When you are too embarrassed to make your diary

Rae6503

public, something is wrong with it.


::looks in mirror::

Raine7

hmmmm..... now isnt that an interesting sentence!

TinaS88

I don't think so.
I have mine open to everyone, but some people choose to remain more personal... nothing wrong with that.. it's nobodies business what someone else is eating JMO.

juliapurpletoes

:laugh: is that why yours is not?

teanabean

I don't think so.
I have mine open to everyone, but some people choose to remain more personal... nothing wrong with that.. it's nobodies business what someone else is eating JMO.

I agree!

SueInAz

I have to agree that if you're keeping it private or "fudging it" to make it look better that might indicate an issue. Even if that issue is just that you only THINK you aren't doing it "right." A lot of people here will tell you they make it public specifically because it makes them more accountable.

I keep mine available to friends only. There are plenty of people here who will pick a diary apart because you don't eat they way they feel is "proper." I've sadly seen it happen time and time again.

anthony438

Nope - Mine is private due to a lack of self-confidence

jrueckert

I agree!!

1FitMomof4Girls

I always wonder why some folks keep their diaries private too. I am curious how/ what others eat, so I can get ideas!

SarahLovesCheesecake

:laugh: is that why yours is not?

How rude. Your comment is incredibly disrespectful, you should apologise immediately.

mmiiaa

I don't see the point of keeping your diary private. If you're like 1000 calories under, but people can't see and congratulate you anyways, that's not good. If you're somehow barely under by just one calorie because you added 2 minutes of dancing for that second you were acting crazy with your friends and actually ate crap all day, but people can't see it, people will still congratulate you and that doesn't deserve congratulations anyways.

I'm not against it being private, but I just disagree with it. The point of this site is so that we can help and motivate each other.

That being said, a friend of mine has hers private, and she says it's because she eats a lot of foreign food that no one would understand anyways. *shrugs*

infamousmk

I hear that. I hated putting the McDonalds in that I ate the other day - but I have it viewable to my friends because I figure I need the accountability. My MFP friends aren't going to hate me for eating McDs, they'll understand that sometimes, you just need a double cheeseburger.


Now make your diary viewable so I can see YOUR McDs (or whatever.. )!

pricetm83

I don't think so.
I have mine open to everyone, but some people choose to remain more personal... nothing wrong with that.. it's nobodies business what someone else is eating JMO.

Completely agree. It is not ANYONE elses place to tell someone else about their diary unless they are asked for their input. Worry about yourselves and the friends you choose to have on here who invite you into their space.

kitinboots

If someone wants to view mine, they can add me as a friend.

katschi

Nope - Mine is private due to a lack of self-confidence

This from a guy who's jumping off a platform in to thin air! lol

kathrynkatana

From someone who recently changes from private to friends only. I did it because I wanted to feel accountable to someone else and to get encouragement when I needed it. I think that the whole point of mfp. But even when you do keep it private it better to make it honest, helps to let you know how you are really eating. It surprised me how much I was eating when I started to actually make a note of it. It's something that I think you have to look at yourself. It can still be darn helpful to keep a diary even if no one sees it. And the support on the sight is going to be useful as well. Keep it private or open it up, it up to you. We are here for you.

anthony438

Nope - Mine is private due to a lack of self-confidence

This from a guy who's jumping off a platform in to thin air! lol

Yeah, but that happened due to a lack of self-control - Entirely different problem

Rae6503

Yeah, this post was totally about me....

I've been having a hard time with will power lately. I know I'm not doing things "right", so I'm embarrassed. I should make it public and hold myself more accountable.

Other people may have it private for other reasons. But for me, it's because I'm too embarrassed. I am making it public RIGHT NOW.

anthony438

Yeah, this post was totally about me....

I've been having a hard time with will power lately. I know I'm not doing things "right", so I'm embarrassed. I should make it public and hold myself more accountable.

Other people may have it private for other reasons. But for me, it's because I'm too embarrassed. I am making it public RIGHT NOW.

You're a braver person than I :flowerforyou:

pricetm83

Yeah, this post was totally about me....

I've been having a hard time with will power lately. I know I'm not doing things "right", so I'm embarrassed. I should make it public and hold myself more accountable.

Other people may have it private for other reasons. But for me, it's because I'm too embarrassed. I am making it public RIGHT NOW.

You have a lot more guts than you think you do. Posting about your embarrassment on an open forum is no small feat.

