Why did you have kids?

phinners

If your not planning on trying till your 35 I would really talk to your doctor,the risks of birth defects and other complications greatly increase after this age. That being said,I know plenty of people that have healthily delivered healthy babies into their 40's. Good to see you MFP now,before you plan on having children.A healthy body and mind will make the whole process easier and safer for you.

My BF would prefer me pregnant NOW, howoever we both want to do it the "right" way and get married first. So after wedding planning is done, I'll be 35, he'll be 40 before we have our first... We are both just scared b/c we are older....All the doctors say not to worry but i do b/c i've been on BC for the last 15 yrs

While I agree with the above, there are a lot of tests that can be done to make sure your child is healthy before the child is born...Not trying to be controversial, but if you believe in abortion and find out your kid will be born unhealthy...I think it is good, since you can get the abortion really early ^.^ My mom had me when she was in her 40's and I think I turned out pretty well...gee...I hope...o__o oh gosh...the possible plight of mfp judgement on what I just said is a bit nerve-wracking xD

I would say not to worry though, as your doctors said

you cant get those sort of tests anywhere near early enough into a pregnancy for it to be able to be classed as an early abortion.
Most defects cant be picked up till 18/20 weeks, and by then youre halfway through the pregnancy, and any abortion would be a pretty major procedure. Its a tough issue

Oh, I didn't know that -- I thought it was in the 1st trimester, but it's good to know I was misinformed. Thank you!!! I guess just stay stress free when pregnant, eat well, take care of yourself ^.^

But a lot can be tested for in the 1st trimester, such as Down's Syndrome.

jodazary

i had my first at 20 and my 4th at 25 ! no regrets what so ever they are by far my greatest accomplishment they are well mannered , polite, God fearing, hard working boys one of which has given me 2 beautiful grand daughters

FrauHausMaus

You mean... you can PLAN for that?

chcoley

I was pregnant with my oldest daughter when we got married, so I'm no help!

ninerbuff

To pass on my genes.........................isn't that why we instinctively have them? Lol, my daughter is my life (along with my wife). Joy comes when I see her triumphs and also when I can help her with her downfalls. What the hell am I gonna do when she moves out?

dayzeerock

Broken rubber. 'nuff said.

KatiePeca

I had a strong innate desire to have children and they are the most amazing blessings in my life! We have four, we planned each pregnancy, though the second pregnancy brough surprise twins, we have always been thrilled to welcome these children into our lives, and the chaos they bring When our twins were 20 days old, our baby A passed away from a collection of heart defects we didn't know about until they were nearly 1week old, and through him we learned that children are gifts, and to be cherished, they aren't guaranteed to us

Katie

tuffytuffy1

I was not sure about having children, but it was a dealbreaker for my then-fiancee. So we got married and waited 4 years before trying for our first (and now only) child. I cannot even explain the love we have for that little boy, he is still my baby, although he is about to go into 1st grade:sad: You will never love anyone as much as you love your child

Cassaaaaandra

My hubs and I got married planning on having children right away. We wanted children because we have experienced a lot in life, we've taken trips, enjoyed vacations, earned our degrees (and I'm still furthering my education after two kids) and we wanted to share our happiness and love with a family we created out of our love for one another.

A few weeks ago we welcomed our second son into the world.

casey12105

Underage drinking a hot older guy and stupidity lol, but it was the best mistake ever. With the one I'm cooking now, I got pregnant last year accidentally (birth control fail) and miscarried, before that I didn't want anymore kids but I had gotten excited about it before I lost it, so we decided to try for another one.

niste_ketlin

My parents used to tell me that they had kids for slaves..
Personally for me, I can remember always wanting kids. Words cannot describe the feeling a mom gets when they hold that child the first time, or any firsts for that matter. Truly.. to have someone look to you like your child or the unconditional love that they give.. just an all over great feeling!

And, babies are the closest thing to perfect there is in this cruel system of things. I have been babysitting a little boy for the large majority of his life.. He is almost 27 months old.. And I am with him more than his mother, and he doesn't have his real father... So seeing his milestones, that his parents even missed.. First words, etc. And him even calling me momma (I didn't train him to).. It has all been amazing. I'm only 18 but I see him practically Every day and then there are 5 other kids I take care of on an as needed basis, age 11 months - 5 years.. And they are two sets of siblings so I have 2-3 kids at any given time. Motherhood is something that is Built into females.. So it truly is a strong desire, it is in our nature.

melbhall

I was always on the fence about kids. Thought I wanted them but felt no rush to start a family until...I was bitten with the baby bug. It came out of no where. I was enjoying my life with my husband, our freedom, our wine collection, lots of sleep and heading out on vacations on a whim. Once the bug bites you, you know you're ready. I now have two sweet boys and can't imagine my life without them. We've given up our unplanned vacations, wine collection and sleep but have gotten unexpected joy, an appreciation for our parents, and a physical representation of our love. Kids are amazing!

mommared53

Both of my kids were unplanned and I was unmarried but don't believe in abortion and couldn't bear to give them up for adoption. Over three decades later I'm glad I kept my daughter who is now 37 and my son who is now 25. I used to joke about them being oops and oops again but I've never regretted having either one of them.

ChantalGG

I had my son because i got pregnant. I want more because i love babies and want to have a big family. One day..

shelleilei

He was an awesome surprise!

sabrinafaith

I wanted to be a mother from the time I was 5 years old. I never imagined a childless future. I think I got married in part because I wanted to have children as soon as possible, lol, which doesn't mean I don't love my husband. I do love him very much. But the joy I get from playing with my 2.5 year old and having conversations with him and hearing him say "I wove you, MAMA" is absolutely priceless and I can't wait to hear my next child say that too (due next march)! I don't think any other joy really compares to the joy a child brings into your home and heart.

On the other hand, its definitely hard work and emotionally and physically draining to be a mother. If you don't love being there and taking care of children, I think its even harder.

demery12371

Another question, how old is too old to start having kids.... By the looks of it... I wont have time to start trying until i'm 35, and we want 3-4 kids....

*I'm 33 now and want to be married first*

I had my first at 33, second at 35 and last at 37. All were healthy and happy

Didn't really have a "reason" for having kids but wanted that special gift that was only from my husband & God.
Hope to be a much better Mom than mine was/is. I wouldn't trade it for anything. Love my little stinkers.