I need to talk...

Jackie_W

My 17 year old son went out tonight with his works for an early christmas party.
My husband went to pick him up at midnight (it'ss now 1:05am here), they should have been back half an hour ago. As they weren't I decided to phone them.
I didn't get an answer from my husband's phone so I tried my son's - he answered, in a very strange muffled voice, my husband took the phone and told me that our son's boss had assulted our son - and he had a fat lip. They are on their way to the police station now. I am so worried about our son, I decided to stay at home with the dogs, thinking they wouldn't be long, but now I wish I'd gone too, I feel so useless sitting here waiting.

Our son has had trouble with his works for the past 7-8 weeks, since he broke 2 ribs and fractured a 3rd at work, my husband is now sueing the company as it turns out there was no accident book, our son had not had training in manual handling, and the company had been sued for the same reason last year.

Our son has had threats against his employment since then, and to top it all off, his girlfriend phoned his works today and told the receptionist to pass a mest out sage to him - that he was dumped!

Sorry if I've vented, just need to get it otu

Jackie_W

My 17 year old son went out tonight with his works for an early christmas party.
My husband went to pick him up at midnight (it'ss now 1:05am here), they should have been back half an hour ago. As they weren't I decided to phone them.
I didn't get an answer from my husband's phone so I tried my son's - he answered, in a very strange muffled voice, my husband took the phone and told me that our son's boss had assulted our son - and he had a fat lip. They are on their way to the police station now. I am so worried about our son, I decided to stay at home with the dogs, thinking they wouldn't be long, but now I wish I'd gone too, I feel so useless sitting here waiting.

Our son has had trouble with his works for the past 7-8 weeks, since he broke 2 ribs and fractured a 3rd at work, my husband is now sueing the company as it turns out there was no accident book, our son had not had training in manual handling, and the company had been sued for the same reason last year.

Our son has had threats against his employment since then, and to top it all off, his girlfriend phoned his works today and told the receptionist to pass a mest out sage to him - that he was dumped!

Sorry if I've vented, just need to get it otu

ChubbyBunny

Dang!
I hope the cops nail his butt to the wall.
You don't go around beating up teenagers! (Well technically you shouldn't beat up anyone. )
What a complete moron!
I hope your son is okay and finds a way better job then working for losers like that.
Unsafe working conditions are sooo not cool.
Also, his girlfriend is an idiot.
Dumping someone via message....that's right up there with text dumping...what are they in Jr High! Ugh!

You're family is in my thoughts.
:flowerforyou:

LML79

sending prayers your way...... I hope everything turns out ok for your son..

3babybeans

Oh, how sucky! I hope they make it home soon so you can try to get some rest tonight. That girlfriend sounds like a winner. :noway: Good luck sorting everything out. :frown:

arewethereyet

So let us know if they are ok.

Jackie_W

My son was headbutted in the face and then punched in the mouth twice by this animal last night, my hubby and I took him up the hospital, we were there until 4:30 this morning, luckily he has no broken bones. We are now waiting for the police to turn up and take a statement - we are going to press charges. As my son is under 18, this bloke could even end up on the child protection register, I can't believe anyone would ever do this to anyone, let alone a child.

My son is worried abotu going back to work - the police officer I spoke to on the phone said to talk to the officers when they finally get here about our concerns, and they will advise us.
I am going to phone the solicitor dealing with the negligence case against the company tomorrow, as this manager told my son to leave the christmas do and the job or drop the charges, said if he chose to continue with the case, then this manager would 'do him over'. I am also going to phone ACAS tomorrow to discuss tribuneral - should it come to that.

I really feel for my son, this is his first job, and he was so excited when he got it, he loved working there, now he is too scared to go back and wants to leave asap. He told me in the early hours that he tried desparately to get hold of me last night but his phone wouldn't connect, and he just sat there crying for a few minutes. Then, this bloke started bullying him again, and he had to run out of the hotel in fear for his life, his dad was chasing round the roads looking for him, took almost an hour to track him down, the poor mite had no idea what he was doing, just knew he had to get away.

We are all absolutely exhausted, and I haven't even bothered to count my calories today, I'm too wrapped up in concern for my son at the moment to think about it. I've eaten breakfast and lunch, that's the main thing.

I'll let you guys know how we get on - thanks for listening :flowerforyou:

age1389

Oh my goodness!!:noway: What a thing to go through! I'm sorry to hear all this. Def. press charges and bring that company down



-Adrienne

Jackie_W

Police station just rang, they are sending up a PC this evening at 9pm - we've only waited in all day for it!!!
But I knew if I said it wasn't convenient, we would be waiting even longer.
I'll let you all know what happens.