Rae6503

But don't judge me today, though. I am going mountain biking and will burn at least 1000 calories and need the energy. Okay, you can judge the frosted mini-wheats and the latte...

katschi

Yeah, this post was totally about me....

I've been having a hard time with will power lately. I know I'm not doing things "right", so I'm embarrassed. I should make it public and hold myself more accountable.

Other people may have it private for other reasons. But for me, it's because I'm too embarrassed. I am making it public RIGHT NOW.

OHMYGAWDLOOKAWAYLOCKUPTHEKIDSITSTERRIBLE!!!!

just kidding! :happy:
Cheers to you for getting back on track. :flowerforyou:

melsinct

I finally decided to go public - I am happy I did!

justavoice1989

i dont think its wrong to keep it private! when i add a new friend and their diary is on private i just send them a message mentioning that it might benefit them in the future to have it public to friends or something so that way if they are in a rut we can give some insight, no judgements =]:flowerforyou:

nicolerah

I thought about it when I first joined.. Wondered if people would question what I ate! But as I went along, I realized that my friends need to see what I eat so they can help me along if I go on the wrong path!! I havent been going wrong often, so I mainly leave it open to friends so I can be held accountable!! It really helps!

almonds1

locked with a key.... password is 1111
I dont care

mine is messy....in a sense I put food in randoms spots so no I dont eat steak for breaky!!! lol

cdish5

just noticed we are around the same size with similiar goals. i started at 138 and have lost 6 lbs. my goal is 125 but has plateaued and can't get passed 132. what are you doing for excerise?

jeninne

Nope - Mine is private due to a lack of self-confidence

This from a guy who's jumping off a platform in to thin air! lol

Yeah, but that happened due to a lack of self-control - Entirely different problem

And you are very brave. What an awesome jump

newgal1

Why do you have to see another person's diary before you can eat right? I eat a lot of plantain, cassava dough and other ethnic foods. Are you going to look for these and start eating them too? In my opinion if you want food tips go to the food and nutrition threads or if you like a person's physique and want to follow their diet then ask them for tips. People get a bit too obsessive about things.

Rae6503

just noticed we are around the same size with similiar goals. i started at 138 and have lost 6 lbs. my goal is 125 but has plateaued and can't get passed 132. what are you doing for excerise?

Are you talking to me? My goal is 145. But I do Turbo Fire and mountain bike occasionally.

Hollycat

Sorry if this sounds harsh, but what goes in my mouth is, quite frankly, nobody's business. Period. I don't peruse other people's food diaries either. If I want someone to see my food diary, I will verify their reasons first. Basically the only reason I would let anyone see my diary is if they were completely clueless as to what to eat and in crisis because of it AND I knew them personally. Idle curiosity is simply not enough of a reason. I am surrounded by nosey people and have been persecuted for what goes in my mouth all my life. It's never good enough. It's never the 'right' thing. It's not the right amount. It's not 'healthy' enough. It's not the right 'balance' according to this or that guide. There's too much protein, or too much fat. There's too many carbs. Basically, it's not what 'they' would eat.

I am not inviting that kind of scrutiny or comment from anyone in the near future. I"ll choose my own critics. Besides, I don't know anyone on this forum from Adam. I am of a generation that does not particularly want their private actions spread allover the internet. And what goes in my mouth is private. I am here to use the log for myself and my own education and to get and give some support and ideas through the forum. If I need specific food advice, I may ask a specific person on the forum whose advice in the past has seemed reasonable to me. Those that have lost significant amounts of weight and believe in moderation come to mind. I will not open my food diary up to debate or risk uninformed criticism in order to pacify curiosity. I'm just not going there. My choices are just that. Mine. They're based on the understanding and willingness I have today. Those are my boundaries and I've just given enough of my reasons for them that I don't feel the need to defend them further.

For the record, my typical day looks like this:

B - eggs & veggies in a burrito, fibre shake with Omega 3, berries, 1 diet coke every other day [my coffee substitute]
S - apple or 100 calorie snack
L - light lunch - fajita or chicken salad sand
S - orange or sun chips [my weakness]
D - steak, potatoes, grilled veggies, salad
Snacks in the evening, lots of them...100 cal popcorn, sun chips, hot chocolate, iced tea

I don't really care what anyone thinks of it. I'm losing weight eating this way. If I feel the need to 'improve', I will.


Hollycat
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