Have anyone experience bullying due to your weight/how you l

dewi7785

I just want to share my recent experience. Two nights ago I was walking back home from work ..trying to exercise ..It was quite late and there were only a number of pedestrians on the street. A car drove by and one of the passengers in the car rolled down the window and screamed at me "Fatty!!! go eat and die!!" I was so shocked and mortified. The comment was obviously directed at me. Though it was not the first time anyone ever made fun of my weight or how I look, this was my first time experiencing drive-by bullying.
Though saddened by how heartless people can be, this experience only made my resolution to lose weight stronger. I will work my hardest to make sure that this kind of thing will never happen again because I hope that they will find no more reasons to call me a fatty!!!
Does anyone ever experience bullying or discrimination because of how you look? How do you deal with it?

Best,
Dewi

ChantalGG

OH please dont take it to heart. That person is immature and idiot. I was 9 month pregnant and i attended my cousin's stag and doe and as i was leaving the hall at midnight a car drove by and yelled out something along the lines of me being a fat pregnant slut and I need to be inside. tsk tsk. Some people are horrible. I was wearing pants and pretty much a Moo moo as a shirt.

pinkgigi

I had an argument with a person down the beach last summer (he was messing with wildlife in a marine park), and in the end he said something about my being fat. I completely deflated his ego when I laughed in his face and said 'Oh no you don't find me sexually attractive, I'm cut to the quick'. My daughter and I laughed all the way home.

After all, who is that person to you? Someone who is yelling out their car window is pretty gross in my opinion and doesn't have any power over me to make me feel anything. We will never please everyone, we can only please ourselves. Good for you to 'reframe' the situation in a motivating way.

GG

natskedat

In junior high school, I was bullied because I was white at a mostly minority school.

In high school, I was bullied because I didn't want to drink with the "popular" kids.

At my last workplace, I was bullied because I was thin and nice.

The result? Kill 'em with kindness. Kindness is a mirror. Their awful words and actions bounce off me and come back to them benign. By harboring anger and frustration, you give your bully (aquaintance or stranger) too much power. By diffusing their idiocy with love, they become insignificant and their actions become laughable.

Suzannejl

A very good friend of mine had something like that happen to her. She is very tall, and has lost a huge amount of weight, lap band surgery a few years back. But she is over 6' tall and big boned, I really mean it! She will never be a petite anything! But she looks good and this Walmart Idiot followed her through the store one time and insulted her the entire time! There are some true *kitten* out there! They know nothing about how hard one works, or how far they've come! I have to wonder if they are truely hurting inside and therefore must hurt others. I am sorry one of these jerks hurt you. Stay strong and keep on plugging!

billsica

someone yelled out a car window hi fatty to me one a few years ago, I assume it was directed at me, I was with my gf at the time and a few friends going to a bar. . stupid drunk girls.

Bumblebee26

I get yelled at when I'm on my bike. I don't get called fat or anything,but people just yell something like, " Go Lance" or "Get a car you damn hippy!" I pay them no mind, and go along my merry way, because in the end, I'm doing something to better myself. annnd save some gas money and stress of commuting to work. ;x

Patchworkperson

I'm fortunate not to have experienced this kind of attitude/behaviour. All it does is show there's another moron in the world. Glad to hear that you will use their negativity to strengthen your resolve to live a healthier life. Keep going.

spyro88

How does the saying go?

"I may be fat, but you're ugly, and I can lose weight!"

This moron is always going to be a moron. They are the type of person who would never be able to show the type of commitment you are showing to losing weight. At the end of the day, YOU will be the winner. Who cares about some random idiot? Your life has to be pretty messed up if you're going around shouting things at people you don't even know.

Just rise above it.

Ughhhh_

Oh my gosh, I'm so sorry that happend. What an idiot!
Unfortunatly, I know exactly how you feel. I was with my friends in the hallways and her boyfriend pushed me in the lockers and said "Move it fatty" . My friend didn't defend me, she gave him a look I guess. His response? "Well I can't help it she's fat and blocking up the whole hallway."

I have an eidetic memory and that's just one of the things I remember so vividly.


You are b-e-a-utifullll and don't let anyone tell you otherwise(:

clarech

Hi just ignore it they are the childish ones. I've been called horrible things many times but I just see it as their problem not mine. A guy once stopped me in the street and said "hey fat ***** the burger bars that way!" To which I replied "oh thanks I've been lookinf all day for that!" The confused look on his face was priceless.

