Hottest. . Blah

Jade_Butterfly

You know what is hot. . not body parts, but someone that truly cares for you and appreciates you for WHO you are not WHAT you look like. .. . I for one don't just have a body, but a mind. . and a love and passion for others and what matters to them. .. It is not about looking at another person like a piece of meat. . .

What besides body parts do you desire in a relationship?:bigsmile:

petchonka82

Confidence is HOTT. Communication is a must!

charlene77

The ability to laugh, lead a family, faith is a must....

mjhuff1121

My husband is HARDWORKIN'. And he truly loves God, and it's his goal to be the husband that helps me get to heaven, not distract me from that. That to me, is amazingly attractive.

Namaste1983

Confidence is a huge turn on... That and kindness and respect towards others

jesienia

Someone who is intelligent, caring and can make me laugh is a must! Personality is the most important thing to me...I don't go for looks.

Ajontheguitar

Confidence is very sexy...don't you think?

crisanderson27

The ability to laugh, lead a family, faith is a must....

That's so uncommon these days....most women anymore want the guy to take a back seat it seems almost.

There's just so much...it's impossible to explain...but, for me...trust, is huge, and honesty. I would say generosity...but it's so much more. A willingness to give literally anything...because you're secure in the fact that whatever you give will be returned to you three times over. Communication is right there as well.

Again...to explain what I want and give to a relationship would take forever...well, at least the lifetime I would intend that relationship to last.



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_beachgirl_

Sense of humor!

Jade_Butterfly

Yes, yes, yes. . These are the replies that I seek. . That there is still human decency in the world that we look at people for who they are. .. Love it. ..


We are all trying to make better people out of ourselves, but ultimately we have to love ourselves and each other the way we are and for what we want to become. ..

icandothistrish85

I got exactly what I desired when I found my Derrick. A person who wouldn't judge me from my past. I was molested/raped/physically abused from the age of 5-15 years old. About a year into our relationship, in the middle of the desert in the middle of the night, I told him every single detail about me, my history, my family and why we no longer speak, how I became a ward of the state and why I started cutting and taking medication at 10 years old. He held me and listened. He didn't have the typical disbelief disgustd look on his face. He didn't try to fix me and he didn't make me hide my past either. He supported my therapy sessions, my sexual abuse victims group meetings, me volunteering with others who've been through all that I've been through and he's just amazing. He's the only person in my life who's supported me and not pressurized me to do anything I didn't want to. He's great to talk to or just sit alone with quietly, to cry with, to laugh over pointless unfunny **** with. He's an amazing husband. He's a fantastic father to our three kids. I couldn't have asked/wished for a better person. He's a great friend too and that's what I really desired, a friend I could ALWAYS count on. My Derrick is on here as well, user: DerrickR333.

Ajontheguitar

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bZ5spLy22mg

paradog

yes a mind is sexy but that's only part of the picture. If it was just about the mind, some people would never get married, let alone procreate (not going to advocate that they do)

Without getting all emotional ...what about compassion? I person with a heart is fine but seeing it in action is a thrill!

liftingbro

I love my wife because she makes me feel like I'm her hero, knight in shining armor, even if I'm a little chubby geek in the real world. She lets me carry the heavy stuff and do the manly things even if she can do them better. :blushing:

LoveleeB

Being a motivated/driven person is hot

Ajontheguitar

Gotta love a nice sexy walk too.

LovelySophiya

ABOVE ALL HONESTY is the hottest to me.... I hate being toyed with tell me the truth dont play little mind games...

PinkiG35

:blushing:

PinkiG35

Someone who I miss when Im not with them and who I still get goosebumps over when I see them. I have my best boy friend who those feelings belong to. We are far apart but talk at least 3 times a week. If it was meant to be it will happen.

Like my mom says.... Love with get you through things that friendship wont and friendship will get you through things that love wont.

Jade_Butterfly

I love my wife because she makes me feel like I'm her hero, knight in shining armor, even if I'm a little chubby geek in the real world. She lets me carry the heavy stuff and do the manly things even if she can do them better. :blushing:

Awww. . .what a lucky lady.. .Thank you for sharing. ..

Jade_Butterfly

ABOVE ALL HONESTY is the hottest to me.... I hate being toyed with tell me the truth dont play little mind games...

Amen. . That is my #1 as well. ..

crisanderson27

I love my wife because she makes me feel like I'm her hero, knight in shining armor, even if I'm a little chubby geek in the real world. She lets me carry the heavy stuff and do the manly things even if she can do them better. :blushing:

Awww. . .what a lucky lady.. .Thank you for sharing. ..

And a lucky man!

piperjon

Intelligence, honesty, warmth, and a quick wit. Sexy is a state of mind before being a state of body: don't be afraid to be sexy. Being delightfully kooky and even weird is way up there too, I totally love wierd. And don't just roll over and agree with me, speak your heart, and speak it with honesty, and with passion, especially when you disagree with me. Be spiritually grounded, or adventerous, or at least interested. Be confident, but don't be afraid to show me your weak side. Trust that I won't strike at your weat points, and I will be there for your darkest nights. Be loyal. I am. I am your fiercest protector, and my own harshest critic, you may need to protect me from myself. Feel free to like some of the things I like, but like things other than the things I like, too. Have your own world, and let me share mine with you as I see fit, and share yours with me as you see fit. Relish silence, and embrace peace, but don't be afraid of the occasional mosh pit, Slipknot shower solo, or random bit of life's entropy. Come with me when I dance in the clouds, but if you need me to get the spider out of the bathroom, bring me back to the ground, it will be okay.

