Those darn sabotagers.. please help me MFP's

espinozAgal

How do you get past them?? what do you say?? I have a few of them and this is what I hear when I say NO to a certain food.
"oh just this once won't hurt"
"you've already lost weight so you can have it"
"think of it as a prize"
"You should do what I do and eat whatever you want on the weekends"
"It's just one"
and my favorite.... She rolls her eyes and says, "fine"... as if I am putting her down by not wanting chicken wings!!

I am not very outspoken, so Ican't see myself just coming out and bluntly saying, "i'm dieting...leave me alone...I don't want it"

Please help me with this predicament

spoiledsunshine17

"I would rather have my prize be something that lasts longer than a meal that doesn't last long, and will only make me gain weight." That is what I usually tell people, and they seem to understand. I also let them know I do have my "cheat" days, but choose when I have them. You can also say that you have done so well, that you don't want to get back into the habit of eating unhealthy foods.
Stay strong, and keep it up!! Hope that helps!!

seriousaboutlife

I just say "the last time I had that, I didn't feel very well."

Kat0310

That stuff gets on my nerves when it happens but pretty much everyone I know knows that they're not going to get me to 'give in' because I've told them "no" enough. Maybe if you stay persistant they will eventually leave you alone.

Good luck!

arh0117

Maybe the best thing for you is to be blunt about it. Tell them exactly how you feel. They might get upset, but if they can't understand and be supportive of you then maybe you shouldn't be around them. I know how much it sucks. My family was like this in the beginning and still today to an extent. The first day we went to lunch after I started counting calories (which was also the first time I had eaten out since I started) my sister and dad were giving me a hard time about counting out how many chips I had. My sister tried to take one off of my plate and I said no because I have counted out exactly how many I can eat. Then when I was almost done with my chips my dad threw a handful on my plate. I just stopped eating them at that point. They have come around some and understand why I am doing this and that I have to do this for me, my way. Hopefully you're friends will come around too. Best of luck sweetie and if you need an encouraging word after being around them, just holler. We are here for you to be supportive and understanding no matter what!

lbgano

Do what my skinny friend always does - shrug and say "I'm just not hungry"

(and I always used to think "what does being hungry have to do with eating CAKE?"
)

espinozAgal

Do what my skinny friend always does - shrug and say "I'm just not hungry"

(and I always used to think "what does being hungry have to do with eating CAKE?"
)

hahahahahahahahahaha!!!!!!!! cracks me up!!

middleofseven

You have been so successful to this point 40lbs is a lot. The people that are seeing a change are only scared that you will succeed. We are here to help each other. I can't believe the amount of help that comes from the people here on MFP feel free to add me as a friend. Marian

beckyinma

Say you're not in the mood. At some point, you're going to need to stand up for yourself or they will continue to get on you about it. Or just say 'no thank you, I'm trying to make better choices'

or, "just this once, means an extra hour of exercise"
or, I wouldn't follow you off the side of a bridge on the weekends, why do I need to follow your dieting advice on the weekends too?
or, I've already lost weight? Does that mean I get to gain it back and try again? YAY!
or, I choose my prize, and 2 days of bloating from the sodium in one slice of pizza isn't a prize.
or, It's just one? If it was just one joint, would I smoke it?
To the "FINE!" eye roller, Limit your time with her to time when there is not food involved. If she wants to get together, suggest you go to park and walk or something.

You may need to gently cut your time you spend with these people. negativity breeds resentment.

Plus you have us to fall back on when you feel low or put down, we're here to pick you up!