I sure dont feel 45 pounds thinner

Ilovepeppers

I'll keep this short.I've lost 45 pounds and although others seem to notice a difference, I kinda don't. I mean, clothes fit better but... I still feel very fat.

Could this be because I had a lot of weight to lose to begin with? Or because I'm tall (5'9)? I've gone from 245 to 200. Will I notice a more dramatic difference as I work toward my next goal of 175? I'm not sure if this is the right section, so please forgive me, but I'm looking for input/experiences as I'm feeling a little discouraged.

alifer

I've lost 23 (183-160). Since you see the changes everyday they aren't as noticable to you. For me there was one day that I walked past the mirror in the locker room and thought - "who is that, oh it's me."
I often still wonder if I have really accomplished anything, because I still see myself as being fat. Looking at pictures of before and after can be helpful also.

jenkamac

I can sure see it in your photos!! I'm sure you'll start to feel it more as time goes on. For the time being be happy that clothes fit better, other people see it and you're a lot healthier!

Frappuzzino

I think we all feel that way, just because we see ourselves every day and don't notice the little changes, but others who don't see us every day notice.

sexforjaffacakes

I sometimes cover up the full length mirrors in my house unless I'm gettin ready for a big night out, so I don't stare at myself every day. Then when you do look in the mirror you'll deffo notice the difference (:

Taliko

When I first started losing weight, I think i'd lost 10 lbs maybe... when I asked how I looked I had a friend (now EX friend) tell me, "Nobody notices when you take a couple buckets of water out of the ocean."

She was a **** lol.

However, in my experience, the farther along you get the more difference a few lbs seems to make. Even if you're not noticing so much of a change now, stick with it! You'll get to that point I swear it!!

I might add that even though i've gone from a size 16 to a size 6 there are still days I feel like I look horrible, sometimes one's perception of ones self isn't always realistic. I'm sure you look fantastic.

Stick with it. Don't be discouraged! Good luck!

Shadowcasting

I'm 5'9", started at 250, and I'm at 210 now. I know exactly how you feel, because I feel similar! I can see a difference, but I guess I thought 40 pounds would make a HUGE difference! Other people notice now, but it took about 25 pounds before there was even a hint that people could see a difference. I75 is the weight I was for most of my adult life up until about 4 years ago, when I ballooned, so I know that I look MUCH different at 175 than I do now at 210.

Hang in there! I think you'll start to feel it soon. I think the smaller you get the more difference a little weight makes!! regardless, I think you look wonderful!! You've done a great job, and you should be proud of that!

jowans2004

Maybe now that you've lost weight, your expectations are higher? I have lost weight, but I am always striving to improve as my standards go higher and I am able to do more. Do you also do strength training? If you only do cardio, you end up with a smaller version of your previous body...strength training helps to shape it up and make it tighter. Good job on the initial weight loss, you are definitely headed in the right direction...how about looking at some of your before and after pics? Oftentimes we are ignorant of our progress, and pictures help to make it clear that you have made some changes. If you were overweight for a while, your mind is probably stuck at that time period..I know for myself since I was overweight most of my life and still felt fat and uncomfortable yet I was definitely in a different body. Mind and body need to come together..it takes time, you can do it.

merriemouse

I think it is common to run up against that, since we may always see ourselves the day our brain took a photograph and said "Holy *kitten*, I'm fat". Told my husband just the other day that now, after losing 32 pounds, I am within five pounds of the first time years ago that I thought I was fat at this weight. All relative. Keep up the good work. This site will help you get there. Love it. Good job!