Now, if anyone would like me to describe my girlfriend...oh...wait.... :-)

crisanderson27

Intelligence, honesty, warmth, and a quick wit. Sexy is a state of mind before being a state of body: don't be afraid to be sexy. Being delightfully kooky and even weird is way up there too, I totally love wierd. And don't just roll over and agree with me, speak your heart, and speak it with honesty, and with passion, especially when you disagree with me. Be spiritually grounded, or adventerous, or at least interested. Be confident, but don't be afraid to show me your weak side. Trust that I won't strike at your weat points, and I will be there for your darkest nights. Be loyal. I am. I am your fiercest protector, and my own harshest critic, you may need to protect me from myself. Feel free to like some of the things I like, but like things other than the things I like, too. Have your own world, and let me share mine with you as I see fit, and share yours with me as you see fit. Relish silence, and embrace peace, but don't be afraid of the occasional mosh pit, Slipknot shower solo, or random bit of life's entropy. Come with me when I dance in the clouds, but if you need me to get the spider out of the bathroom, bring me back to the ground, it will be okay.

Now, if anyone would like me to describe my girlfriend...oh...wait.... :-)

Lucky, lucky man =D.

LovelySophiya

Someone who I miss when Im not with them and who I still get goosebumps over when I see them. I have my best boy friend who those feelings belong to. We are far apart but talk at least 3 times a week. If it was meant to be it will happen.

Like my mom says.... Love with get you through things that friendship wont and friendship will get you through things that love wont.

wow i love what your mom say awesome

Swimgoddess

Hubby has the sense of humor and quick wit of a stand-up comic!

DietPep1978

I love this post!

I completely love my husband. We've been together since we were mid teens.

What drew me to him...
-kind, funny, easy going, caring, gentle but yet firm, he's very friendly

Why I knew he was it...and the things that sealed the deal....
-he is not afraid to do housework, he cooks, he loves me completely the way I am and has NEVER said a mean/bad thing about my looks or body, he put up with my sometime insanity, and he knows how to read me so well its scary! And he's super hardworking, he's got his priorities straight.

My friends say he's just naturally hot but for me it wasn't until I learned more about him that he became hot.

This is just my two cents but a guy could be good looking but its his personality and the way he carries himself in the world and how he treats people. If he sucks at these things to me he instantly becomes unattractive and not just physically. Kind of like the movie Shallow Hal.

naesue

My husbands willingness to follow me into battle and to be my right hand man. He is my partner in everything, the good, the bad, the funny, the sad, the happy, and the mad. He has held me up when I need to be lifted and held me down when I needed to be calmed. He's pushed me forward when I needed a nudge to step towards my destiny and he has held my hand when I needed just a little more support. He's whiped my tears and my daughters as well. He has also laughed with the both of us. He accepted me broken and bruised and beaten up and helped to clean my wounds. He also took my daughter in as his own and treats her better then her own father has ever treated her. His unwavering love for me and my daughter is the sexiest thing he could ever posses!

piperjon

Intelligence, honesty, warmth, and a quick wit. Sexy is a state of mind before being a state of body: don't be afraid to be sexy. Being delightfully kooky and even weird is way up there too, I totally love wierd. And don't just roll over and agree with me, speak your heart, and speak it with honesty, and with passion, especially when you disagree with me. Be spiritually grounded, or adventerous, or at least interested. Be confident, but don't be afraid to show me your weak side. Trust that I won't strike at your weat points, and I will be there for your darkest nights. Be loyal. I am. I am your fiercest protector, and my own harshest critic, you may need to protect me from myself. Feel free to like some of the things I like, but like things other than the things I like, too. Have your own world, and let me share mine with you as I see fit, and share yours with me as you see fit. Relish silence, and embrace peace, but don't be afraid of the occasional mosh pit, Slipknot shower solo, or random bit of life's entropy. Come with me when I dance in the clouds, but if you need me to get the spider out of the bathroom, bring me back to the ground, it will be okay.

Now, if anyone would like me to describe my girlfriend...oh...wait.... :-)

Lucky, lucky man =D.

Yes, I most certainly am. And I rarely go a day without letting her know that, too.

TheTeeWhy

Trust, my slight fling I had where I didnt know up from down and if I was in or out was one of the absolute most stressful things in my entire life. WAY unnecessary.

Basically, all the stuff Cris said so far :P

crisanderson27

My husbands willingness to follow me into battle and to be my right hand man. He is my partner in everything, the good, the bad, the funny, the sad, the happy, and the mad. He has held me up when I need to be lifted and held me down when I needed to be calmed. He's pushed me forward when I needed a nudge to step towards my destiny and he has held my hand when I needed just a little more support. He's whiped my tears and my daughters as well. He has also laughed with the both of us. He accepted me broken and bruised and beaten up and helped to clean my wounds. He also took my daughter in as his own and treats her better then her own father has ever treated her. His unwavering love for me and my daughter is the sexiest thing he could ever posses!

That's a good man...count yourself lucky...

My Father did the same thing with my brother and I (took us in as his own)...and I count the two of us among the luckiest of kids growing up. Our lives weren't always perfect...but he taught us right from wrong, loved us as much (more, to be honest) as his son from his previous marriage, and even today, 32 years later...is there for me in a heartbeat if I need him. I credit him with every success I've had in my life...because without his example, I'd be a far, far different person....and to be anything less...would be to let down the example he's given.