How (not) to give a complement

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  • emma44ny
    emma44ny Posts: 141 Member
    [/quote]I actually completely agree. Through personal experiences when it comes to "weight loss" its a free for all on comments. And unless you've struggled with weight you cant REALLY know how it affects someone. But I actually take the fact that people are noticing as a compliment, I mean sure it wasn't said the BEST way possible, but a compliments and compliment right? There's no need to take things to gosh darn seriously! Plus its what people ARENT saying that should worry you! (greatest lesson learned haha)

    I think i actually get more offended if someone DOESNT notice my weight loss then if i get a "you've become so pretty..."

    Just my opinion though :)
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    Truthfully I just wish they wouldn't say anything at all! Lol!
  • jon_brady
    jon_brady Posts: 46 Member
    Here's a good one for you I went away for 8 weeks to a fitness camp lost 54lbs and the first thing my mom said to me when she saw me was "You've got boobs"
  • cici1028
    cici1028 Posts: 799 Member
    MissFit101 - must be VERY difficult to relate... so just to be clear, you've never really been overweight? You mentioned that in every post... we get it. You weren't ever "fat". So I'm guessing you weren't really getting these comments to start with.

    Some people who make insensitive comments definitely just put a foot in the mouth and make a mistake. I've done it, we all have. Personally, I feel flattered by compliments. It is the backhanded ones that need addressing. Some people make those comments to make themselves feel better or to make others feel worse.
  • ninjakitty419
    ninjakitty419 Posts: 349 Member
    My husband will tell me "You have such a pretty face." I wish he could say I have pretty other things, too, but I guess that will come soon (I hope!)
  • katkins3
    katkins3 Posts: 1,359 Member
    My husband lost around 80 pounds and his co-works actually asked him if he has AIDS!
  • cici1028
    cici1028 Posts: 799 Member
    It will! :) Good job and keep going!
  • PalmettoparkGuy
    PalmettoparkGuy Posts: 212 Member
    You think those are bad?
    Since I'm a gay dude, I've had several people ask me if I'm sick, or if I'm losing weight by choice!
  • mamacremers
    mamacremers Posts: 183 Member
    Today I had one, similar to the others. the girl (and I think she's lost and gained like 50 pounds) said: "You look great, haven't you lost like 100 pounds!?" I smiled and said "No, just 55"

    while silently to myself thinking, If I lost 100 pounds, I'd be 100 pounds! I would be considered dangerously underweight!
  • losing_4_life
    losing_4_life Posts: 21 Member
    I was told just the other day, you're going to be so beautiful when you lose all your weight!! WHAT?? OOOOKKKAAAYYYY.
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