need some help...relationship crap...sorry...

beautynthalight
beautynthalight Posts: 167 Member
edited September 2024 in Motivation and Support
umm i have a relationship q....today is our 2yr anni and we had a HUGE fight yesterday and i really havent said much to him...i almost wanna not say anything all day...it was so bad that he slept on the floor...any1 know what i should do? what should i say? i really dont wanna bring up the fight right now...

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  • mariapuhl
    mariapuhl Posts: 529 Member
    "I love you sweetie, happy anniversary" sounds pretty good to me, regardless of a fight...
  • leomom72
    leomom72 Posts: 1,797 Member
    be the bigger person and apologize. as women, it is easier to hold a grudge than step up first, but it's an option..good luck
  • cjsgrimlin
    cjsgrimlin Posts: 246
    "I love you sweetie, happy anniversary" sounds pretty good to me, regardless of a fight...

    Yep, don't bring it up, just move on. If he wants to talk about it, set some rules. No arguing, no yelling, and each must have a turn to listen. It took me and mine 6 years to work that out. Good luck!
  • SunshineKisses_2012
    SunshineKisses_2012 Posts: 471 Member
    I'm guessing "Don't go to bed mad" is out of the question at this point, however, regardless of how big the fight was, and who said what to who (yes, I know, easier said that done), this is the person you have loved for two years. Even if it's telling him you are sorry (even if you don't fully mean it and/or even if you think you are not to blame for any of it - there really are 2 people in a relationship..) and happy anniversary, you'd be surprised at how amazing that can turn the situation around for the better. I hope it gets better and you guys can enjoy the rest of the day together.
  • papastu
    papastu Posts: 737 Member
    "I love you sweetie, happy anniversary" sounds pretty good to me, regardless of a fight...

    been married 22 years this year, right answer to me
  • XBabigrl72
    XBabigrl72 Posts: 88
    Be the first to apologize. It doesn't take much to say you're sorry and mean it. You get better at these things with time.
  • BobertC
    BobertC Posts: 123
    "I love you sweetie, happy anniversary" sounds pretty good to me, regardless of a fight...

    been married 22 years this year, right answer to me

    add a hug to that :)
  • ceschwartz
    ceschwartz Posts: 240 Member
    Put it aside, admit that you guys need to talk about the issue, but for today focus on the reason why you got married in the first place. Make sure you tell him.
  • lsd007
    lsd007 Posts: 435
    "I love you sweetie, happy anniversary" sounds pretty good to me, regardless of a fight...

    been married 22 years this year, right answer to me

    add a hug to that :)


    ^This.
  • Diamonds_R4_Ever
    Diamonds_R4_Ever Posts: 42
    All relationships are difficult, friends, dating, family, and yes marriage. Been married over 21 years, some days we just don't like each other. Notice I said LIKE not LOVE. I'll always love him, even when I can't stand him ;). When you are in it for the long hall you find a way back.

    Where do you want this relationship to go? When you answer that question honestly, you'll have your answer.

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  • AlsDonkBoxSquat
    AlsDonkBoxSquat Posts: 6,128 Member
    Seems to me that you broke our cardinal rule #1: never go to bed fighting. It needs resolved.
  • songbyrdsweet
    songbyrdsweet Posts: 5,691 Member
    "I love you sweetie, happy anniversary" sounds pretty good to me, regardless of a fight...

    been married 22 years this year, right answer to me

    add a hug to that :)


    ^This.

    And a kiss! And make it a good hug!!! :smooched:
  • songbyrdsweet
    songbyrdsweet Posts: 5,691 Member
    All relationships are difficult, friends, dating, family, and yes marriage. Been married over 21 years, some days we just don't like each other. Notice I said LIKE not LOVE. I'll always love him, even when I can't stand him ;). When you are in it for the long hall you find a way back.

    SO true. I've realized that with my bf. We have been friends for 4 years and know each other very well. We've loved each other for a very long time. We've only been dating 3 months (today!). We are in a long distance relationship until November, and it's hard! A couple times we've really wondered if we made the right decision because the distance sucks sooo much, and every day is not the fairy tale romance we expected (we are both big daydreamers). But even if we get frustrated with each other, we don't stop loving each other, and we don't stop telling each other about it either! You just never know what will happen. Make your time with him count.
  • azeria
    azeria Posts: 527 Member
    Disagreements are bound to happen in any real relationship. The secret is not to give up and to keep on talking. These difficult moments in ajny relationship can bring you closer as a couple. Talk with your heart, and say it with love. Communication is the key to any relationship.. but to truly communicate there is no yelling or screaming. It requires a lot of listening and some honesty. Remember that time heals all wounds... your anniversary is special! Celebrate your accomplishment!
  • LorinaLynn
    LorinaLynn Posts: 13,247 Member
    It depends on your personality and tone of voice, but I'd say something like, "It's our anniversary, dammit. I don't want us to fight or be mad at each other. So happy frickin' anniversary, you *kitten*!"

    (But '*kitten*' is a term of endearment with us.)
  • Dtho5159
    Dtho5159 Posts: 1,054 Member
    Im not sure how Id react, as my hubby and I always work out our fights before we go to bed that same day and we've been married 7 years and together almost 9. Id definitely talk to him.. Apologize if need be, I know I have to be the first a lot of times, otherwise we may still be in a fight lol.
  • PecanTanDiva
    PecanTanDiva Posts: 162
    It depends on your personality and tone of voice, but I'd say something like, "It's our anniversary, dammit. I don't want us to fight or be mad at each other. So happy frickin' anniversary, you *kitten*!"

    (But '*kitten*' is a term of endearment with us.)

    Mine is something like LorinaLynn's comment....I have been with my Husband for 12 years and married for 9 of those 12 years. We used to go to bed angry in the early stages of our relationship, now either Him or myself say something crazy and we are back the way we were. He will say " Get over here, then he will say something from the TV show Martin, which is always funny OR I will say "I HATE YOUR FACE", from my favorite movie Grandma's Boy and we will laugh, kiss and hug and its over...Its more fun to make up then to be mad at each other, I have learned this from years of experience :bigsmile: Have a happy anniversary Hun!!
  • Learnin2LuvMe
    Learnin2LuvMe Posts: 465 Member
    Yes,humble yourself and apoligize,even if you dont want to. If it gets brought up,just tell him that you rather talk than fight and that you want to enjoy the day with him.its not worth arguing. Happy anniversary:)
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