Someone called CPS on me!

GTOgirl1969

And said that my daughter had 2 black eyes...when she does not. I would never DREAM of hurting her, or any child. Now I have to go through a CPS investigation and all that BS...it makes me:mad: that it's so easy for people to level false accusations, but it's so hard to prove them wrong.

GTOgirl1969

And said that my daughter had 2 black eyes...when she does not. I would never DREAM of hurting her, or any child. Now I have to go through a CPS investigation and all that BS...it makes me:mad: that it's so easy for people to level false accusations, but it's so hard to prove them wrong.

MargieM

Whaaat? That's crazy! Do people get off on causing other people trouble? That makes me soooo mad!! :explode: I'm sure that once they come to your house and talk to you and your kids, it will all go away. :flowerforyou:

j_g4ever

I had this happen to me when my son was an infant. Its such a pain in the well you know where. I had to have them come to my house for several months. :mad: I was so pissed. I know who made the damn call and everytime i see the person I want to hurt them. :explode: Hang in there karma just remember karma.

amunet07

I am soo sorry.

You know... that is one of the things I've considered when thinking about having kids. It is so easy now-a=days to get turned in. I always thought what if you are trying to disipline your kids and they decide to get you back by turning you in?

SoupNazi

Oh dear! Most CPS officers can smell a fake report. I hope to God they can do that and leave you alone. Who would do such a thing to you? I'm flabbergasted!

arewethereyet

I dont mean to scare you but you may want to consider getting an atty. If you are investigated (at least in FLA) you will remain on the list, even if you it is found to be false accusations. Only an atty can get you off the list. Check this out, please.

I hope eveything works out ok!

SoupNazi

I dont mean to scare you but you may want to consider getting an atty. If you are investigated (at least in FLA) you will remain on the list, even if you it is found to be false accusations. Only an atty can get you off the list. Check this out, please.

I hope eveything works out ok!

Yup. Meant to say that too. Thanks AWTY!:happy:

diegelmansm

I think it's a good thing that they responded so thuroghly. Just think of all the kids who are being hurt and could use some help. You know that you didn't do anything wrong, and that will show, but just be happy that the system is working and people are being cheched out for these kinds of things. I know I'm a nurse and if I have even the tiniest bit of suspision I have to report it or I can face leagal charges. I am greatful for the people who have the guts to call CPS, because even though some calls are faulty reports, millions of kids are saved from hellish lives due to their efforts.

Marla64

gto-- I hope everything works out for the best-- God bless you and your little girl.

Diegelman-- interesting post-- I appreciate your thoughtful position. I had to report a relative a couple years ago-- it was the most excruciating decision I've ever had to make, and resulted in multiple estrangements within the family-- but it was necessary, and I'd do it again in a New York minute. Unfortunately, the relative in question ( I was to learn many years later) threatened wife and children if they breathed a word of what their lives were like-- and the report was found "baseless."

I have since learned even worse details than I feared and reported -- how can people treat their babies like this?

Interesting, though, Social Services would not let me make anything anonymous. If I wasn't willing to put my name to the claim, they weren't going to take it-- they live in South Carolina-- not sure how it is in other states.

kelhun1

This is going to sound strange, but does your daughter have problems with allergies? My son gets what the Dr calls "allergy shiners" and he looks like he has black eyes. People have actually asked me if he got hit with a ball or something (luckily, no one has ever thought I did it) I was just thinking if she has a medical history of allergy problems, you could bring this up as a possibility. Best of luck, what a terrible position to be in.

GTOgirl1969

The cops just left, they took pictures of my daughter's face to prove that there were NO bruises. I still have to talk to a CPS person in the morning, but with the police officer's proof statement that the accusations were unfounded, that should go OK.

Wynnie

I hope everything works out for the best for you! When we were teens, my little brother was mad at our father, so he made a false claim against him. The cops figured out the game pretty quickly - I guess they see enough of people to get to be pretty good judges of people. I could have choked him for using the system to "settle" a family dispute. (I didn't choke him, for the record - jusy felt like it)

Marla64

The cops just left, they took pictures of my daughter's face to prove that there were NO bruises. I still have to talk to a CPS person in the morning, but with the police officer's proof statement that the accusations were unfounded, that should go OK.

