Need to change my thinking

jmclowser

I allowed myself to gain weight so I would be "invisible", I had some health issues. I no longer need to be "invisible", but I'm not losing the weight. My health is better now and I want to become visible again, but I've gained so much weight that I'm really embarrassed about it and ashamed of myself. Does anyone have any stories to share, ideas, thoughts etc to help me change my thinking??? Thanks so much for the advice.

Whatnow50

Please don't be embarrassed about anything.... most of us have been on the weight loss roller coaster for years. The important thing is your here where you can get support and continue on. I find logging my food and exercise helps so much and having MFP friends for support. Being honest about it all and facing it helps me. I'm sending a friend request to you if you'd like to be friends. Hang in there and stay in touch!

stormieweather

THose old patterns of thinking...I call them "tapes", which run in my head, coloring my attitude and my emotions. They're coping methods and learned reactions, taught through experience and teachers. The best way I know of to overcome them, is to replace them with new "tapes". Tape affirmations to your mirror, on your fridge, and to your computer. Every time you recognize that you are mentally putting yourself down, STOP...and tell yourself something positive instead.

Ie: I'm too stupid to _________. Change that to: NO, I'm NOT too stupid to ________, I can ask, I can google, I can figure it out, or I can do without. But I'm NOT too stupid to handle this.

Or, I'll never look like that woman over there. Change that to: Wait, I'm unique and beautiful in my own way. There are LOTS of people who like how I look, including me!!

Keep in mind that this journey, of weight loss, is for YOU. When you lose a pound, or 10 pounds, or 50 pounds, then you've achieved something wonderful, for YOU. Pat yourself on the back! You are not alone, there are thousands just like you here, struggling and working their butts off (literally) to lose weight. Every single person on earth has failed at something. Everyone. Everyone has their own demons. Just love yourself and be kind and patient with yourself. You'll get there!