HATE MY BODY! Article *very good read!*

Fitness_Chick

HATE MY BODY!

Sunday, 09 November 2008

Yep, there're lots of men and women out there who use that very sentence
about themselves when they send me an E-mail. Oh, they don't use adjectives
like "dislike," uh-uh. They always use the word hate! They tell me about
all the areas of their bodies they hate since, and get this, I'm talking
about after they have lost a substantial amount of weight!

You know when you're overweight and feeling down, you sometimes walk over to
a mirror and stare at yourself in your birthday suit. As you look at your
body, you begin talking to yourself about the way you look:

"Everything on you is fat! You've really let yourself go. Just look at
your legs and your belly. I just hate you!"

"Oh look at you, you're just disgusting! Everything on you is fat! You've
really let yourself go. Just look at your legs and your belly. Turn around
a little and take a look at that fat back of yours. I just hate you!"

Then you get so alarmed by that vision of yourself, you decide it's time for
you to lose weight. You get your measuring cups and spoons. You join a gym
and you're suddenly really pumped up to lose the weight and change the way
you look.

Now get this. I received an E-mail the other day from a lady who had lost
90 pounds. But she still wasn't very happy. Because at 260 pounds now,
when she looked in the mirror, she hated what she saw.

"What a sight! You look like a dripping candle...blowing in the wind. Look
at all of that hanging skin. It's on your arms, your belly and your
legs. It's
really awful-looking. Why don't you look better after losing 90 pounds? I
still hate you!"

Gee, I guess you just can't win. Looks like some people hate their bodies
when they're obese and some of them still hate their bodies when they've
lost weight and are thinner.

Some people hate their bodies when they're obese and some of them still hate
their bodies when they've lost weight.

You see, the lady who wrote me who'd lost those 90 pounds had another 120
pounds she needed to lose. And if she does work out and tone her body three
days a week, she's going to see her body take on a different shape.

But remember, when you gain weight, with each pound you gain, you stretch
the skin on your body. Some people's waists go from 30 inches up to 50
inches as they gain weight. And when they begin to lose weight, their waist
will shrink in size but leave them with the excess skin.

In fact, you're pretty much left with that excess skin in all the places on
your body where you were overweight, which would be all of it. Toning
doesn't fix everything which is why some people opt for plastic surgery to
rid themselves of the sagging skin. But others, like me, choose to simple
live with it. See, the important thing is that we add years to our lives by
losing the weight and, to me, that matters much more than any of those
issues of excess skin.

You should love your body because after losing weight you've made it so much
healthier by losing it with a dedicated exercise program. You should notice
the parts of your body that are changing for the better and not spend so
much time focusing on the parts of your body that you don't like.

And when you're feeling a little disappointed about your body, even though
you've lost weight, that's not the time to go staring at yourself in the
mirror and looking for things about your body to criticize.

Go out and do something physically active today and burn some more of the
fat and calories away!

Fitness_Chick

HATE MY BODY!

Sunday, 09 November 2008

Yep, there're lots of men and women out there who use that very sentence
about themselves when they send me an E-mail. Oh, they don't use adjectives
like "dislike," uh-uh. They always use the word hate! They tell me about
all the areas of their bodies they hate since, and get this, I'm talking
about after they have lost a substantial amount of weight!

You know when you're overweight and feeling down, you sometimes walk over to
a mirror and stare at yourself in your birthday suit. As you look at your
body, you begin talking to yourself about the way you look:

"Everything on you is fat! You've really let yourself go. Just look at
your legs and your belly. I just hate you!"

"Oh look at you, you're just disgusting! Everything on you is fat! You've
really let yourself go. Just look at your legs and your belly. Turn around
a little and take a look at that fat back of yours. I just hate you!"

Then you get so alarmed by that vision of yourself, you decide it's time for
you to lose weight. You get your measuring cups and spoons. You join a gym
and you're suddenly really pumped up to lose the weight and change the way
you look.

Now get this. I received an E-mail the other day from a lady who had lost
90 pounds. But she still wasn't very happy. Because at 260 pounds now,
when she looked in the mirror, she hated what she saw.

"What a sight! You look like a dripping candle...blowing in the wind. Look
at all of that hanging skin. It's on your arms, your belly and your
legs. It's
really awful-looking. Why don't you look better after losing 90 pounds? I
still hate you!"

Gee, I guess you just can't win. Looks like some people hate their bodies
when they're obese and some of them still hate their bodies when they've
lost weight and are thinner.

Some people hate their bodies when they're obese and some of them still hate
their bodies when they've lost weight.

You see, the lady who wrote me who'd lost those 90 pounds had another 120
pounds she needed to lose. And if she does work out and tone her body three
days a week, she's going to see her body take on a different shape.

But remember, when you gain weight, with each pound you gain, you stretch
the skin on your body. Some people's waists go from 30 inches up to 50
inches as they gain weight. And when they begin to lose weight, their waist
will shrink in size but leave them with the excess skin.

