Gaining weight after marriage

itisjessdarling

I know everyone talks about gaining weight after marriage I just didn't think it would happen to me. Within the first year I gained 15lbs.. Now 4 1/2 years in I've gained around 40 lbs! I know I started gaining by matching my husbands portion sizes and we were going out to dinner several times a month. Im sure im not the only one. I would love to hear from other people in the same situation.

rileymama

Yep! We would grab McD's and eat junk while sitting around all weekend, until we had kids and theyt made that impossible..but we still ate bad and didn't move enogh....we are now changing that 6 years in, and turning our lives around, for our kids and ourselves!

amyford25

I have the same story. I've gained 37 pounds (with fluctuations!) since I married my husband of 7 years. I just started this on Monday and it seems very doable.

Msaip

I know everyone talks about gaining weight after marriage I just didn't think it would happen to me. Within the first year I gained 15lbs.. Now 4 1/2 years in I've gained around 40 lbs! I know I started gaining by matching my husbands portion sizes and we were going out to dinner several times a month. Im sure im not the only one. I would love to hear from other people in the same situation.

Def happened here...BUT i got pregnant two months after being married so that had everything to do with it. It's gonna take effort but you can do it!

Beebs33

I definitely did the same thing. I'm not sure the exact weight but the first year I packed the pounds on. I was about 25 lbs heavier than what I was when we first met. He has gained as well but both of us have lost almost 20 lbs each now. It is tough but definitely doable to lose those "marriage" pounds. I finally saw what I looked like and I was really unhappy about it. Now I feel a lot better and am looking better too.

YukonJoy

Yep! Not married but living with a guy. Gained over 25lbs. It's eating what he does and drinking a lot of alcohol

Rogiefreida

I totally did the same thing! Except we're not married (we are happily unmarried after 4 years, lol). But seriously, during our first 2 years together I did the exact same thing. I matched his portion sizes, we went out to eat a lot, we drank a lot (oh, and did we ever drink a lot. I impressed him with my ability to drink as much as him :drinker: ).

It took a while for me to take action about it, but I decided that enough is enough and started working out and watching what goes into my mouth, and the "hubby" has followed suit, and now we are a lot healthier together!

lil_missfit

I gained 40 lbs my first year of marriage. I also became a mom in my first year of marriage so adjusting to mommy hood and wifey hood worked a double wammy on me. I am now at the weight I was when I got married. I think I may be 5 lbs lighter. You can do it!!! MFP, supporting friends and determination is the key!!! Good luck!!!

KatiePeca

I gained weight after marriage too, and babies bring their own weight too. Best to get on top of it now and not have to deal with a ton of weight later.

Good luck!

Katie

fmbarbuto

I know everyone talks about gaining weight after marriage I just didn't think it would happen to me. Within the first year I gained 15lbs.. Now 4 1/2 years in I've gained around 40 lbs! I know I started gaining by matching my husbands portion sizes and we were going out to dinner several times a month. Im sure im not the only one. I would love to hear from other people in the same situation.

Right there with ya! 14 years of marriage and 2 kids (boys) later - my 40lbs came back! I just told my oldest son last night - "Yeah when I met daddy I was 125 lbs and gained 10lbs of "happy fat" and I thought I was fat back then!" LOL

My hubby is using MFP and I really don't want to know what he will lose - he's been the same size since i met him! He loses weight 2 times as fast as me too and it pisses me off!

Happy to join you on your weight loss journey! I'm all about staying motivated and truly love to give/receive support - it's a motivater itself! Feel free to friend me if you'd like another.... :flowerforyou:

bluebelle00

Yep, same here. I think I gained about 25 lbs in 2 years after getting married (that doesn't include what I gained when we were dating/engaged!) It's still hard to make myself eat different portions than him. One thing I do that helps when I make dinner at home is to keep a separate portion back to have as lunch the next day.

jaded_rose

I got married in May of 2010, by August I gained 7-11 pounds (I weighed 181.) when I went to the doctor's for a physical. I had to go again last month and I weigh 159 according to his scale.

poesch77

This happened to me....met my hubby and was 185lbs.....not too long after that I was 220lbs!! Then found out I ws pregnant 1 week after getting married.....so much for losing weight then! Thought I could "match" my hubby on eating with his super metabolism!! Now after almost 7 yrs of marriage and 2 kids later time to get back to it!! So I know exactly where you are coming from!!

CaraRadz

My husband and I moved in together a year before we got married. In the first six months of living together, I gained nearly 30 pounds. He gained about the same amount. We were eating out a lot, having huge portion sizes, and getting fast food more often than I'd care to admit. I don't know what happened, but I guess we just got comfortable and lazy.

This past December, we both decided that we had had enough. Our wedding was coming up, and we wanted to not only look our best but also to just feel better and be healthier. We joined MFP together right after Christmas and haven't looked back! We've both lost more than 50 pounds and have kept up this lifestyle since our May 28 wedding.

As much as we both contributed to each other's weight gain in the first place, we have since been critical to each other's weight loss success.

dragonflydi

Congrats on realizing and recognizing it with only a 40 lb gain. I lived with blinders until I'd gained well over 80 ... which I have since lost (and then some), but I am also no longer married either.

You've recognized it early enough to focus on it and get it under control before the issue becomes a much bigger one to deal with That right there is over half the battle! Best of luck.

MistyDC29

Relationships and pregnancy seem to be the most fattening things around! Congrats on figuring it out now and doing something about it!

beckyinma

I guess we just got comfortable and lazy.

YUP! That's what it is...

itisjessdarling

Thanks everyone! Glad to know im not alone. I am so happy to have found this website the support from everyone is super encouraging!