Do you have any idea who would file a false report? Somebody with a score to settle?

What a night you must have had-- God bless you-- hang in there.

iftcheiaf

Anytime my kids get any kind of facial bruise or huge bruise or scratch (kids will be kids), I send a note into the school with them explaining the details because I don't want any calls being made if I can help it. One time, my daughter's biological father accidentally hit his elbow into her eye (witnessed event) and she was so young that she was walking around saying "Daddy gave me a black eye". I think it's tough no matter what side you're on.

You already know you're a great mom. Your daughter can verify it. Sometimes, the outside world just needs to verify for themselves what we already know about you. Hang in there. You're doing great!

arewethereyet

I was an early childhood teacher for around 2 years. 50% of the children were court placed for different reasons. Some moms were on drugs, in jail, just out of jail...etc.

I had one child, a little boy. His mom was from a country where she had lived in isolation. She left the 9 yr old home at night with the 1,3,5 yr olds. they were reported...she thought it was ok, cuz in her country this was fine. she was a really good person.

anyway....my point is she was not a child beater, but I wasn't privy to any of her records. Ok so one day I am changing the 1.5 yr old tyke and he has a huge blue mark over all of his butt. this is my 1st time changing him and I am livid. OMG what happened, did she hit him with a paddle??

It is my JOB to report this and I can be brought up on charges if something happens to him and I DONT say anything. i am torn, she is a good mom and I dont want the kids taken away.

HRS comes and BRINGS THE MOM! I am dying, crying because she trusts me and she spks spanish only so I cant even explain myself.

Turned out in darker skinned ppl these marks are like birthmarks, how could I know this? I mean it was BLUE. They showed me it didnt hurt.. The mom came and hugged me and said no problemo, you love my son.

I learned more in 2 yrs of working in the day care center than 14 yrs of schooling!!

Marla64

Jeannie--

The family member I referred to above is now embroiled in a nasty divorce. He is doing what he can to hurt his wife and children-- he is evil to the core. I have been able to reestablish contact with his wife after years of estrangement. And she, too, thanked me for calling child services years ago. She said she had to go along with her husband, she was afraid of losing her kids and afraid of him. And had to break all contact with me, obviously-- but she knows I called out of love for those children-- it was so sweet to hear, and yet so heartbreaking.

I think this may be one question I ask the Lord in glory-- why did he allow so much suffering of the little ones, the innocent? That's always been a tough one-- I never understand that-- but, I know His ways are not mine--

God bless us all this day, my friends!!!!!!!

arewethereyet

Jeannie--

The family member I referred to above is now embroiled in a nasty divorce. He is doing what he can to hurt his wife and children-- he is evil to the core. I have been able to reestablish contact with his wife after years of estrangement. And she, too, thanked me for calling child services years ago. She said she had to go along with her husband, she was afraid of losing her kids and afraid of him. And had to break all contact with me, obviously-- but she knows I called out of love for those children-- it was so sweet to hear, and yet so heartbreaking.

I think this may be one question I ask the Lord in glory-- why did he allow so much suffering of the little ones, the innocent? That's always been a tough one-- I never understand that-- but, I know His ways are not mine--

God bless us all this day, my friends!!!!!!!

God gives us the tools, we must pick them up and use them. Sometimes we allow fear to over take us and the devil loves that @$#&. He uses it to keep us captive.

I am thankful your family member has been set free!

It reminds me of the man who drowned from a flood. He is on his front porch as the water rises and a row boat comes by "get in and we will save you" the man replies "no thank you, the Lord will provide"

the water rises and he is now on the porch roof and a motor boat comes by "get in and we will save you" the man replies "no thank you, the Lord will provide"

the water continues to rise and he is on the roof as a helicopter comes by
"get in and we will save you" the man replies "no thank you, the Lord will provide"

The man gets to heaven and is miffed he died. he says Lord you told me you would provide in my time of trouble, how could you let me drown out there?? The Lord replied " Well I sent you a row boat, a motor boat and a helicopter, what more could I do?!"