In fact, you're pretty much left with that excess skin in all the places on
your body where you were overweight, which would be all of it. Toning
doesn't fix everything which is why some people opt for plastic surgery to
rid themselves of the sagging skin. But others, like me, choose to simple
live with it. See, the important thing is that we add years to our lives by
losing the weight and, to me, that matters much more than any of those
issues of excess skin.

You should love your body because after losing weight you've made it so much
healthier by losing it with a dedicated exercise program. You should notice
the parts of your body that are changing for the better and not spend so
much time focusing on the parts of your body that you don't like.

And when you're feeling a little disappointed about your body, even though
you've lost weight, that's not the time to go staring at yourself in the
mirror and looking for things about your body to criticize.

Go out and do something physically active today and burn some more of the
fat and calories away!

Marla64

Here here!! :drinker:

Fitness_Chick

Here here!! :drinker:

I think it's not only an excellent article but an important one as well. I think we as woman can get so down on ourselves ...sometimes it's the media throwing so many thin thin images out at us (airbrushed of course)...sometimes we just feel like we should be perfect.

Nothing about us will ever be perfect which is good...how boring that would be..there's be nothing left to strive for:bigsmile:

I've not really looked at my body as less than since i"ve dropped so much weight...when at the pool I can't help but notice it when showering changing into my suit etc. But what I see instead of extra skin is how I now a waist, how much smaller my body is, how much more mobile I am, how before losing weight I was afraid to be seen in public.

I'm very outgoing like I used to be again always smiling and laughing and cheering on others..and I love it...yes, over my half way point and I'm quite pleased with all my hard work.

But I thank goodness I have not looked at that as insurmountable...because I"ve come further than I have to go. I keep pluggin along and it's paying off. I find being at the gym as one of my most proud time as I never would have gone there before my AH HAH! Lighbulb moment last year (see profile for details if you like).

But after that moment....I didn't see myself as someone who couldn't go places..I saw myself as someone who can now go anyplace I chose too and feel good doing it!

This year has simple flown by...some tough spots along the way, but those times were rare...I set my mind on my goal and have moved forward. Our bodies drop weight when they drop it...as long as we are eating healthy, moving our bodies and gathering only positive influences around us...we ALL can make it!:flowerforyou:

This article has spoken volumes to me and I hope everyone can gather a bit from it to move on in an even more positive way.:flowerforyou:

Marla64

Amen, sista-- I'm with ya.

And I have read your profile, and agree with the "click" or lightbulb. That's what happened to me, too, in June of this year. Just an, "all right, enough of this, it's time."

:flowerforyou:

hmo4

I say you get the plastic surgery when you've lost all the weight you want to, to really celebrate your success and increase that confidence, cause now you're lookin' awesome! Why still hate the way you look after all the hard work?

Fitness_Chick

I say you get the plastic surgery when you've lost all the weight you want to, to really celebrate your success and increase that confidence, cause now you're lookin' awesome! Why still hate the way you look after all the hard work?

Oh it most definly is what my plans are in a couple years:bigsmile: My insurance will cover it since some of it would be considered a medical need (I'm a T2) so by all means I will have lots of skin by the time I've gotten down to wear my body says... ok, this works for us. I imagine I'll hang out there for a bit to adjust and then go with the tucks etc.

But in the meantime I do lots of cardio/strength training, Yoga etc. to tone up where I"m at now and burn fat....so doing what I can while on the way down.

But I agree...if a person has the means to do it and they will feel better about themselves by all means...I'd say go for it. Some folks though who aren't overweight go with it and totally change so much about their bodies, their faces become no longer their own. Ew.... how would you recognize yourself:noway: :bigsmile:

Of course I'm speaking mainly of the folks in the media with the money and the need to stay perfect looking to get all the parts. But it appears to me some don't know the limits on when to stop.

That doesn't really apply to the is topic so not sure why I brought it up....just think about it sometimes when I see a rag mag in the grocery store or one of them on TV.:noway:

Fitness_Chick

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kerrilucko

I say you get the plastic surgery when you've lost all the weight you want to, to really celebrate your success and increase that confidence, cause now you're lookin' awesome! Why still hate the way you look after all the hard work?

While plastic surgery is certainly a viable option for some, it definitely isn't for everyone. Money-wise it's not possible for just anyone... I for one don't mind the extra skin, like the article states, why not see that skin as a reminder of how far you've come. of course after losing 200+ lbs it may be more medical than cosmetic, but just from my point of view, I'll keep the skin :flowerforyou:

Fitness_Chick

I say you get the plastic surgery when you've lost all the weight you want to, to really celebrate your success and increase that confidence, cause now you're lookin' awesome! Why still hate the way you look after all the hard work?

While plastic surgery is certainly a viable option for some, it definitely isn't for everyone. Money-wise it's not possible for just anyone... I for one don't mind the extra skin, like the article states, why not see that skin as a reminder of how far you've come. of course after losing 200+ lbs it may be more medical than cosmetic, but just from my point of view, I'll keep the skin :flowerforyou:

good points!:flowerforyou:

Fitness_Chick

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