Who's in love?

Rachiewoowoo

I am, and I'm partly doing this for him - he needs a little motivation himself.

I figured, if I start going with it, maybe he'll feel more inclined to start as well! It's better for both our healths, a win win situation!

So I have a question: Do any of you find it hard to tell a loved one that they need to lose weight?

Feel free to add me! I'm new here!

prettylittlechubby

I wish my boyfriend would tell me i need to loose weight then it would motiviate me more. your so good doing this to support him, good luck to you both

Rachiewoowoo

I wish my boyfriend would tell me i need to loose weight then it would motiviate me more. your so good doing this to support him, good luck to you both

But at least you know he doesn't want to hurt your feelings
I'd do anything to support him Thank you, and you too!

Trixtabella

My boyfriend thinks he needs to lose weight, he is wrong what he needs to do is tone up, haha.
I do wish my boyfriend wouldn't say I am not as big as I think I am as this irritates me.

I do love him though more than anything or anyone.

BEERRUNNER

I am........................with ma awesomely tanned self............damn! sexy! :bigsmile:

nurse_carolyn

I am........................with ma awesomely tanned self............damn! sexy! :bigsmile:

ahaha.......we would have never guessed that :noway:

Trixtabella

I am........................with ma awesomely tanned self............damn! sexy! :bigsmile:

It's good to love oneself.

vdavis_89

My fiances best friend desperately needs to lose wieght but he doesnt listen to anyone and makes up a bunch of excuses to stay fat so i say whatever. We've tried to help him and hes totally not interested. My fiance is pretty thin... notice I said thin not healthy lol Im tryin to get him to eat better but he loves his sugar and crappy foods lol

foodfight247

I am........................with ma awesomely tanned self............damn! sexy! :bigsmile:

Beerrunner - how do you manage it? :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:

You are hilarious!! :laugh: :laugh:

janiecorona

I am...with my beautiful baby girl. She's my love and I'm doing this for her. (:

Rachiewoowoo

I am...with my beautiful baby girl. She's my love and I'm doing this for her. (:

That's amazing; I wish all the best for you both
She's adorable

Ashley_Panda

We both straight up knew we needed to. I lose 135lbs before getting pregnant with our second baby. Currently 11 weeks. He's still working on it. Fallen off the wagon a couple of times but he's getting back on! I definitely want to do it for my hubby and my kids. To keep up with them and to look good for him. I want to be the kind of wife he's proud to be with. You know the one that he can be like "Yeah, that's mine.' Hahaha.

Rachiewoowoo

My boyfriend thinks he needs to lose weight, he is wrong what he needs to do is tone up, haha.
I do wish my boyfriend wouldn't say I am not as big as I think I am as this irritates me.

I do love him though more than anything or anyone.

That's right! For awhile, I thought I was losing weight well, or properly, or whatever, but I was just losing muscle mass..

Hmm, I'm sure it's just because he loves you and doesn't want to hurt you in any way I'm glad you do, good luck to you both!

Riebop

My fiance is pretty thin... notice I said thin not healthy lol Im tryin to get him to eat better but he loves his sugar and crappy foods lol

My husband is like that. 6' and maybe 140 pounds...

My husband never told me I needed to lose weight. The only reason he had a problem with my weight gain was because it made me self conscious, but he didn't tell me that until after I started losing weight. I don't think you need to tell someone you love that they need to lose weight. They probably already know. Just adopt a healthy lifestyle and hope that they'll want to join you.

Rachiewoowoo

My fiances best friend desperately needs to lose wieght but he doesnt listen to anyone and makes up a bunch of excuses to stay fat so i say whatever. We've tried to help him and hes totally not interested. My fiance is pretty thin... notice I said thin not healthy lol Im tryin to get him to eat better but he loves his sugar and crappy foods lol

Haha, real motivation really needs to start in yourself... He'll figure out some day

Don't we all Whenever my boyfriend comes to visit (long d), which is not often, we tend to just relax and eat whatever, but when we finally move in together, we're going to be eating healthy and nutritious Good luck!

Rachiewoowoo

I am........................with ma awesomely tanned self............damn! sexy! :bigsmile:

Oh, I'm sure.

bettyboopo

Me and my boyfriend currently weigh the same! That was a real wake up call for me and him. I'm trying to loose weight and he's trying to gain weight (muscle). He tells me i'm perfect and i don't need to change a thing but i think that about him too! I suppose it's just what love does, they're perfect no matter what.

SarahofTwins

I think it is hard to tell someone you love to lose weight...but its the way you say it that might encourage or offend them. Personally my mom told me before I was just getting big, now that didn't help. However my hubby has said "hey lets go for a walk"...now that was an encouraging way instead of saying "oh you're fat" lol.

