Pet Peeve

ninjakitty419

I have always been overweight and I am OK with it. Not OK with it as in I want to stay this way, but OK with it as in I realize it is a current reality and there is no denying it. I am doing something to change this, yes. And I am excited about it. And occasionally I will make a casual joke or comment about my weight or love of food, or a serious comment about my efforts to become healthier.

It really bothers me when people immediately respond with "You aren't fat!" or something similar. These can be close friends, coworkers, people I just met, whatever. It is like that is the pre-programmed human response to someone commenting on their weight. I don't want you to disagree with me. I don't want you to try to flatter me. This isn't something that is questionable. I am 5 foot 4 inches, over 200 pounds. That is clearly overweight. Yes, some of the people making the comments (but not nearly all) might be heavier than I am, but even if I am less overweight than you, I am still overweight!.

It would even be a different situation if I had asked "Do you think I look fat?" But I didn't! I just commented on something that is clearly observable. It makes me wonder what else they have felt compelled to lie about.

Also related, my husband will make comments about other girls that we see on the street, in the store, whatever, and say that they are fat or whatever, when they are clearly smaller than me. Sure, maybe they are overweight, just to a lesser degree, but does he need to comment? I would hate to hear what he would say about me if he didn't know me!

GypsyRose25

About what your husband says... It could be that he doesn't see you as overweight. To him, those other girls could actually look bigger than you even if that is not the case.

As for the, "You're not fat!" comments. I hate those. All my friends say it to me. Hello! 280 lbs at 5'4" is ridiculous.

leilani♥

I concur

xraychick77

i think a lot of people respond in this way because they may feel insecure about themselves. and when they see someone trying to change their health it makes them feel even worse about themselves not having the will to do it.

i know, and i know its totally NOT the same thing, but I am the 'fit' girl at work and i get this all the time. heck even when i'm out ordering food (healthy versions) everyone says to me too that i dont need to watch what i eat. or why do i work out i am already skinny.. well i work out because i want muscles and have a goal i want my body to look like, and i work out and watch what i eat so i'll never be big and unhealthy again. some people just dont get that.