To the Internet!

kathrynkatana · July 2011

Ok, as someone who has been on the internets a few times, I have noticed something that happens on the message board. There seems to be some people that end up getting all bent out of shape about some of the most common things. I can't speak for this community, but I can give some tips from my life on other forums and messages boards.

TIP 1: For the love of all that is holy, reread what you write.
You have no idea how a forgotten comma can cause a internet frenzy. You can also correct spelling and grammar after you type something by hitting the edit post but someone the damage can be done. If you have made such an error, don't be too proud to edit and then explain the edit. Just covering your mistakes may seem underhanded.

TIP 2: Don't feed the trolls
If you are posting something that would just stir up trouble, then don't whine when you find it. If a troll shows up anyway, ignore them and it will go away. You will have to learn to have thicker skin, sure. But it is worth it to get to some real advice. And don't think that there are any corners of the world wide web that doesn't have them. Even the most watched message boards will find them.

TIP 3: Harsh words may not be intended.
As someone who works chat support, I can tell you that sometimes what you think sounds nice is coming across as snotty or mean. Smiley faces in the wrong place can also make things seem sarcastic when that not what you intended. Re read what you think is so awful before going into flame war mode.

TIP 4: Welcome to the Internet
This is a big one, sometimes no matter what you do or how well meaning you are, you hurt/insult/ruffle someone. If you didn't mean to, try to amend, if they won't let you, move on. It is a risk with being on internet. Try not to take it too personal. And sometimes it is harsh, but not trying to insult you. Tough love is most often given on internet forums because you can't tell your mom off but you can tell user462 that they need to shut up and do it! It not always about you when they are commenting.

TIP 5: Get away from the keyboard
If someone really is getting under your skin, walk away. Give yourself time to cool down before trying to resolve any conflicts. Don't just quit because someone (or quite a few someones) told you something you don't like. Take a moment to calm down. If all else fails and you still feel picked on, then stopped participating in the community for a while. No one said you have to have your diary public or say things on message board. These places change all the time and the environment you find toxic now will probably change in a few weeks.

I just thought I'd throw this out there to help anyone who struggle with this sort of format. As a public forum, you will have to face some different views and lifestyles. And I thought maybe some could use some of the advice I've fostered over the years. You can take it or leave it.