Breast implants after weight loss...anyone?? :(

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  • sugarbone
    sugarbone Posts: 454 Member
    I have implants. However, this was to correct a medical deformity, which is why I got them so young. I am so happy with them, mainly because I had very small ugly breasts beforehand. They are comfortable and natural. Do not let the stigma get to you, you deserve to have the body you want. The only reasons that should stop you should be personal and medical ones.

    Can you afford it?
    Can you afford it in 10-25 years time when you'll need them replaced?
    Are you okay with scars?
    Can you accept the risk of medical complications like capsular contracture and symmastia?
    etc

    Personally I am just enthralled even months later with what my breasts look like. I feel like a normal girl who is excited to go bra shopping, wear a bikini, or lay naked in bed with my boyfriend. Just make sure you find a highly trained and experienced surgeon - most medical mishaps in breast surgery are down to inexperience and ineptitude (especially symmastia).
  • sugarbone
    sugarbone Posts: 454 Member
    My opinion is a combination of what everyone is saying... It's your body, so do what you want to feel good about your body. But I do also recommend therapy - I honestly think a certain amount of therapy should be required before any cosmetic surgery. Not because I think people should be discouraged out of their choice, only because it is a surgery that changes you. You just want to make sure you are doing it for the right reasons and talking to someone can help you be sure of that. As long as you want to do this for you - not because a significant other is pressuring you, or you think someone will love you more if you do it - then I say go for it.

    I don't think there is anything intrinsically wrong with getting cosmetic surgery. In fact, I've considered the possibility of getting a nose job in the future (I got hit in the face with a basketball when I was a teenager - I have a deviated septum and a bump on one side of my nose as a result). I get the whole "love what God gave" you thing, but at the same time, you can love yourself and see your body for the amazing thing it is but still want something to change. We are all on this website because we wanted our bodies to change - losing weight, gaining muscles, etc.

    I think requiring therapy is a really bad path to take. It should definitely be offered and promoted should someone want to talk about their concerns and insecurities, but requiring it is stupid. It's reminiscent of mother's requiring therapy before an abortion - it's just really none of the public's business.
  • mandylooo
    mandylooo Posts: 456 Member
    wow this is a big subject and I wanna say a few things about it. My feelings about plastic surgery vary greatly on the motive and the result of the surgery. People who were morbidly obese who lost a lot of weight and have extra skin...well, to me getting surgery then seems like it's more about reconstruction or repair from damage from something that shouldn't have happened in the first place. But women with perfectly normal healthy bodies getting surgery to match some disturbing social standard out of low self esteem is different. Its this latter category that ought to seek out therapy because it's true that NO WOMAN will ever be a PERFECT women by societal beauty standards- they photoshop those images and everyone ages. So that's where I make the distinction.

    You of course will have to do what's right for you. And everyone is different. But I think that the anti-implant sentimentality isn't just about class and it isn't just about jealousy (though class is an issue actually). I think some of us realize how our negative body image is part of a larger societal attitude that negatively impacts women and girls and when a woman gets impants and surgery just to meet those standards, it can indicate to those of us who are working against that negative part of our cutlure that this woman is not only Not in the ranks with us fighting that problem, she's paying her hard earned money to conform to it.

    On the other hand, I caution against being overly negative about surgery because I whole heartedly embrace the fact that women CAN get this kind of surgery to repair damage- like women who have lost breasts to cancer. Or women who were morbidly obese getting a tummy tuck or a breast lift. I support that. I don't think you should have to walk around your entire life feeling shameful of your body being disfigured because you used to be extremely unhealthy (or even just because that's what happened when you were pregnant)- I think this sort of reconstructive surgery should be paid for by insurance and treated the same as any other reconstructive surgery.

    And I also caution against being overly negative about surgery because, like other choices women are free to make today, we don't know any woman's personal story behind what she is doing to her body and I support any woman's freedom and right to make choices about her own body, regardless of how I feel about the choice itself.

    I have lost girth due to weight loss and breastfeeding...and I've thought about surgery, sure. But I realized that I'm not disfigured, I'm just not like the girls in the magazines and I realize I wouldn't want my daughter or any other woman to feel bad about not being like the girls in the magazines, so I make the personal decision to refuse to conform to it. I'd rather spend my money on an adventure with my loved ones....but I'm also very lucky. I haven't any horrible stretch marks or loose skin. I never lost a body part to a disease. While I'm no Pamela Anderson (hahahaha! yes I picked her on purpose!), I'm relatively well proportioned and the problems I have with my body I realize are unrealistic and unhealthy and for my own political and psychological reasons, I feel a far stronger and more beautiful woman by choosing to refuse to get surgery.