I guess its all about how you approach them and how they take it. :drinker:

Rachiewoowoo

Me and my boyfriend currently weigh the same! That was a real wake up call for me and him. I'm trying to loose weight and he's trying to gain weight (muscle). He tells me i'm perfect and i don't need to change a thing but i think that about him too! I suppose it's just what love does, they're perfect no matter what.

I'll always think my boyfriend is perfect, and he'll always think the same of me as well, but I tell him it's better for his health, and he tells me it's better for the bed :laugh:

Rachiewoowoo

I think it is hard to tell someone you love to lose weight...but its the way you say it that might encourage or offend them. Personally my mom told me before I was just getting big, now that didn't help. However my hubby has said "hey lets go for a walk"...now that was an encouraging way instead of saying "oh you're fat" lol.

I guess its all about how you approach them and how they take it. :drinker:

I totally agree! My mother used to almost insult my sister and I with our weights, and, although it was for the best, it never really helped either of us. I've motivated myself, and I'm hoping I can help my younger sister too, as diabetes runs in the family, and she's already showing preliminary signs :frown:

savethecat

I told my wife when we were dating that I would love her no matter what. If she told me she wanted to sit at home all day and eat french fries till she couldn't move I would still love her and bring her home any food she wanted.

It wasn't until last year I realized telling her something like that wasn't the most loving thing I could have said. She could never lose my unconditional love, but promoting her bad eating habits was the same as telling her I didn't care how long she stayed around in this life.

Neither one of us actually opened our mouths and said it, but we both knew when we were horsing around and losing our breath after the first 5 minutes, something needed to be done.

So, I don't know the right answer to this. It hurts to hear, but perhaps if you truly love someone the best thing to do is tell them how much you want them to live a long and healthy life by your side.

SarahofTwins

I think it is hard to tell someone you love to lose weight...but its the way you say it that might encourage or offend them. Personally my mom told me before I was just getting big, now that didn't help. However my hubby has said "hey lets go for a walk"...now that was an encouraging way instead of saying "oh you're fat" lol.

I guess its all about how you approach them and how they take it. :drinker:

I totally agree! My mother used to almost insult my sister and I with our weights, and, although it was for the best, it never really helped either of us. I've motivated myself, and I'm hoping I can help my younger sister too, as diabetes runs in the family, and she's already showing preliminary signs :frown:

Yes my mom is the same..sorry to hear about her diabetes :frown: I hope she can see your lifestyle change and follow.

KayteeBear

I would love for my boyfriend to lose weight because I know it really bothers him every now and then.

He used to be almost 300 pounds when he was younger, then in the 9th grade (age 14 ish?) he started playing football and lost 100 pounds but now that he's out of school and slightly less active he has gained some weight back. Still not even close to 300 but enough that it bothers him. Doesn't help that his dad and his dad's gf force feed him pretty much when he's there. I mean, literally telling him he's not allowed to leave until everything's eaten and they just keep pestering him until he eats it. And his dad was like that when younger as well so he's grown up learning to eat everything even if he's not hungry so that doesn't help any.

My boyfriend's fairly busy now so he doesn't have time to workout. He's working for his dad (plumbing and doing farming) and he's in a band as well that's doing fairly good so he's always practicing or jamming (which is in the city so he's gotta drive 45 minutes one way to get there) or playing shows or going to other shows, etc, etc.

Personally, I don't care too much. I mean I care in the sense that I don't want him to be overweight and have health problems (his dad is fairly overweight and has a ton of health problems) but he's not terribly overweight. I still love him either way. But it hurts to see him when it bothers him and when he has a "feeling fat" moment.

ninerbuff

Still in love with my wife after 12 years!!! I'm a trainer so she knows if I tell her she needs some "work", it's because she's bulging a little.

mamagooskie

I love myself and I'm losing weight for me.....but for serious I love lots of people but would never tell any of them I think they need to diet. However I will support and encourage anyone that chooses to better themselves on their own terms.

Dtho5159

My husband is pretty skinny.. 5'8 and 135lb. He has never had to be in the position Im in and he finds it hard to support me.. Its funny because both his parents are tiny too and BOTH express their support. So Ive never had to mention it to him since he doesn't need to lose.. I have though, mentioned it to my mom who could lose another 30lb or so. She doesn't seem interested though lol

MrsCon40

I am - newlywed even (july 2nd!)

I have no trouble pointing out his moobs (see pic) :laugh:

He then points to my thighs.

That's true love