Rach911

I feel the exact same ways most days. I too have lost just over 45 pounds and still feel fat. I was one who never quite understood how people who lost a lot of weight and look fabulous can say they still feel and look fat to themself, until now. I think it is a mental thing. I KNOW that I've lost weight...my clothes are proof. I can mow the yard now and not feel like I'm going to die. I FEEL healthier, however I still see fat. Mentally I have to learn that I'm not fat anymore. Yes, I still have a ways to go before I hit my goal, but I'm getting there.
One thing I've done to help me out, is I have posted a picture of me at my heaviest next to a recent picture of me. This helps as a visual reminder that I am getting thinner and I'm not the puffy blob that I used to be :laugh:
Good luck!! Keep your chin up and keep on going! BTW, you do look GREAT! It shows in your pictures!

fitniknik

I feel your pain! I still see a chunker in the mirror even though I look a lot better than I did! Yesterday someone said "wow you just keep getting so skinny" and actually Im up like 6 lbs!! I think its going to take a long long time to see youself as you actually are! No longer fat!!

tramaine81

Hey! I understand what it is like to want to "feel thin", but chasing after a feeling is sort of unhealthy (like anorexics want to "feel thin", too). I know you want to lose weight, but maybe you should just make daily goals, like calorie or new exercise hobbies your high point. I understand that "feeling thin" is something you want, but you have to realize thin and confident is not always synonymous and I think what you really want is to feel confident. Work on feeling "confident" by doing things that really matter so when you are thin, you don't have to play catch up with your self-esteem. However, I bet you look great now and there are a lot of people (including me) who are proud of you. So hopefully, you will get to the point that if you reach your daily calorie and exercise goal, you will feel "great", no matter what. Write down a list of things that make you feel great, in the meantime. Hope this helps.

ZenMomentum

Hi Peppers,

You look awesome keep it up. Our own perception of our bodies can be very misleading. Trust the compliments you are getting. From your photos I can definitely tell you are loosing weight. Keep doing what your doing. Continue to eat nutritiously and exercise. Keep being honest. Have faith in the plan. Above all, don't listen to your inner-pessimist!

--Dave

tara4487

Wow i feel the same exact way! i also lost 45lbs and still feel fat i went from a sze 18 /20 to size 12/14 evertone tells me how great i look and im fine where im at now i just dont see it you look great good luck!

slieber

Okay. Go to the supermarket and pick up 45 pounds' worth of potatoes (the bags usually work). That would be about what you have lost, probably both in size and in weight.

Amazing, isn't it?

TheBraveryLover

Omg, you are preaching to the choir! Like you, I've lost [40] pounds and I can't tell. Like you, again, I'm 5'9", others notice, clothes no longer fit, etc. but I just feel it should feel and look more obvious in the mirror! All I can suggest is to keep up what you're doing and you'll eventually get to your goal and then it'll be obvious to yourself.

But again, I 1000 percent feel the exact way you do. Add me!

Jorra

I know EXACTLY how you feel. When I look in the mirror, I still see a fat girl. Occasionally I'll notice my waist is a little smaller, but I've still got a huge belly, thighs, and arms. I can't wait for the day where I can say without a doubt I look different!

MeganSWoods

I definitely feel the same way! I think you're right on both counts-- being taller (I'm 5'10") and starting very heavy (I started over 300lbs) both affect it. As a tall person, each pound looks like less because it is stretched out along a bigger surface.

bisky

Wow, I can tell in that picture you have lost weight. Your face is so much thinner. I have only lost 17 lbs and don't see it either YET. My rings are a bit looser. My husband tells me I am more toned looking but I have a long ways to go.

marji4x

I know how you feel somewhat and it sucks :C

But don't get discouraged! I haven't seen a dramatic change yet but the other night I turned off the main light in my room and the lamp on my bedstand was still on and it threw shadows across my chest and I could see my collarbones! That is a FIRST! I don't mean they stick out dramatically but they used to be completely hidden in fat ;D I've also gone down a pants size so even if I can't see it, the evidence is overwhelming

There's probably a lot of little things you don't see. Keep at it! I think you're probably right that the results will be more dramatic now that you've hit 200

p.s. I see a big difference in your face from your profile before/after pic! It's much slimmer!

craftykimmer

You CAN see it in your pictures! I think it's like someone else already said, you are seeing yourself daily so not noticing the change. Good for you! Keep it up, you will start to see it.

geekymom57

Okay. Go to the supermarket and pick up 45 pounds' worth of potatoes (the bags usually work). That would be about what you have lost, probably both in size and in weight.

Amazing, isn't it?

