Why is it that....

Avalonis

The most unhealthy people in the world are telling me that they are "Worried" I am getting to skinny.

Really? I am a VERY healthy 16% Body fat, nice muscular tone, and I am athletic and feeling great. But simply because I don't eat 2 cheeseburgers, a hotdog, and 5 servings of doritos, washed down with a 6 pack of Mountain Dew, I am "getting too skinny".

This woman from my office told me that. Granted, shes at least 250 lbs, and I've never seen her eat a vegetable in the 3 years I've worked with her.

Hello? Don't these people realize the difference between a healthy body weight and anorexia? And besides... it's not like they are in a position to judge me... even if I WAS too skinny.

/end rant.

A woman from my apartment complex told me I was too skinny as well, but I was ok with her saying it. Cuz' she's smoking hot (although a tiny bit chubby), and it sure is easy to overlook rude comments when they are smoking hot. Yep, I said it.

bunchesonothing

No, people often don't know the difference.

Italiana_xx79

You don't look too skinny at all.... well, based from your photo ..... :happy:

MiNiMoNkI

I get this all the time now, im putting it down to jealousy. I weigh 115llbs ish, and am 5,2" i still have "meat on my bones" i am far from too skinny. "dont lose any more" is all i get, i just laugh, i know im healthy!

melsinct

I think people have a distorted view of what "too thin" actually is, especially when so many people are overweight. Kind of like how you lose sight of what a real portion of food would look like if you dine out a lot.

ninerbuff

Because most people don't really want to see others succeed where they fail. It's natural.

rubyrenga

Ugh, that's annoying. Well, look at how many people are overweight or even obese, and how normalized that has become because it's so prevalent. Maybe compared to most of the people around you, you look "too skinny," but you can rest assured that you look great and your body is healthy and strong!

kgagnon7779

Their perspective is just really skewed. Their "normal" is not normal, therefore, you look anorexic to them. I think slightly chubby, smoking hot lady was flirting with you.

SarahofTwins

Because most people don't really want to see others succeed where they fail. It's natural.

Exactly....thats what others have said to me. That I'm already skinny enough but the thing is...I want to be healthy as well. You've done great and don't let that get you down :flowerforyou:

LoveleeB

They are just jealous.. I would brush it off because clealy you are healthy, and hot and they are just unhappy with themselves. Some people consider themselves experts in areas they have no business even talking about (i.e. that woman at your job). Just keep doing what you're doing! :-D

Rilke

I think people have a distorted view of what "too thin" actually is, especially when so many people are overweight. Kind of like how you lose sight of what a real portion of food would look like if you dine out a lot.

I think this is exactly it. Unfortunate

thetrishwarp

I think "too skinny" is really synonymous with "too much smaller than me." It's quite sad. Neither of my parents can believe that I was ever obese because they thought I looked "just fine," when in reality I had a BMI of 30.5.

cameralinds

My BMI is three pounds away from being "healthy" (coming from the "overweight" side though BMI is a bunch of crock because it doesn't measure BF%) and I get comments about being a "stick" all the time, from people that are a larger size than I am, when really, I am not. It's even more frustrating having the same sex tell you things like that because they're supposed to get it, right? Either way, I understand this....

kje2011

sigh, I hear ya!
I especially get that from my (unfortunately unsupportive) mother. I love her to pieces!!!! but I wish she would think that I am trying to eat healthy and be healthy too.
Good luck on your weight loss journey!

JessPaul93016

I don't know what is worse. People telling you, you are too skinny, when they obviously don't know what that means. Or in my case, a family member tell you that you need to start losing weight because it's becoming a problem. And that was after I had told them that I am currently down 40lbs since starting this journey. In the end, people are idiots.

sunkisses

Because most people don't really want to see others succeed where they fail. It's natural.

This.

And if the person is someone you deal with closely, they are probably also having trouble dealing with the uppage in your confidence. I don't know if it's the same for guys, but for women, many of us have ridiculously low self esteem when we're overweight, and we let people talk to us however they want to, we don't stand up for ourselves unless someone's REALLY out of line, we partake in other people's bad habits, etc. But once we start to lose weight, it becomes threatening because our confidence goes up. We start to see ourselves as worthy of something better. We're not going to lunch at Denny's and sucking down a Lumberjack lunch with our coworkers or lighting up a cigarette on breaks with them. They see us as acting "too good" for them when we're just trying to avoid temptation. Stuff like that turns into comments like "I'm worried about you getting too skinny." What they're really worried about is the fact that you're a different person to them now.

djkymba

I think "too skinny" is really synonymous with "too much smaller than me." It's quite sad. Neither of my parents can believe that I was ever obese because they thought I looked "just fine," when in reality I had a BMI of 30.5.

I kind ot think this is it too. I don't really want to believe that everybody out there is hatin' just because someone else is succeeding where they failed ( or haven't even tried)...I just think they think they are fine, so therefore you were fine too.

Sweetcheeks278

I get this all the time now, im putting it down to jealousy. I weigh 115llbs ish, and am 5,2" i still have "meat on my bones" i am far from too skinny. "dont lose any more" is all i get, i just laugh, i know im healthy!

