Venting

healthychic

So I told my boyfriend yesterday that none of my pants fit, (because they don't) partially because I shrunk them, but also because I have gained weight. I weigh 142 and a few months ago I weighed 132. Its crazy how much 10 lbs can add to a small body frame. It really pissed me off though because he said that maybe my legs have gotten bigger. Then when I said, "well I don't think they have gotten bigger, do you?" he says, "Yeah they have gotten a little bigger." He always says things like this that make me feel bad myself. He doesn't say it mean or anything, but still. Maybe I just shouldn't ask his opinions, maybe its my fault? But anywhoo, 10 lbs is really hard to lose when you aren't overweight. My sister gained about 80 pounds this year and she lost it all just from eating better and working out. But it seems that when you get to that "last 10-15 lbs" its harder to lose, or maybe I am just not trying enough. Does anyone feel like this ever? And what do you do to cope with it?

Danielle

healthychic

So I told my boyfriend yesterday that none of my pants fit, (because they don't) partially because I shrunk them, but also because I have gained weight. I weigh 142 and a few months ago I weighed 132. Its crazy how much 10 lbs can add to a small body frame. It really pissed me off though because he said that maybe my legs have gotten bigger. Then when I said, "well I don't think they have gotten bigger, do you?" he says, "Yeah they have gotten a little bigger." He always says things like this that make me feel bad myself. He doesn't say it mean or anything, but still. Maybe I just shouldn't ask his opinions, maybe its my fault? But anywhoo, 10 lbs is really hard to lose when you aren't overweight. My sister gained about 80 pounds this year and she lost it all just from eating better and working out. But it seems that when you get to that "last 10-15 lbs" its harder to lose, or maybe I am just not trying enough. Does anyone feel like this ever? And what do you do to cope with it?

Danielle

ms61840

Hey there. I totally understand what you mean about 10lbs being a lot on a small frame. I am in the same boat and when I hit 140 it was a serious wake-up call....that's when I joined the site. In all honesty, it got to where I couldn't wear 90% of my clothes anymore. If it didn't have an elastic waist, it was not going to make it over my bootie...let alone button/zipper! I am short and have been on the smaller side most of my life. After having 3 babies everything about my body has changed, though. Most people would not call me over-weight, but compared to past, I am now.

So, even though you aren't trying to loose lots of weight, this is still about your self-image and it's good you are doing something healthy for yourself. You need to remember when your bf says insensitive things to you that your opinion is the one that matters. Everyone's body image and confidence should be respected.

allaboutme

All the time. I am same as you, 12 pounds made the difference of my clothes fitting or not fitting. It has taken me three months to lose seven pounds. I just keep going, logic tells me it has to work, my brain just gets really impatient. btw, my thighs haven't gotten smaller, in fact they have grown a bit as I took up running for exercise. They are very firm now, but just a hint bigger than they were before. My butt on the other hand is looking great. I figure even if it takes me eight months to get where I want to be, I know when I get there, I will stay there if I do it right plus I will look awesome because I will be all toned up Hang in there. My husband luckily knows better thaen to give me honest answers when I ask him questions like that Tomorrow is another day, my moods about how I look change from day to day, one day I am completly happy with my progress, the next it totally sucks. But I stick with it, like I said, logic tells me it will work.

Anna_Banana

Part of it could be that you are just getting older. I was very tiny in high school and when I got out it was very hard for me to keep the weight off.

Give your boyfriend a break. I you gained 10 pounds your legs are probably a little bigger, and some men just don't know how to lie to you so they don't hurt your feelings. But really would you rather him tell you the truth now so you can work on the problem, or say something later when you have a lot more to lose. My husband never said anything about me gaining weight. But I sure says something now that I'm losing it.

JessicaT2007

I always seem to have a hard time losing the last 10 lbs too. I will lose a good 5 lbs and then go back. I can never seem to keep it off and go for the last of it. I think part of it is that I am somewhat happy with the way I look and start to slack. I think, "I can not count this day or that" or "I can have this bad thing since I did so well" and then it just keeps happening. Then, before I know it it has crept back on! :explode: :explode:

For the BF comments. I know it hurts your feelings. Some guys are just too honest and have no filter. I know this because this is what happens all the time with the hubby. He has no filter at all. When you ask him a question, you will get his most honest opinion. I have learned that and will only ask him when I truly want to know the answer. LOL. If it hurts your feelings, either don't ask him or let him know not to be so blunt about his answer. It may be hard for him to change that tho. My hubby never could and I just decided to not ask him if I was vulnerable.