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ninerbuff

Hey guys,
Any of you have a vasectomy? Any regrets, issues, problems, concerns? I'm going to do mine sometime before the end of August, not sure when though. I already had my initial consultation so it's just a matter of making the appointment. Some background: I'm almost 45 yrs old, I have 2 kids under the age of 10, I've been single for 2 yrs (divorced), and I'm in pretty good health.

Any input from you guys is greatly appreciated.

Have a friend who had it done and he tells me it hasn't affected his sex life.

SixCatFaerie

No regrets whatsoever. But I caution you. When the doctor tells you to take it easy for a couple of days, do it. Don't walk too much, just sit as much as you can. And buy some frozen peas. Sounds crazy I know. Use the bag of frozen peas as an ice pack. It allows the bag to mold around your testicles.

Good luck.

Agree w/ the above - defintely take it easy and avoid excesive walking for a couple of days. I had mine done on a Friday morning and was back at work on Monday - no problemd. It's a great choice to make . . .

I had it done about 5 years ago and I have noticed no change in my libido/desire, stamina or feeling when I "finish".

**Just remember it doesn't prevent you from catching any diseases ... so be careful out there (since your single).

Good Luck !!!!

My hubby had his in '95 & the advice about the peas is spot-on. (also wear that jock-strap 24/7 if you can! Will help tremendously!)

No difference whatsoever in performance, feel, stamina, etc. If anything, much better because the fear of an accidental pregnancy was gone!

We wanted it done so that i could get off BC pills that were making me sick. We knew that we didn't want any children, yet we had a very hard time finding a doctor to do it since we didn't have any already. The 6th one finally agreed. We figured that if by some chance we ever wanted them, we could make an informed decision (instead of an accident or in the heat of the moment). We could always have it reversed or do IV or something. Oddly enough, as soon as he had it done all thought of ever having children vanished for both of us! 15 years later & we are still so glad that we made that decision early on.

Good luck to you!

SavCal71

not a guy, but both of my husbands (ex and current) had vasectomies. Both reported very little pain at the time of/immediately following surgery. Both had no complications. Both had more pain the next day than the day of, but very manageable plain. Off work one day (Friday, day of surgery) and back to work on Monday. XH had it done with local in the doc's office. Current husband had it done at a surgery center under general (insurance company rules).

SixCatFaerie

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But does it taste the same??:devil:

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Lol, sure does! :embarassed:

Atlantique

Are you sure you are done with children? Try not to get any childless young ladies to fall in love with you most want babies eventually. Oh my brother had it done and his wife comments about how great it is all the time. :ohwell: lol

He's 45. He's probably not interested in "childless young ladies" who are silly enough to fall in love with a sterile man and still want babies - at least not interested in them longer than a few rolls

I wouldn't be so sure of that. Most men seem to want to date women younger than themselves, which means he'd be dating women in their 30's in all likelihood. The majority of them will either want kids or have some already, and a small minority will have decided they don't ever want them.

Also, "recently divorced" people really don't know what the hell they want for quite a long time. I'd be cautious of making any permanent decisions shortly after a divorce.

BuffTexan

THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU ALL that replied!!! I read all of the replies and I am VERY appreciative of the honesty and openness!

To re-iterate, I'm almost 45, divorced for 2 yrs, and I have 2 small kids in elementary school. I was dating a beautiful 32 yr old at the end of 2010/early 2011 and, you guessed it, she wanted family. Guys, this woman was smokin' hot BUT no way I can have kids after the crap I went through with my divorce! I ended it with her so I wouldn't waste her time... we were going in 2 different directions in our lives and I wasn't about to be the man that hindered her from her dreams of a family. She would have resented me forever.

Fast-forward to present time: I'm just making ends meet financially, child support is KILLING me. So, if I had another child, got divorced afterwards, I would literally be BROKE. My 2 little kids, through no fault of their own, don't have a daddy at home now. I'll be damned if I do that to another innocent child. I'll be up-front/honest with any future partner so she can make up her mind to be with me or not. I can't force anyone to stay or go but I can be honest. Also, I'm not promiscuous and I do not have casual sex.

Again, thank you ALL for your replies!!