Me too. I am far from being too skinny and I get that alot now. 135 and 5'6. Healthy BMI but def. not too skinny. It is ALWAYS from the people that I know are secretly jealous bc they want to lose too but haven't found the motivation. Brush it off and know that you have done it the right way and you look great!

skinnywithin

I will make it real clear for ya ok

the answer is JEALOUSY !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

keep doing what you do because you are looking HOT !!!!!!!!!!!

Thriceshy

Hello? Don't these people realize the difference between a healthy body weight and anorexia? And besides... it's not like they are in a position to judge me... even if I WAS too skinny.

Indeed. In fact, I'd go so far as to say that none of us should be judging anyone else on their appearance/size. We shouldn't even be judging the lady at work who is heavier than we think she should be and has never eaten a veggie in our presence. After all, I weigh 302 lbs, and precious few have seen me eat a veggie, though I actually eat a lot of them.

Judging folks for their appearance/size isn't good, and it goes both ways.

Kris

Rilke

Because most people don't really want to see others succeed where they fail. It's natural.

This.

And if the person is someone you deal with closely, they are probably also having trouble dealing with the uppage in your confidence. I don't know if it's the same for guys, but for women, many of us have ridiculously low self esteem when we're overweight, and we let people talk to us however they want to, we don't stand up for ourselves unless someone's REALLY out of line, we partake in other people's bad habits, etc. But once we start to lose weight, it becomes threatening because our confidence goes up. We start to see ourselves as worthy of something better. We're not going to lunch at Denny's and sucking down a Lumberjack lunch with our coworkers or lighting up a cigarette on breaks with them. They see us as acting "too good" for them when we're just trying to avoid temptation. Stuff like that turns into comments like "I'm worried about you getting too skinny." What they're really worried about is the fact that you're a different person to them now.

I agree with this too -- and this too is a shame. I am so thankful for those who have stuck by me and cheered me on during my weight loss -- quite a few of them even taking tips and getting healthier themselves! I feel that I am *more* myself now that excess weight is not lowering my confidence and keeping me in my shell.

brattyworm

from what i've seen of your diet, your workout, your knowledge of healthy eating and lifestyle... and most definitely your body you look great....

don't worry about what she said... and maybe thats harder to do since apparently you hear it more then you like, but you're not doing this for them.. well except maybe the slightly chubby hottie,.. you're doing it for you

anthony438

Because most people don't really want to see others succeed where they fail. It's natural.

^ This

ShaeDetermined

sigh, I hear ya!
I especially get that from my (unfortunately unsupportive) mother. I love her to pieces!!!! but I wish she would think that I am trying to eat healthy and be healthy too.
Good luck on your weight loss journey!

ditto on that.
my mom has been known to call my cell incessantly when she knows i'm working out and leave me nasty messages saying "could you atleast call your mother back". I know she means well, but telling me i'm getting too thin and that i'm obsessed with exercise is just not productive.
especially now that her eating has really spiraled out of control.

Avalonis

I think slightly chubby, smoking hot lady was flirting with you.

I can always hope, I can always hope.

tramaine81

LOL! That is too funny. You don't look skinny, you look normal and in shape. Yeah, I understand. Just imagine being a girl and have girls even SKINNIER than you tell you that you are too skinny and that they are extremely worried. This coincidentally happens when you start getting a lot of attention from the opposite sex....go figure.

Avalonis

Hello? Don't these people realize the difference between a healthy body weight and anorexia? And besides... it's not like they are in a position to judge me... even if I WAS too skinny.

Indeed. In fact, I'd go so far as to say that none of us should be judging anyone else on their appearance/size. We shouldn't even be judging the lady at work who is heavier than we think she should be and has never eaten a veggie in our presence. After all, I weigh 302 lbs, and precious few have seen me eat a veggie, though I actually eat a lot of them.

Judging folks for their appearance/size isn't good, and it goes both ways.

Kris

Touche, I stand corrected. You have a very valid point. It IS her life, she can F*** it up any way she wants to I suppose.

cessnaholly

Yep - my mother actually told me that my goal weight was WAYY to skinny for me. I'm 5'4 and should be about 140. I don't think that's too skinny. It is healthy.

Not that I'm even close. I'm just sayin'

tramaine81

That sucks. you should tell them that you are going to see a therapist about your "disorder" and you need money to pay for the sessions and since they care so much could they" help you out". Or tell them that you agree and ask them if they would like to exercise with you one day. Watch them stutter.
After they decline...and they will because naysayers always decline to help when they could actually benefit someone, tell them that you appreciate their verbal support, but if that is all they can do, you could live without it......
Hopefully, the next time they say something crazy, they might think twice.

kimmerroze

We also have to remember two things (which I think contribute to these comments)

1) the average womens pant size is a size 14-16 (I believe) so the average person is a LOT heavier than what is deemed healthy because of this, anyone that is below the average is no longer "average" they are now on the "skinny side" so it is more natural for people to say that we are getting too skinny, because according to the average (be it healthy or unhealthy) we are below average.

2) people are used to eating fast food, high processed, terrible food. And we have been for years and years now. So someone who eats extremely healthy is going to look wierd, and obsessive, and a tad out of control.


Its all in what we are used to... If eating healthy and being at a healthy weight was the norm or the "average" people wouldn't be so quick to judge.