DizzieLittleLifter

Well those asshats deserve to get diarrhea! I'm glad that you can spin it and gain power from their cruelty. I really honestly and truly don't understand cruelty like that. I really don't get what someone can get from being mean. I'm sorry that someone did that to you it makes my heart hurt to think that there are people out there like that.

sauerkrautpolka

I too, have been called names for being overweight. I have anxiety problems as it is with going out in public and the stares and name-calling doesn't help AT ALL! I haven't been called anything in a long time, but it haunts me every time I leave the house. I'm really sorry so many of you have dealt with the same thing. I don't understand how people (I use that term lightly) can be so cruel. Especially if they see you out walking, trying to do something about your weight to begin with. I've noticed that these types of situations usually don't arise unless they're in a group of other people. They're trying hard to impress their friends and get a good laugh out of them. Pretty pathetic! I think it's great that you're using it for the positive and making you push harder to get to your goal weight. We can't let these sad bullies get us down... I'd feel sorry for them if I wanted to care about them, but I'd much rather erase them completely from my memory because they're not worth it!

koosdel

People in cars yell at me all the time... there must be a lot of deaf people around here too, because a lot of them use sign language.

I usually just smile and wave, or make kissy faces at them. They seem to like that.

otr12

I saw some guys sitting at a bus stop and yelling at the guy sitting at the red light to "Get a real car".

This is the kind of people you're dealing with. Why would you let it bother you?

kapeluza

I had a walk-by-bullying once while on vacation. I was in Barcelona, sitting down at a corner cafe by myself. I was sitting in front of the window facing the street and eating a falafel pita when a man walked past my window and as he passed he imitated me, as if he were holding a pita in his hands and acted like he was eating it and then proceeded to put his hands down to his sides and started to make a motion with them as if he were getting fatter and fatter while looking at me. I almost just flicked him off but decided it was not worth it and turned the other way as he kept on walking.

Don't feel bad, there are immature idiots like that person anywhere you go. Just have to be the better person and ignore it! ((hugs))

liftingbro

I have not had that happen, but then I tend to look like I have an attitude a lot and I look strong fat so people probably think twice about lipping off to me.

They said that to me I would say, "FU, come here and say that, pssy"

I have seen other people be targeted this way before and it's normally young guys doing it.

One time two boys were doing this to a girl outside a school when I was walking by. They were probably 16 and weighed about 300 pounds between the two of them, the girl was obviously overweight. I felt really bad and walked by at first, then one of them told her, "No dude's going want yor fatass, you should go kill yourself and get it over with now". I couldn't let it go and turned around walked back and made the two little *kitten* run. They we're not so tough when an older guy that could probably hulk smash the **** out of them and had 70 pounds on either of them got their face. :bigsmile:

Pidders89

Hey

I had this ALOT growing up. Kids would say things like "wide losd coming through" "fatty" and just laughing at me mainly in secondary school. I tried not to let it get to me but obviously it does and thats one reason why i lost weight.

Now a few years since ive left school people are adding me on facebook saying how amazing i look...even the popular girls who didn't bother with me who have since put weight on themselves haha

xxx

PalmettoparkGuy

I ride my bike a lot for exercise and people love to yell things as they pass in their car. I guess they think it's funny when I get startled. In your case I think they would have yelled something no matter what, they just picked the fat comment because their losers, but they was have said something if you were skinny, etc. I exercise a lot outside, running, biking, walking, and it really could be dangerous. There are people that are looking for "targets" Be careful guys.

ninerbuff

Meh. Regardless of how you look, jealous, insecure, lonely and unloved people will try to knock you down. Heck I've had people comment to me about where I get my juice (steroids) from. They just don't want to believe someone can be muscular without drug use and hard work.
Don't take it personal. If their comments affect you, then they've won. That's all they're looking for. Some sort of moral win to make them feel good about their pathetic lives.

proctorgirl07

the problem isnt with you, it is with them. What gives them the right to yell out anything at someone else? Karma's a b!^$h! You can only control yourself and how you let that affect you. You shouldnt want to lose it for "those type of people", it still has to be for you, about you not really for what others think or say! I know it plays a roll in our lives and sometimes makes up for good or bad but in the end it's for how you feel about yourself and your health!!! Good luck to you!