Feeling bummed but understanding is dawning....

dawnw30

Ok, so if you look at my ticker you'll notice I have lost a bit of weight. I am really happy about the amount of weight I have lost but just am going through the "blahs". Every so many pounds lost my body has done a kind of "shift" in where things go and what they look like and right now I am just mortified at what it is doing. The first shift was the belly fat changing into odd shapes. I totally get why it did it and I rolled with it (pardon the pun for there were indeed rolls!) but it was ugly. Now, while I am excited that I am looking kinda slimmer with my clothes on I am freaked out about the state of the naked me. The last place women tend to shrink is the tummy, butt, thighs and the dreaded batwings. That is exactly where it gets really ugly - really fast. My tummy has gone down very considerably and I know it may never be the same - especially after 5 kids...but it is just making a very ugly flap of skin. I do see it shrinking upwards - slowly. I do believe it will get better...but for now it is freaking me out. The rolls down my sides are gone and the extra butt cheeks are gone...but I'm not 100% where I want to be. I know it is because I am not done losing and toning....I KNOW THIS - in my heart but my eyes see this body at this time and I want to cry. I am embarrassed to be in front of the hubby naked so I just avoid him. It just bums me out that while I have lost so much weight the person I see in the mirror is odd shaped and just funky looking. It may sound silly but it just really gets me down. The only people that understand this is you - my MFP friends - so I felt like I needed to unload and get this out. Thank you for giving my the opportunity to do so!!

LaurieEReid

I hear you. One thing I would say is not to project these feelings on your husband. I may be disappointed with the shape in the mirror but he's says it's like making love to an entirely different body. Give your hubbie a chance to show his appreciation for how far you've come.

ptheders

Maybe wearing spanx during your transition would make you feel sexier? Or some sexy lingerie? Its hard not to obsess over things like this, but try to just focus on how great you're doing!

You're working incredible hard and making huge changes and THAT is sexy!

WiiFitFan

Congratulations on the loss of 73 pounds!! Fantastic. I understand your frustration on the "rolls" though. It will get better. My guess would be that you need to really concentrate on the exercise. Both aerobic and strength. Weight training will really help tone, but it takes quite awhile to see results. Hang in there. You can do it!!! And you will!

Pineapples

You've come a long way.. just a little more patience and a workout routine change will improve all those areas. So hang in there.

dawnw30

Thank you guys! I guess I just feel weird because when I was fatter I was fatter all over. Now I have "skinny" legs, arms and face yet this huge looking gut, thighs and underarm fat...it's just a shock I think. It makes those areas seem more pronounced and its a shock to look in the mirror. I know the hubby thinks I look alot better but I can't get past what I see. Hopefully as I continue this journey and get down to where I want to be I will feel better about how far I have come and I will look better too. I appreciate your comments...I just needed to hear a bit from others about this to appreciate the situation a bit more.:flowerforyou:

Brownski860

Dawn, I've said it before and I'll say it again... YOUR A ROCKSTAR!!!!!!

You work so hard each and every day to make this transformation. Be proud of a little batwing!! LOL
We will never be "perfect". I'm sure you'd rather look like this than where you were 73lbs ago.
Allow hubby to enjoy your success too. Let cuddle time be HIS reward for being your biggest cheerleader!

Keep up the great work, proud of you girl!!!

sparadise

It can be hard to believe that our spouses feel attracted to us when we are not comfortable in our own skin. He LOVES you regardless. You are going a great job and very dedicated to the process. This is just one more step of that process. Keep up the good work. Your body will continue to change along with your confidence level. Kuddos on all your hard work!

jenniefromtherock

Just take a deep breath and wait for your skin to catch up with the weight loss. You have lost a lot of weight in a few months, weight that took years to put on! Your skin needs time to shrink back. Moisturize often!