Marla64

Yes, it has been sweet to reconnect with her-- and get to know her for the first time. She was never free to be herself, she lived in constant fear and/or intimidation. I always thought she was a B-- well, you know what-- he had us all hoodwinked for several years. I saw through him finally 5 or 6 years ago, with wise hubby's help-- but still had never gotten to know her. It's been a big blessing come out of this whole sordid mess.

I love your lil' story-- it's so true. You're a doll!

Mireille

I was an early childhood teacher for around 2 years. 50% of the children were court placed for different reasons. Some moms were on drugs, in jail, just out of jail...etc.

I had one child, a little boy. His mom was from a country where she had lived in isolation. She left the 9 yr old home at night with the 1,3,5 yr olds. they were reported...she thought it was ok, cuz in her country this was fine. she was a really good person.

anyway....my point is she was not a child beater, but I wasn't privy to any of her records. Ok so one day I am changing the 1.5 yr old tyke and he has a huge blue mark over all of his butt. this is my 1st time changing him and I am livid. OMG what happened, did she hit him with a paddle??

It is my JOB to report this and I can be brought up on charges if something happens to him and I DONT say anything. i am torn, she is a good mom and I dont want the kids taken away.

HRS comes and BRINGS THE MOM! I am dying, crying because she trusts me and she spks spanish only so I cant even explain myself.

Turned out in darker skinned ppl these marks are like birthmarks, how could I know this? I mean it was BLUE. They showed me it didnt hurt.. The mom came and hugged me and said no problemo, you love my son.

I learned more in 2 yrs of working in the day care center than 14 yrs of schooling!!

My daughters are bi-racial and they both have these blue marks. My oldest daughter has it on one butt cheek and my youngest across her lower back. They do look like bruises and it was an honest mistake. She sounds like a good woman who understood what you were trying to do. :flowerforyou:

GTOgirl1969

He's now trying to make this all sound like it's my fault that CPS was called. "If you didn't yell at the kids so much....If you weren't such a f**king idiot..." I don't know what he said to the investigator when he was being questioned but the lady asked me (about four different times) if I had any history of mental illness. I think he is trying to make me look bad...I believe his personal goal is to have me in an insane asylum by the time I am 30. Today I have been called everything in the book "idiot" "retard" and "stupid b*tch" seem to be his favorites. I swear if I didn't have to uproot my kids' whole lives to do it, I'd be gone TODAY.

Marla64

I'm so sorry-- verbal abuse is sometimes more hurtful than physical-- and takes longer to heal.

Hang in there-- remember you are beautiful in the eyes of your Creator-- :flowerforyou:

Mireille

He's now trying to make this all sound like it's my fault that CPS was called. "If you didn't yell at the kids so much....If you weren't such a f**king idiot..." I don't know what he said to the investigator when he was being questioned but the lady asked me (about four different times) if I had any history of mental illness. I think he is trying to make me look bad...I believe his personal goal is to have me in an insane asylum by the time I am 30. Today I have been called everything in the book "idiot" "retard" and "stupid b*tch" seem to be his favorites. I swear if I didn't have to uproot my kids' whole lives to do it, I'd be gone TODAY.

Who is saying that?

GTOgirl1969

Who is saying that?

My husband.

Mireille

Who is saying that?

My husband.

I'm gonna pm you.

3babybeans

Who is saying that?

My husband.

I don't have the right words to tell you how sorry I am that you're dealing with CPS & (I'm holding back on calling names right now) your husband. I am not in any position to tell you what to do, but please remember that your kids are watching how he treats you & them. Uproot if you have to, sweetie! I'll be praying for you & your situation. :flowerforyou:

Phoenix_Rising

Who is saying that?

My husband.

I think I need to put you in contact with my mama.
She left, in the middle of the night, with three little girls (ages 2, 4 and 6) with the help of friends to escape mental and verbal, edging on physical, abuse of an adulterous husband. She left because she didn't want us girls thinking that was how a marriage was supposed to be. She went on to meet a wonderful man who she married 2 years later, and who has been a father to me for 19 years.
You need to remember that YOU are wonderful and worthy. :flowerforyou:

Timshel_

Weird one side of the story post.

All I care about is, hoping the child is okay in the end.

estherdragonbat

Post is from 2008. Child may be voting by now.