    I pretty much agree with this. I don't really like how cosmetic surgery is being normalised in society , but I have to accept that there are cases where it really will make someone feel better about themselves in a way which isn't just based on an inevitably unattainable media image of perfection.

    I'd advise to try and work out whether it really will make you happy - we all suffer from insecurities about our bodies, but you'll find that this decreases as you get older and your self confidence increases. The only way we're ever happy is to be happy with what we've got - the whole advertising industry is geared to making us unhappy with what we've got so that we keeping things. And that includes breasts.
  • Shyloh1
    Shyloh1 Posts: 422 Member
    implants won't make you feel comfortable about your body for long. might wanna try therapy instead and a chat with heidi montag.

    WTF comment is that?
  • AlsDonkBoxSquat
    AlsDonkBoxSquat Posts: 6,128 Member
    I'm getting mine after child #2. I nursed the first one and don't want to take any chance of tissue damage prohibiting me from doing so with the second. Anyway, even my sister who didn't nurse her second (she got hers inbetween baby #1 and baby #2) was displeased with the excess after baby#2 and has been talking about getting them perked back up.

    I told my husband that I can do amazing things with my body, I can lose weight, I can run for miles, I can lift things up and put them down, I can bend and stretch and push untill I'm blue in the face. There are 2 things I can't do: 1 - Get my beautiful perky breasts back that I spent 18 months with when I was nursing unless I'm preganant and nursing again and 2 - ever fully lose the appearance of my cellulite. I'm cool with #2, that's my heredity and even if I had some cool sculpting or something crazy done it will always come back, but I can do something about #1. I had beautiful large B perky boobs all my life (including when I was fit in middle and high school), I'd lay on my back and they'd point to the stars. When I was pregnant I still had them in a full C to small D. I've lost so much weight and so much stuffing that I have A's and I hate the appearnce of them. The rest of me rocks my socks, so I want my mid to full C's back. It makes it difficult to find clothing that fits properly at this size, dresses and bathing suits are made for people who are more proportionate than I am, so I just want to fix that.
  • strunkm4
    strunkm4 Posts: 265 Member
    I went from a nice looking C cup and now I'm a Double A. Don't get me wrong, I have all the self confidence in the world, I'm just tired of having to buy bras in the Walmart kids section. My boobs went from being perky lurkey, to just hanging there, hanging down. I'm getting a lift with small implants put in place, just had my consultation. It's not that anyone may need therapy because it's a self esteem issue, or whatever you want to call it. I feel it's about making something look as good as the rest of your body. I know that I don't want tiny saggy boobs hanging down anymore looking like aliens.
  • FitBunnyEm
    FitBunnyEm Posts: 320
    i am going to do it after ive lost weight. Therapy isnt needed, its how you feel as a person, so many people have breast enhancements, these days you can be back to work after 2 weeks. go chat to a surgeon. Let me know how u get on..x
  • tnrunningnurse
    tnrunningnurse Posts: 549 Member
    implants won't make you feel comfortable about your body for long. might wanna try therapy instead and a chat with heidi montag.
    Heidi really is not a good example of someone making a healthy decision about plastic surgery. I made the decision to get implants after nursing my children took my once 34C's down to barely an A, but my hips did not get smaller, buying dresses was IMPOSSIBLE. if it fit in the hips it was WAY to BIG on top, if it fit on the top to snug on the hips. I think it is a personal decision that each woman must decide on her own. your comment comes across as judgemental and uninformed. As far as them looking "fake" it depends on the profile you get. My advice is research the plastic surgeons in your area and at least get a consult.
  • LuLuSUPER
    LuLuSUPER Posts: 189
    implants won't make you feel comfortable about your body for long. might wanna try therapy instead and a chat with heidi montag.

    Therapy like boob therapy? Can I join this profession?
    :laugh: good job!

    I think you should get the implants , you know you want too and will face judgement either way you go. ( Plus go proportionate, not dolly parton.)
    So be happy and get them, after I have kids im totally getting them and have made that clear to my fiancee. He isnt crazy about it but he does like the ones he sees on tv and everywhere else.

    Preserve your sexy baby!!
  • ktdid626
    ktdid626 Posts: 185 Member
    I wanted to read all the posts, but I can't get past the back and forth stuff, so I skipped to the end.