That is so true! Whenever I feel discouraged by the amount I've lost, I envision the same amount of butter, shortening, etc. When you look at even 5 pounds of butter and thinking of losing that from one's body, the amount takes on a whole new significance!

slainger

I'll keep this short.I've lost 45 pounds and although others seem to notice a difference, I kinda don't. I mean, clothes fit better but... I still feel very fat.

Could this be because I had a lot of weight to lose to begin with? Or because I'm tall (5'9)? I've gone from 245 to 200. Will I notice a more dramatic difference as I work toward my next goal of 175? I'm not sure if this is the right section, so please forgive me, but I'm looking for input/experiences as I'm feeling a little discouraged.

Wow-this could be me talking! I am 5'8" and have gone from 255 to 205 in less than 5 months. People are constantly telling me how thin I've gotten, but I just see my fat thighs and stomach. I know I am wearing smaller clothes and can see some differences, but I still think I look fat. Right now my goal is also 175 too. I am large framed so that is just a little more than what my goal should be, but right now that's what I'm aiming for. I'm not feeling discouraged, but all the comments feel false to me because I know I still have a ways to go. Keep up the good work and I'll do the same!

LolasEpicJourney

I know how you feel. My highest was 315 and now at 253 I dont FEEL like i have a huge difference. I keep wondering when it will make a difference to me. I was looking around today (i was at a music fest) looking at all the shapes and sizes - wondering - when will i feel 'thin enough' or 'fit enough'...

mamagooskie

First on congrats on losing 45lbs!!!!

My weight loss is highly noticable (obviously I can't shed 143lbs and not have it be be noticable) but I still have days that I feel fat and flabby.

I think as you lose more though you will notice it more. For me I lost 50+lbs before it really started to make a difference, as you get smaller the changes come quicker.

freefalling83

Wow, I thought I was the only one who felt this way. I'm 5 8 and am down 26.6lbs and am not seeing the difference! Glad to know there are others out there who are in this boat with me!

Wanting2BSkinny

I think you look great. You can definitely tell a big difference in your before and after pics. I definitely understand how you feel though. I'm 4"11 so any extra weight on me definitely shows. I'm down to 126 but still see the 160+ person alot of the time. No one judges us as harshly as we judge ourselves. You're doing great though. Keep up the good work

soonersgirl

When I first started losing weight, I think i'd lost 10 lbs maybe... when I asked how I looked I had a friend (now EX friend) tell me, "Nobody notices when you take a couple buckets of water out of the ocean."

She was a **** lol.

However, in my experience, the farther along you get the more difference a few lbs seems to make. Even if you're not noticing so much of a change now, stick with it! You'll get to that point I swear it!!

I might add that even though i've gone from a size 16 to a size 6 there are still days I feel like I look horrible, sometimes one's perception of ones self isn't always realistic. I'm sure you look fantastic.

Stick with it. Don't be discouraged! Good luck!

well, that was rude of her!! that would have really upset me....glad to see you stuck to it and are doing great!

manda2980

Sometimes it's all in our head I think. I have lost 120lbs and somedays I still feel as fat as the day I started. It's a very hard thing to overcome. When you have been this one person for so long and have accepted the way you look, the change can be very scary and hard to accept. Just don't give up, you do look great, so believe it when people tell you that.

BobcatGirl110

I think we all feel this way and I took the advise of those on here who said to do TWO things....pictures & clothes. I kept taking pictures and I lost each 10 lbs. You will hit a point where you put them side by side (especially awesome when you try on something you wore religiously when you first started this!!!!) and can FINALLY see in your mind's eye that you are looking different. You will get there...take the pictures...you will be glad you did!

bobbi_jo2

Congrats on your loss so far. I'm sure there is a difference though it can be hard to see it on ourselves. We are our own worst critics. One thing I have noticed with my own weight loss is that the closer I get to my goal, the more dramatic I see the results. For example, I couldn't see much difference from when I was 200 lbs to 175 lbs. But the difference between 165-150 has been huge and I can definitely tell.

Just keep working, take pictures, take measurements and one day it will hit you how awesome you look. Good luck!