TonyaJ83

Yep yep that's me!! We married at age 18 ten years ago. I was a size 7 when we first started dating. A size 9 when we married. A year later an 11, then a 13 and that's where I've been stuck for 9 years! I'm only 5' and should be about 110 lbs. I'm currently 154. I got up to 160 at my largest. But never grew out of my 13's. I just told myself that would be the end of the world. Once I got down to a 9 again, but it was short lived. My hubby isn't athletic and hates exercise. He also eats a lot. He's gotten much better recently though....

fitnfun1

I've gained 20 pounds in 5 years with my fiance. I think I'm finally learning that I need to follow my own guidelines for portion control and how often we eat out. I also do say no to the alcohol sometimes too. I figure that with all the hard work, 100-300 extra calories per drink is not worth it.

The good news is, I think it will help him to lose weight too (same deal with him), and we will save money with eating at home instead of going out.

The more we can match good habits with them (and not the bad habits) the better off everyone will be.

neurochick

i totally know what you mean! for me, it was a combination of the alcohol, our mutual sweet tooth , and of course the fact that we are epicureans of sorts, totally brought out my domestic goddess instincts after getting married. Resulted in my gaining 8 lbs over 6 months. he is much bigger than i am (i am 5 ft 2 in, 126lbs, and he is 6 ft 1 in, 230lbs)... plus he likes his couch

really trying to get back on track with calorie counting and a doable, regular fitness regime, hard to make the time and muster the motivation to go out and burn some calories when i'd raher just nuzzle up next to my man on the couch.. . any tips are appreciated!

cupcakecutie1985

I have been so down in the dumps lately, and reading this post has made me feel so much better!!!

I have struggled with weight all my life... 4 years ago when I moved back home from school, I surprised everyone with some weight loss! I was at about 190 when I moved home, down from about 250! Met my husband at work and got really comfortable really fast! Between living with gross roommates, and Ray living about 1.5 hours away, we spent a lot of time eating at restaurants and just huddling up in my part of the house! Then we moved in together and the happiness manifested itself in beer, bbqs and other assorted deliciousness! Before I knew it, I had gone right back to 245! What a bummer!
Then came the proposal! I had a year and a half to get some results! I dropped down to 185 with great muscle definition and was feeling good...still not at goal, but looking much less plump! Here we are...6 months post wedding and I am teetering on the edge of 200 again at 198...a promise I had made to myself that I would never again be in the 200's is about to be broken!
I have been trying to get back into the groove but i always seem to find an excuse! This past week I have gotten serious again! I am pushing aside all my complaining and just excluding no from my vocabulary for a bit! I struggle with weekends, so I feel like all my good work during the week is compromised, but that will be my next goal! if I can lose weight, I need to at least slow the gain!!!!
I try and get some Jillian Micheal's dvd goin in the AM before work (which has proven to be more difficult this time around) and rock some cardio with my new pup after work! My first weigh in on Thursday so I am really hoping to see some results! Thankfully my weigh in is before my Vday dinner out with Ray!

So, all in all, I with ya, and everyone else that commented! Here's hopin that habits change, motivation stays high and enthusiasm strong!!!!

ryblueeyes

Yep, same thing happened to me. I lost about 30 lbs. for the wedding, but gained it all back and then some. Did I mention we've only been married a little over a year and a half? Yikes.

Timshel_

I did the same and have been off and on between losing and gaining weight.

PS - When you have kids it gets even worse!

But everything comes around and you can certainly not follow the general rule of thumb.

kdz526

I think once we moved in togther and got married, i gained a total of 40lbs, and I was not a light weight to start with. However, after each of the kids i settled lower then my top weight pre kids. I think I totally got comfy and had the side thought of no one else will find me attractive if im this big kinda thing (which is silly but i do think that was one of my subconcious reasons to hold onto the weight). I'm down to the weight I was when I first met DH pre-dating, but am only halfway to where I want to be. He's pleased with my progress and compliments me often and is very supportive. Now hes complaining about his winter time weight gain (which happens every year but soon as it gets nice out hes all doing stuff and loses it). I find it amusing in that every time in the past i put on weight or was pregnant, up i would balloon and he would lose weight. Now that I am losing weight, he seems to be finding it.

jenfoxjercha

Yep this is totally my life. My husband is 6' and weights 165lbs. He eats anything he wants to eat and doesn't gain a pound. I think I could just eat whatever he was eating. He didn't seem to care or say anything. I know I am smaller than when we got married but not yet to the size when we met. I am alot more fit than I was then though.

JUDDDing

Our deal, IMO, is that we both come up with GREAT ideas.

Me: Want some cheesecake?
Her: duh!

~ Next night ~

Her: Want some cheesecake?
Me: duh!

If it weren't for each other - we'd only have half the GREAT ideas we have together.

When you have kids it gets even worse!

Not for me. My kids expect to share in the goodies - so there are now less of them to go around. It was ok when they were younger - now that the youngest is 8 - you kind of have to scramble or you miss out.

Goodbye_Thunder_Thighs

I've been with my partner for 15 years and in that time I packed on 35kg. 2 kids before I was 18, bad eating habits and no exercise and that weight really crept on at first. Then I sort of didn't care and more weight piled on. Then depressed about the weight which led to comfort eating and even more weight.

Now I'm serious about losing this weight and changing my eating habits.

fitgirl4x48

After I moved in with my now fiance, I started eating crap that I would never have before. He had hotdogs, I had one. He had a milkshake, sure! Pass one over! It was a way to hang out together. Yep...found myself feeling super un-sexy, flabby and miserable. I used to be pretty fit before him or at least under control while not living together. But now ~~I'm kickin *kitten* and working out 5 x week. He's starting to see a difference and he's thinking about joining me....but until then, I am going to keep my goals as my own.

He started with a fit, sexy girl, I'm going to get back to that!!