    I am now 5 weeks post -op (breast reconstruction with implants). I spent 7 years with a 100 pound loss that ravaged my body and left me with boobs that were fine in a bra, but naked, they made me cry. I spent a lot of time trying to make this decision. I was getting a breast reconstruction one way or the other, but did I want implants or not? Well that was a whole other discusion.

    There is a lot to consider about having this done. However, In the short 5 weeks ( ok 3 because the first 2 weeks don't count since I was in total After-Shock) I have realized that they make me feel whole again.

    Yes people look down on plastic surgery. A lot of women look down on it simply because they can't afford it and it makes them feel better to take a stand against it rather than pine away for it. Others can live with their bodies the way they are. I could not.

    I am happy I did it. Still getting used to it, but I can honestly say, that I don't have to worry about that part of me anymore. Now I can concentrate on working out and toning areas that I do have some control over.

    Good luck in your decision!

    Are you sure you're not 26 or 32? I can't believe you're in your 40s! Your weight loss took years off, and you look amazing. I am planning to enhance my appearance after my chest flattens out. I'm rather tall and I want to be curvy with good proportions. My chest has gone from small c to large d. I like the current size, but it wont be there by the time I hit goal. I have also already researched my doctor and I'm looking into the gummy bear implants should run me about 5,800. Not bad considering. I have been with my boyfriend for 4 years this fall, and he is all for my decision. Maybe I can get the boobies before the wedding.

    Good luck to all the other pals who are moving ahead with improving the rack!
  • sugarbone
    sugarbone Posts: 454 Member
    I'm going to post this photo I took to show my boyfriend, who's overseas right now, because it's silly and mildly inappropriate (no nipples, just bandages) to show you my outcome. I had anatomical silicone overs. I discussed at great length with my doc the implant and procedure to give me natural, comfortable, long lasting breasts.

    These implants corrected my Tuberous Breast Deformity. As a girl I'd cry all the time, get depressed, and wonder why it had to me of all people to be born with tiny deformed boobs. I am SO happy with them. That said, even without deformity, if you want to shell out the cash for boobs and it's really what you want - DO IT! Think long and hard about it, and find a *great* doc.

    (yeah, I completely forget how to link an image on this site. doesn't use standard bbc)  If someone judges you by the silicone content of your breasts, it is not someone you want to be friends with.
  • Lolli1986
    Lolli1986 Posts: 500 Member
    i understand getting implants after weightloss due to the 'deflated' thing.

    small boobs are nice too, though, hey everyone. and slightly saggy is normal for anything pretty much above an A, or anyone who has breastfed at all. really long and sagging, but still nice and round is normal for anything above about a D (out of a bra).

    something a bit radical that i did when i was very uncomfortable with my naturally AA boobs was to go and look at artistic nude photography of other women. i discovered tiny boobs are not at all uncommon on thin girls, and they don't look bad at all (i thought they looked HORRIBLE on me, but discovered that i thought they looked good on everyone else... dysmorphia much?). i also learned the secret that was otherwise kept to men only - boobs are fantastic. at just any size, any level of perkiness or droop, they are awesome. there is a reason that lots of guys say 'i just love boobs' ;)

    being so small-busted myself, though, i totally understand the desire for nice boobs. an ex who was a real boobs-man who really should have never dated me once told me i looked like a skinny boy, so i had some real discomfort around that. however, i did not need to see a psychologist to find a way to feel happier about my breasts! i also felt that cutting myself open was a bit extreme since i had been reasonably happy with them prior to him.

    my only warning is this: remember that this does involve cutting yourself open. i've had myself cut open a few times to fix a few things electively - a hernia, a crazy painful vein, etc... and whenever you cut yourself open there is a risk of infection and complication. getting really sick and horrible scarring are among the risks of any elective surgery, but at the same time, i don't want to overstate that risk. i just think that through the highly lucrative normalisation of cosmetic surgery this risk is vastly understated. as someone with horrible scarring in places that i would rather appear sexy, nerve damage in places that i really rather i could feel, and multiple flow-on complications resulting in multiple operations, i feel the need to state that, yeah, this is an unlikely, but possible, outcome. i was one of the unlucky 'unlikely' ones.

    just thought i should add what i did to find happiness with my boobs in case you were looking for an alternative.

    have i said the word boobs enough yet? lol.
  • Lolli1986
    Lolli1986 Posts: 500 Member
    you know you want to [get the implants] and will face judgement either way you go.

