Anti-Motivation effects

dez_yaoichan

We've all been there. We're feeling great, down 5 pounds, and just so happy about being able to stick with it! Then some idiot comes along and calls you fat...

Yeah, just what we needed, right? Now we've eaten anything we could find because, hey, we're fat and might as well enjoy it right?

So not cool people! We can't do this to ourselves! We all know it'll take FOREVER to lose that 5 pounds, but only ONE DAY TO GAIN IT BACK!

So now when I meet one of these idiots and they want to call me fat, I look them in the eye and calmly say:

"I'm the one who has to dress myself in the morning, you think I don't know how I look?"

For me, if I let them know that I'm not afread of how I look (I may not like it but I'm not in denial) then I can face their comments and not lose control. Because if I lose control and gain, it's letting them win. And I'm not going to let some idiot, whose mamma didn't love enough so he has to make other people feel bad, WIN!

Ritamas2

I am in love with this post....That's it exactly, I have always told my kids
that when someone has to put you down when you know that you are doing your best,
then #1 They are jelous, or #2 they didn't get enough love themselves and have to make
others feel as bad and miserable as they are, Misery loves company!!!!!


Well said young lady :flowerforyou:

ashlinmarie

It's great you can feel that way! I am my own worst enemy. I work my butt of and not look any thinner and not see any results on the scale and then I go hang out with my skinny friends and resign myself to the "fat friend". I thought moving home would be good for me because I wouldn't have to worry about bills or money and have less stress and more money to spend on healthy food, but I just want to pig out and binge because my family and friends are ALL skinny and they didn't even see me at my biggest, so I just look 30 lbs heavier to them as opposed to 50.

dez_yaoichan

I work at McDonalds, it's not easy to eat right and work so hard just to meet my 2 pound goal at the end of the week. I used to let them get to me, but I just can't do that anymore. They aren't the ones who have to live with tthis body, I am. They can't tell me anything about how I look, that I haven't already seen.

I know what I look like, I know what I need to work on, what to fix. And anything they couldn't say, can't be half as bad as what I've already said to myself.

One thing I have found (in my own mother no less)

When people start to see how you're changing, they won't say anything good. My moms favorite thing to say is "Why do you want to lose weight, you're beautiful at the size you are now" My mom is 5'2" and 110 pounds.

To anyone who is skinny, that sounds like she's nice and is supportive. But to someone trying to lose weight, they know the truth- it can really bring you down. And I used to let it, until I realized something very important.

Skinny people who have larger friends trying to lose weight become scared! They feel threatened that you, the fat friend- always second best to them- will out shine them!

And the knowledge that my success scares them, only makes me happier!