive, especially your wife. For what it is worth I think it sounds like you've done an amazing job.

Try to formulate some neutral responses that aren't so hurtful for when this happens again, and it probably will. Something like "I'm sorry you feel that way," or "Really, I think I'm doing great." and then walk away. Don't give them any reason to say to themselves, "see he really is in bad shape, or geez, see how mean he is" etc.

Have a better day, think of doing 3 miles in 19 minutes, that is amazing and should make you proud, and maybe even smile...

fitnessbekhs

Bad days happen. But remember that these people still think of you as the you who had an extra 50lbs hanging around. It'll take a while for them to get adjusted to the new you. And remember that you can be an inspiration to them all as well.

It sucks that you blew up because it's impossible to take that back. But they also need to know that "constructive criticism" is a two way street. If they can dish it out, they should be able to take it. I remember the first time my husband called me chubby. I was appalled and PISSED!! But it was also an eye opener....and now I'm striving to be healthier because of it.

You're doing great for yourself...so don't let others beat you down with their jealousy!

Gigi_licious

Funny how people have no problem showing concern that someone is "too skinny", but they don't say a word when you're shoveling a whole large pizza, 12 pack of beer, gallon of ice cream, and a bag of Dorrito's down your throat. Chin up! If you're healthy and happy with where you are, that's what matters!

CaptainAmerica1970

Wow, first lets say nice numbers on your PFT. great job, next, thank you, to you and all your Boyz for serving our great nation. third, perhaps others will mock what they don't understand. and yes, you and others who are healthy fit are not normal. Yet, healthy as to what nature intended. remember normal is what the average person is or does, (that does not make it right). hence forth, as we as americans get heavier so does the normal weight or even the appearance there of. lets remember this your PFT numbers did not change to cow tail to the masses. The standard never changed thats why only 1 in 4 americans are even able to qualify to be considered to enter the military, peoples values and views have. Finally, with your wife, perhaps a little encouragement, positive motivation, feed back, assistance and educational material will help. She is a reflection of you, how you treat her will reflect off of her. She is your crown, She is your help mate.

NewVonnie

Funny how people have no problem showing concern that someone is "too skinny", but they don't say a word when you're shoveling a whole large pizza, 12 pack of beer, gallon of ice cream, and a bag of Dorrito's down your throat. Chin up! If you're healthy and happy with where you are, that's what matters!

I agree totally. When I was eating crap and not exercising no one said a word. I've only lost 15 and have like 80 to go and I'm already hearing " dont lose too much you dont wanna get too skinny" " you'll not keep it off if you deny yourself, eat something" Seriously!!!!
You are doing fabulously!!! Keep it up and know that we are all here for you. This is a great place to vent and receive encouragement. As long as your eating healthily and exercising there is no problem. Sorry you're having a crappy day..And I know you're a guy but * hugs* anyway...lol..chin up

27strange

Tough break. The best thing to do is take the high road and apologize. It seems pretty ignorant all those coworkers picking on you like that, from your pics it looks like you are doing well and are fit. Could be a jealousy thing or a self-image thing these people are dealing with. Be good to your wife and be a motivator. I have learned also that nothing is worse than the husbands comments to the wife. I have accidentally been mean before about weight comments. Its harder for them to lose and takes longer. Our comments mean the most or break them down the most regardless of what we say, especially when it comes to weight and the way our wives look.