    ^ this woman is wise!!! exactly. *nod nod nod*
  • Axels91
    Axels91 Posts: 213
    I've bounced back and forth between wanting bigger boobs and loving my small ones. As long as they're perky and not taking up too much room they're fine with me. Not all implants are huge and fake looking, and I I had the money I would definitely go for a consultation.
  • mrseelmerfudd
    mrseelmerfudd Posts: 506 Member
    i can already feel my boobs starting to sag with the weight im losing, however, i personally couldn't go through with breast implant. im just going to get some really good bras lol!! but each to their own, i agree with previous posts, definately talk it through with a dr.
  • kvissy
    kvissy Posts: 205 Member

    I am also scared to take the plunge...money (a big one!), the whole "guys like real boobs" thing, people thinking your cheap, the pain, the fact you have to get them done again every 10 years or so, the fact you can't do chest exercises so well, 6 whole weeks away from working out while you recover, the fact my mum would never forgive me, the fact my auntie had her boobs done and the implants split and she ended up in hospital etc... Yes, it really bothers me and there are so many reasons why not to! But it's not like I'd want to look like Jordan!! I just want a nice handful!! :laugh: And let's face it - it would make all the hard work really show when you actually had that "to die for figure!"

    This is probably the story of my life. Chubby, thin, tall, short, I was never able to fill an A cup. Still can't. Not really sure if its possible for them to get much smaller even w/ my continuing weight loss either. I'm thinking if I hit goal weight by my 30th bday that'll be my present to myself. Everyone that I know that has done it rants and raves about it and says it was the best decision of their lives. Of course I've heard horror stories but with everything comes a risk....right? :ohwell:
  • Beastette
    Beastette Posts: 1,497 Member
    I'm considering it. My only hesitation is the recovery time (I hate to be incapacitated so much that I had my kids without pain meds...in case I had to kick someone's *kitten* and run outta there). I can't imagine weeks without working out. That is the most terrifying bit of it for me.

    I am a B, and good with that. I would just like them...refreshed a bit. I just want the stuffing replaced a little, but not really a fan of giant boobies. I had those when I was obese, nursing, AND pregnant...all at the same time.
  • brandi22479
    brandi22479 Posts: 81 Member
    There is nothing wrong with you for feeling this way and YOU DO NOT NEED THERAPY!!! (That mess always ticks me off!) Getting implants to improve how one part of your body looks TO YOU is no different than working as hard as you did to achieve your fitness results on the rest of your body. What happened to your breasts are normal. I've lost a large amount of weight in my life and mine have done the same thing. I've considered it as well... We ALL want to be proud of ourselves whether it's our physical, emotional or social state. Do for you what will make you feel good about YOU! I'm proud of you for your fitness success! People like you are always a motivator to people like me!
  • Di3012
    Di3012 Posts: 2,247 Member
    Ok, so now you get implants, next year you get "perfect" breasts but you'll think your cheeks are ugly too so you undergo surgery and fix the "problem". But then you realize that you don't like your nose, OMG new surgery... hopefully either you or your daddy are very rich.

    Wow...Very negative don't ya think?

    Yes indeed. Written by somebody who has never had any I would wager, therefore, their opinion is not one which the OP was after.
  • DannyMussels
    DannyMussels Posts: 1,842 Member
    Do it up.

    Most women in the fitness industry have em.

    If you get that skinny/lean, you've earned em.
  • Elizabeth_C34
    Elizabeth_C34 Posts: 6,376 Member
    So im only 25...but losing 1/3rd of my body weight has left my once big boobies into deflated versions of their former selves :( i busted my butt to get to where I am only to now feel just as bad about a new problem with my body...*sigh*

    Does anyone here have implants? Are you happy with your decision?
    I hate to admit it, but the taboo still scares me...like people will look down on me for having "fake" boobs...but the way they look now when i bend forward almost makes me wanna cry...the money is also a factor obviously...but I feel it may be worth the cost to finally feel comfortable in my own body.

    I don't see a problem with getting them as long as you're comfortable with it.

    I will probably do the same if mine get any more saggy than they are. I've only lost one cup size but they look so old and saggy now.
  • jamiesadler
    jamiesadler Posts: 634 Member
    I have thought about this as well. If it makes you happy who cares what anyone else thinks. I plan on getting a lovely set as soon as I hit my goal. I say go for it!
  • RocketsGirl
    RocketsGirl Posts: 339 Member
    I fully intend to take care of the girls once I hit my goal. I don't care what anyone else thinks. This would be totally for me!

