Annoying Lil' Neighbor

DimenaZhena

I was trying to put my 3 year old down for a nap because she obviously needed it today. Well, with close success, the doorbell rang 5 or 6 times followed by a thousand knocks. Usually I open the door, but I was a little upset at the lack of consideration going on. It's our 10-year-old neighbor that does this and comes over to play with the girls. (I get frustrated because she needs to find children closer to her age. My girls have learned a few things from her that I am not in favor of.) But she continued to ring the doorbell over and over and over and knocked irratically. I didn't answer because I was so upset. My husband goes on night shift every 6 weeks and she wakes him up with the knocking and the doorbell. (I turn off the doorbell, but prefer to have it on when I'm not within hearing distance of knocking.) I don't know what to do. I know I should say something, but I don't want to end up coming off as "the mean lady" lol.

gobigorange2916

I think you should definitely say something... to her parents. If you don't, it's only going to get worse.

amymt10

You really need to say something to the girls parents. Just politely explain about nap time and your husbands schedule.

ejmcam

My friend had the same issue with her neighbor....she had to finally tell the little girl that she could only come over if she saw the kids outside, because otherwise they could be sleeping. If that doesnt work, I would tell the kids mom.

sblair77

Talk to the parents and post a note on the door...maybe you can paint a cute little sign you can hang out there when someone is trying to sleep

bunchesonothing

Have you explained it to her?

Only go to her parents if you've explained it to her and she still does it. No need to get the girl in trouble.

It's frustrating, but kids don't always get the hint. You have to be direct. A kid will keep knocking for a good, long time if you don't intervene.

Kelleyrh5

You wont come off as being mean, but you should definately talk to her mom and just let her know your situation. I would think that if she had any sense then the mom would understand. I had to do that a time or two when my girls were little. Good Luck

FaugHorn

Wonder if a "do not disturb" sign would work Whenever it's up (there could be a code) then she shouldn't knock!

Of course not wanting the kid over at all then you should talk to her parents and explain that you'd prefer more age appropriate mates for your kids

superstitious

Id just open the door... and tell her to rack off. Its not polite for her to keep doing it. You will be doing her a favor and teaching her a valuable life lesson.

yaddayaddayadda

I would speak to the child and explain that if you don't come to the door after one ring or knock that you are busy with the baby or in the shower. Sometimes when you treat a child like an adult, and you expect them to behave appropriately, they rise to the occasion.

If it doesn't work, then go to the parents. Hope it works out for you

jamie1888

My girlfriend made a sign & hung it on her front door. Something like.... "Sleeping Child! Please knock gently & do not ring doorbell". Thank you!

poedunk65

talk to her parents and tell them straight up. A 10 year old should not be playing with such a young baby.

sunkisses

We used to live in the one neighborhood where there were 8 boys on our street all within the same age range. I never heard the end of the friggin' door! I made up an 8.5 x 11 sign in a page protector with a string to suspend it from the door knob that read: "Do Not Knock or Ring the Bell - we are resting. Come back later. Thanks! " That worked.

donbet69

1. Pitbull
2. Taser
3. Moat
4. Quicksand

All are effective.

ProudMomoftwo

My kids are 13 and 10 now but when they were smaller and still taking naps, our door was OFF LIMITS.
I had neighbor kids wanting to come over and play and eat and all that at all hours.
If it wasn't the neighbors, then it was the delivery guy. ( ack!)
Finally, I decided to get on my computer and make a sign. It was a happy sign and colorful.

KIDS ARE ASLEEP - PLEASE DO NOT RING DOORBELL
PLEASE KNOCK ONLY ONCE
IF NO ANSWER, PLEASE COME BACK LATER
FOR ALL DELIVERIES, PLEASE LEAVE THEM ON PORCH ( unless a signature is needed, then you may knock)
THANK YOU

It didn't take long for the kids to learn that if the sign was on the door - they didn't come over
When the sign was down...there they were...lol

bunchesonothing

On a further note, what you probably have is a lonely kid. For whatever reason, she feels like your kids are good playmates. They might not be suitable, but she's reaching out for what she can. And @ 10, how can she have the kind of foresight to know that she's being a nuisance unless she's told the rules. I know it's frustrating, but give the kid a break. She probably means well.

Angie80281

1. Pitbull
2. Taser
3. Moat
4. Quicksand

All are effective.

Hahaha, that's awesome!

NewVonnie

1. Pitbull
2. Taser
3. Moat
4. Quicksand

All are effective.

LOL..hysterical

donbet69

1. Pitbull
2. Taser
3. Moat
4. Quicksand

All are effective.

LOL..hysterical

I do not condone these items as 10 year old little girl repellents.

Make a nice sign.

DimenaZhena

She came over again so I opened the door and explained the situation to her nicely. I hope she understands and follows through. I will still make a nice sign to hang when it's not a good time to knock or ring the doorbell. I understand that she's not doing this intentionally, but I also have to think what's best for my family. Thank you everyone for your input! You've been a tremendous help!

bakebunny

As the mother of a 9-almost-10 boy who doesn't get subtle clues I suggest:

First, talk to the girl and tell her that there are times when your kids can't play with her, and make a signal between the two of you to let her know when that is.

Next, make a sign for the door for those times when knocking and doorbell ringing is not what you want.

If you know where she might find kids her own age, try talking to her parents and say off hand that you think she might be happier with doing X, where the other kids her age are.

If she forgets your signal after posting your sign and a gentle reminder, you need to talk to her parents and let them know she's having trouble remembering social rules... which is a sign that she could need help due to Asberger's Syndrome.