Finding Love Whilst Losing Weight?

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  • MrsJax11
    MrsJax11 Posts: 354 Member
    I really think dating has no relevance when it comes to dieting. However, it does have relevance when it comes to self esteem. If you're not happy with yourself work on that first.... don't expect a partner to bring happiness to the table, count on yourself for that ;-)

    Sudoplog wise, yes she is.
  • MzPix
    MzPix Posts: 177 Member
    "Sorry, I can't go out this year. I'm on a diet." :huh:
  • MochaMixAZ
    MochaMixAZ Posts: 844 Member
    Adding a thought to my original stance - if you find/meet someone, go for it!

    But I do understand the process of dating CAN have implications on diet. While a date doesn't have to revolve around food, MOST initial dates DO. A restaurant is public, with an escape mechanism, and quite frankly - is expected. One of the ways I got around this was to exchange dinner dates for coffee dates - then I could factor in a latte into my daily calories for the day. If the 1st date went well and a dinner date was in my future, I'd suggest restaurants where I could stay on track.

    Planning, I think, is key.

    Unlike substance dependency and addiction programs where the mantra IS to absolutely not date during recovery, I think food addiction is different. We all have to learn to work with food in our daily environment... so why not start now. And if a guy is in your future and is supportive, even better!
  • odusgolp
    odusgolp Posts: 10,477 Member
    I really think dating has no relevance when it comes to dieting. However, it does have relevance when it comes to self esteem. If you're not happy with yourself work on that first.... don't expect a partner to bring happiness to the table, count on yourself for that ;-)

    Sudoplog wise, yes she is.

    Why thank you dear :)
  • Namaste1983
    Namaste1983 Posts: 603 Member
    I'm not saying it is not possible and we necessarily always put on weight but someone said just to focus on yourself whilst losing weight or something ...

    Well if you know it is possible then... that is your answer. I think it depends on you as a person. Are you Independent or do you wrap yourself up in whomever you are dating? If things are going good, bad or ugly would you still stay on track? There are things in life that can derail you but, a boyfriend or gf never should. What the person meant( I am guessing) is if you cant operate on that level of independence, then focus on you and only you until you can. If you loose yourself in others then you need to not date until your goals are met. You would also ( if you met your goals) have to adjust to the new attention you might get hence teh year or so of waiting. If you were at you goal would you jump after the first guy that said you were hot if you didn't know much about him? If he was a jerk? I think it is more about finding yourself and standing on your own two feet , doing what is ALWAYS right for you rather than dealing with weightloss in general.At 19 that is important but, does not mean you cant date just that you should be more aware of you, what you need, want...know that if you brake up with a guy you still need to take care of yourself. I know when I was dating and younger I could not do that. It took me till I was 21 to be able to know what standing on my own two feet really meant ( relationship wise) and I think that is helping me with my journey now.

    THAT IS PERFECT.... EVERYTHING IN MY WORLD CHANGED WHEN I LOST THE WEIGHT. THE NEW ATTENTION CAN BE SCARY AND ITS HARD TO KNOW HOW TO HANDLE IT.
  • chevy88grl
    chevy88grl Posts: 3,937 Member
    When I met my boyfriend, I was 180lbs - so 35lbs heavier than I am now. He's naturally thin and while he NEVER, EVER, EVER said a word about my weight (obviously it didn't matter to him or he wouldn't have fallen in love with me at 180lbs) he made me want to get in better shape. We joined a gym together. I changed how I ate. He gave me the unconditional support I needed to lose the weight. And now, I'm 143-145lbs. :)

    I don't think you should put restrictions on love. If it is gonna happen - it'll happen.
  • ltlane
    ltlane Posts: 120
    i have to totally agree with not finding love while losing weight. i had lost 20 pounds between nov 2010-feb-2011, met my bf end of feb early march and ended up putting on 27 pounds. ill also say it totally depends on the person. my bf is 20-30 pounds underweight so when he wants to eat he wants to eat. guess it rubbed off on me..
  • ArroganceInStep
    ArroganceInStep Posts: 6,239 Member
    Some folks have said basically what I'm about to...but I like talking:

    I think the nature of the relationship is very important when you are also trying to change your lifestyle. To the extent that your significant other is able to provide you with positive emotional support and foster your own motivation, I think it's an excellent thing to date. My girlfriend (now fiance) has helped me tremendously with my attempts to get back in shape. My success has a lot to do with all she has done to help me.

    If you can find someone who can help you achieve your goals...keep 'em =)
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