    If you feel that strongly I think you should do it.
  • BAMFMeredith
    BAMFMeredith Posts: 2,810 Member
    One of my best friends lost quite a bit of weight and got a breast augmentation. She went tasteful to a C cup, and hers look AWESOME! She did it 100% for herself. Hers look very natural and don't look disproportionate to her body or anything. I've already decided that when I'm at goal weight and done having children, I'm getting some work done on the girls....FOR ME.

    That's one big thing that bothers me, when people get them done because of what somebody else thinks. Eff what anybody else thinks, if it makes YOU happy and you're doing it for your own personal benefit, then go for it! I don't think plastic surgery is something to be "looked down on", although I will admit there have been times I've seen a woman with overdone huge implants, or a really obvious bad nose job, or whatever and thought "why?????"

    Research your surgeon CAREFULLY and remember, you pay for what you get. Plastic surgery is SURGERY and researching the right surgeon is extremely important.
  • michele_lynn
    michele_lynn Posts: 66 Member
    bump.

    I'm in the same boat. Finally reached my goal weight, but went from a 36C to a 32A/B. My (soon to be ex) husband HATES fake boobs, but he has decided to leave me for a girl 8 years younger. (I'm 27, she's 19. He's 32.. yeah, gross.) So now I have a nice, slender body, a fresh single life, and I'd LOVE to not look like I have deflated balloons on my chest when I lean forward. Ugh.

    So not in my budget at the moment, but definitely something I'd want to look into.
  • Lynvincible2012
    Lynvincible2012 Posts: 28 Member
    Well I think you look amazing in your pictures, and hope to get even half as toned as you are! :)
    I think implants would be a big mistake, you disliked your body and made a decision to change, which you have done, now you just have to find the confident thin girl that was hidden away underneath. It's prob a case of you're so used to complaining about your body that you are still stuck in that mindset, i'd definitely get chatting to a few close friends and let them tell you how great you look, build yourself up and learn to love the body you worked so hard for :) xx
  • leahnoelle31
    leahnoelle31 Posts: 79 Member
    I am neither for or against implants - do what you think is right for you.

    But PLEASE consider first whether you plan on breastfeeding babies in the future - and if you do, wait til you're done with the babies.

    A lot of women successfully BF with implants - but what if you're not one of them? It would be a real shame not to be able to feed your babies as nature intended. So if you think you might - I would caution you to wait.

    Trust me - it's worth it! (And you'll have big cans while you're pregnant and nursing any way!) :bigsmile:


    I was so hoping for big pregnancy boobs...I did go from an A to a little bit bigger A or (dare I say it) a small B! I think my hips took the added boob fat for their own use during pregnancy :tongue:
  • adrian_indy
    adrian_indy Posts: 1,444 Member
    Do what ever you want.
  • rosalee87
    rosalee87 Posts: 221 Member
    I lost around 50 pds and yes my boobs do sag now and I am even more worried about my body image than I was before. My breast were a 40DD and are now a 32D sometimes C and I hate the way they look but my partner still like them - the one thing that makes me extra crazy is losing my butt - I'm flat now and my mother points it out all the time but, I'm slowly getting comfortable with it all. I think you should just give it time - I hardly think about it now compared to a few months ago it was always on my mind and I'd be looking in the mirror and crying. I understand how you feel and this is your decision, think it through and go for it if it's what you desire.
  • TinkrBelz
    TinkrBelz Posts: 866 Member
    I breastfed 6 kids from 14 months-2 1/2 years. I went from an A to a DD 6 times. That does a number on your boobs. If my boobs had gone back to my pre-baby cute perky As, I would have left them alone. But, no such thing happened.

    So, I got implants 5 1/2months ago. I love them!

    I did not/do not need therapy!

    I did not get them because some magazine said I would look prettier.

    I did not do it for my husband. He actually is a butt man and really did not care if I got implants or not. But, he understood why I wanted them.

    And to those that say fake boobs look awful, well, trust me...breastfed 6 kids' boobs look way worse!!!

    Only you can make the decision on whether or not you should get implants. Do lots of research and KNOW everything there is to know about the surgery and your surgeon. Do it for yourself and get the size that you want...not what other people think you should do or have.

    And if some people cut you down for getting implants...who cares! It is your body!!! After 17 years of being pregnant and nursing...it is fun to have pretty boobs back again!!!
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