Phoenix_Rising

I think that since your son's safety is at risk, he shouldn't go back to the job. If it were all verbal "drama" and bad feelings going on, it's one thing to encourage him to go back and work through this as a life lesson. However, he may attack back (or be in a position where he CAN fight back) and he may end up hurting someone else in self-defense, which still doesn't make the situation any better. I'd tell him to find a new job. And press those charges, Mama!! I cannot believe an adult would attack a minor. I hope they get this guy and prosecute to the fullest extent of the law!!!

Jackie_W

I think that since your son's safety is at risk, he shouldn't go back to the job. If it were all verbal "drama" and bad feelings going on, it's one thing to encourage him to go back and work through this as a life lesson. However, he may attack back (or be in a position where he CAN fight back) and he may end up hurting someone else in self-defense, which still doesn't make the situation any better. I'd tell him to find a new job. And press those charges, Mama!! I cannot believe an adult would attack a minor. I hope they get this guy and prosecute to the fullest extent of the law!!!

I just don't know what to think now guys...
I asked for and got a meeting with my son's works today - 2 meetings in fact.
The long and shoort of it is, it appears that my son has been lying to my I hubby and his employers :sad:
He told us on Saturday that he had been dumped by his girlfriend and his boss told him to take rest of day off on compassionate grounds. Then, his boss tells me, my son went to a manager on the Saturday and stated his uncle was sick and he had to go home, then the story changed to there was trouble at home, so they gave him an early lunch break, he had to return to work in an hour, which he didn't do.
He came home instead at 12noon - 2 hours after leaving the premises. He'd told his manager that he had trouble at home on Friday evening and hit the bottle, and that we had walked out and left him to it! There was no trouble at home on Friday - we all sat and watched a film together. :noway:

I just can't understand what is going on, maybe I should talk to my doctor, this is not the first time our son has told porkies, could it be that he has some kind of illness? Or am I reading too much into it?

Thanks for listening guys, I just don't know what to do for the best

Half of me thinks that the employer is just covering up trying to hide whatever has gone on, and the other half makes me think this guy I spokr to was genuinely sincere, I know my son can live with his head on the clouds sometimes, and that he can get a bit mouthy - which I m forever warning him about as he could say something to the wrong person and end up in trouble. Could it be possible that that is exactly what has happened, my son mouthing the wrong person and getting a thump for it?

Oh I'm just not going to try to work it out, I'll leave it to the police to get to the root of it! I don't like the thought of sdomeone assaulting my son and getting away with it, but on the other hand, I don't like the thought of wrongly accusing someone either :ohwell:

ChubbyBunny

I still say that assault is out of line, no matter the reason (unless self-defense).

I am sorry that it's more complicated for you.

age1389

Yeah it doesn't change the fact that he got assulted. Do you think you can ask your son what happened at work. He probably made that up so he can go see his girl?



-Adrienne

Phoenix_Rising

I'm sorry you are in this predicament. :frown: I have no good advice!

Jackie_W

I'm waiting for my hubby to come home - gonna discuss it with him first, then, talk to our son, I think the poor mite is still in shock, he was adement that this manager hit him, I just hope the hotel have CCTV footage, that will tell us exactly what went on.
I know my son can give the mouth occassionally, especially if he's had a few drinks, but he told me he was positive that he only had a couple. So the only other thing I can think of is that maybe someone in their infinate wisdom thought it funny to spike his drink - this apparently happened to someone else that night.
All I can really do is wait and see what the outcome is.
Thanks for your support guys :flowerforyou:

abs0830

Did the cops call the hotel? Make sure you get the footage if they have it. I've worked at a few hotels and we recycled the tapes...sometimes the next day. So, make sure that they keep any footage that they might have. Sorry, I just want to make sure that anything that could help is there and hotels don't think about these things.

I'm sorry that you're having such a hard time. I have no other advice.

Jackie_W

Did the cops call the hotel? Make sure you get the footage if they have it. I've worked at a few hotels and we recycled the tapes...sometimes the next day. So, make sure that they keep any footage that they might have. Sorry, I just want to make sure that anything that could help is there and hotels don't think about these things.

I'm sorry that you're having such a hard time. I have no other advice.

Yeah thanks, I've already asked the police to find that out.
There is a rumour going around my son's workplace this evening that he was knocked out and someone had spiked his drink too - with sambuca and some other drink.
There are a lot of things that the manager I saw today told me that don't add up, so I'm making a list and going to give it to the police.