Should I start dating??!!!

dawndelicious

So I've been separated from my ex for over a year and divorce will be final next month. Kids are with their dad all summer and pretty weird being on my own. 13 years of always having someone around, and bam I'm alone, is a hard adjustment. Don't get me wrong, having some me time is definately nice. I think we always want what we can't have - the quiet when the kids are running around driving you nuts and in my current situation (summer alone) I want someone around cuz I cannot get motivated to get anything done. What is that all about!!??

Schwiggity

Human nature: We want what we don't have, and when we get it, we don't want it.

realme56

Human nature: We want what we don't have, and when we get it, we don't want it.

Exactly!!!

Maybe just look at casual dating, no pressure stuff just find something you like to do or want to learn and join a class or group. My daughter has made some great friends of both sexes by joining a hiking group and dancing classes. She found her BF by going to a shooting range alone on her birthday. I run into people when wine tasting. I am not looking to date though, I have too much going on and really love my alone time.

TheMaidOfAstolat

Sounds as if you're just lonely. Don't jump into dating quite yet. Look into a local activities group...for singles, couples, all ages...ect. Here is one near me... http://atlanta.outdoorclubsouth.com/
See if you can find something similar where you are or just find a club that you would be interested in. Do stuff for yourself first...then look for love.
I was divorced in February of this year (after nearly 11 years together) and I am dating again...however it's not overly serious yet.

AshDHart

Like others have said just get out in some social groups without the pressure of dating. meetup.com has groups in a wide range of interests. Might find something you like there. It's free to join they only charge if you want to put up a group. :flowerforyou:

AshDHart

Like others have said just get out in some social groups without the pressure of dating. meetup.com has groups in a wide range of interests. Might find something you like there. It's free to join they only charge if you want to put up a group. :flowerforyou:

Dtho5159

I agree with the others!! Id be lonely too if my kids were away from me for even 1 night haha! I seriously would look into some kind of activity to keep you busy and if something happens, it happens.

FitJoani

all good suggestions here from the fine folks at MFP..I would lean towards the just go out and make new friends/casually date. Dont look for forever because it could be a mistake to jump in. If it happens to be the one big thing..then go with it. Other than that..live it up

runner328

I've only been separated from my hopefully soon to be ex-husband in March (he told me the day before my 39th b-day) & we'd been together almost 15yrs. It's weird being single. I have people rushing me to date but it literally makes me nervous to think about it. lol. Plus all I seem to be attracting is guys in their 20's. I've already had someone going though a mid-life crisis I don't want to sign up for another! Not to mention I am really enjoying being on my own & not having to entertain/cater to someone else. Except my 17yrs old step-daughter!!!

keb80

Human nature: We want what we don't have, and when we get it, we don't want it.

Story of my life...

Why don't you just try dating but keep it very casual for now, until you're ready for something more serious.

runner328

Human nature: We want what we don't have, and when we get it, we don't want it.

Story of my life...

Why don't you just try dating but keep it very casual for now, until you're ready for something more serious.

I wish my idea of keeping things casual was the same as the guys!!!

sunkisses

So.......... you think you're going to give dating a shot or no?

I think that after just a couple of dates you'll be loving the fact that you're single and will welcome your empty house with open arms.

california_peach

It is only natural that you are to to feel a little alone. You are used to not being alone. I say have some fun with it. Do what YOU want to do! Try and get out and meet people or find something you like to do alone. I am stay at home mom who is only alone 6 hours a week. It was odd for like 2 seconds and then it was fun.