secret bad food behavior

lilwashee

so its really bad lately , i have been eating lotsa sugar and hiding it from everyone ..im so caught up in how everything tastes and makes me feel ...i will be in the car doing errands and eat a bunch of crap b4 my hubby sees. i know im failing how many out there have done this and how did u stop?

pittsblue99

I have done this too so I know the guilt that follows. Eating in the car became a normal everyday occurance for me for a long time because I was driving almost 2 hours to work and another 2 home. Have gum in your purse - you could even try carrying several different flavors so you feel like you are making a choice of what to have. Emerald 100 calorie packs of almonds and Ocean Spray 100 calorie packs of crasins make a great snack as well. If you have a small insulated bag, put some carrot sticks in there - they are crunchy and help satisfy hunger as well. Being honest with yourself helps too - you know that you do it so you know that you need to stop as well. Stay strong - we are all here for you

AmaraLynn

I'm still working on that myself. Weekends are the worst for me. I'm going to see a therapist Tuesday, hopefully she'll give me something to help me stop. And maybe if I keep posting what I'm actually eating, no matter how scary the calorie results, it might help.

But good luck. I totally know where you're coming from.

rdainer

I'm with you - been there and done that and you feel terrible afterwards. I also like having sugar free gum like ice breakers ice cubes with me all the time - it keeps me chewing so its like I ate but I didn't....it helps a lot.

Kalrez

Ugh, I do the same thing. Before MFP, I would sneak snacks often. When making dinner, I would cram myself with chips & dip. Since I started using MFP, the urge is still there. But I try to be truthful to myself in my nutrition log. That helps me keep on track most of the time. I'll admit that there has been a day or two where I just didn't log my binge snacks. I didn't want to admit it, ya know.

It's a hard battle. Good luck to you!

jean1058

I don't think this is that uncommon (if everyone was truly honest), I have "sneaked" food. I have been spending a lot of time trying to listen to my body. When I think I want some kind of goody, what is going on around me? Am I stressed? Am I bored? Am I frustrated with something/someone and don't feel up to a verbal sparring? Personally I've noticed my weakest times are when I'm tired. So, maybe you should look at how you feel BEFORE you eat that sugary thing (or fried something, etc).

The truth of the matter is we can NOT be trying to change our habits for anyone else, so hiding our behavior is really kind of a waste of time. Afterall, WE know what we are (or are not) doing to get healthier. I think that is why I come to this website... to see that my pattern is not out of the ordinary, AND to get support from people who really understand the battle.

The aftermath of eating that one (or even ten) thing(s) is also a bad habit I need to break. WHY is it so terrible for me to have a brownie? What is the penalty for eating potato chips? Beating myself up with guilt afterward is counter-productive. It is kind of a self-sabotage that says "SEE? I really am a fat lazy person with no self control or discipline. I will never be successful".
BUT, is that really the truth? Overweight, yes. Lazy, I doubt it. Self control? Well I think I need to work on that area, but I DO have discipline, and I CAN be successful. We just need to choose it OVER AND OVER AND OVER until it is our new habit.

I'm with you on this one.... let's stop sneaking around and be accountable ONLY to ourselves. What do you say? Sound good?

lilwashee

thank you guys good to feel im not out here alone,unfortunatly i hide my eating becuz i dont want to disapoint my hubby or for him to say anything to me about it ..he jst wants me to be healthy and not sedentary..last night i was so horrible i was at a concert and i ate tons of sugar on the way and then there and also after ...i was sick well im hypoglecemic sooo it was bad and each thing i put in my mouth i talked to my friend about how stupid and horrible it was but i still kept eating ...this whole thing is sooo hard and the crazy thing is i am studying to be a nutriiton specialist and i sooo know better then this arrrgghhh

Jill_newimprovedversion

the greatest freedom for me was confessing this to my hubby. I did not necessarily tell him how bad it was, or how much I consumed, but the fact that I hid food or binged when he wasn't around.
It did surprise him- and I did preface it by saying, " I NEED to tell you something, but I NEED for you to think VERY carefully before you RESPOND to what I'm about to tell you."
He was WISE....his only reply was, " you REALLY 'hide" food? I'm so sorry you felt you needed to do that."
It's not as if the weight I put on as a result shocked him- Duh....he's not blind.

His support- or apathy- has been and will forever continue to be a great factor in my success in overcoming my food/sugar addictions but I can NOT let that be my stumbling block either. I had to get over my need for his approval- because I need to do this for my health- PERIOD.
The fact that I've faced my demons, and am fighting to overcome them is not only helping me gain much more confidence,
he's much more supportive now- knowing I am doing this for my health, not for him. ( which is what he wanted all along anyhow)

Jill_newimprovedversion

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Jill_newimprovedversion

thank you guys good to feel im not out here alone,unfortunatly i hide my eating becuz i dont want to disapoint my hubby or for him to say anything to me about it ..he jst wants me to be healthy and not sedentary..last night i was so horrible i was at a concert and i ate tons of sugar on the way and then there and also after ...i was sick well im hypoglecemic sooo it was bad and each thing i put in my mouth i talked to my friend about how stupid and horrible it was but i still kept eating ...this whole thing is sooo hard and the crazy thing is i am studying to be a nutriiton specialist and i sooo know better then this arrrgghhh

no one better understands food disorders than one who's been down that road. some of the best counselors are ones who've overcome the addictions themselves...but you can't preach effectively if what you don't practice what you preach yourself. Log EVERYTHING and you will do yourself the most good- every last morsel- every binge. Sometimes you can exercise enough to undo MOST of the damage...and each day is a new start.

SommerJo

I was there too -- I would stop and get burger and fries on the way home -- throw the wrappers in the dumpster before I came in and then cook and eat dinner like nothing. It was nothing for me to mow down a candy bar on my way home. I would hide candy bars in the car so he didn't know I bought them. And then leave them at the office. If someone brought me a dessert treat at work -- I wouldn't bring it home so I could eat it all myself.

And it's not like he would have said anything to me. He's not like that. But I couldn't stand the idea of telling him how out of control I was. When I made the decision to change my eating behaviors -- it was honestly more about the cost of my secret binging and how it affected my family than the fact that I was binging that really pushed me to stop. I agree with the others that keeping healthy snacks on hand might help keep you on the path.

Best of luck to you!!