This pretty much blew me away...secret mom confessions.

jmruef

Just a thought about sending kids to school when they're sick...sometimes school is where kids get their meals for the day - breakfast and lunch. Mom and/or dad might be out of work, homeless, in a shelter. Sometimes Mom or Dad (think single-parent families here) have to work or they don't get paid, and they can't afford child care. (Lots of daycares will have parents come get their kids if they're sick anyway.) Maybe they got laid off from that job that let them afford it (gotta love the economy), and now they're working a different job that pays the bills, but not much else. If they don't get paid they don't pay utilities, rent, groceries, etc. They would rather stay home with a sick kid and comfort them and help them get well, but in their minds it truly is the lesser of the two evils to make sure the house has electricity (or that they have a house!) for one more month.

jkleman79

Blew you away? I'm guessing you don't have kids. OR you have a lovely woman who takes care of them. (:

I agree... and the people that are disturbed by this prob dont have kids either.

being a mother is the most rewarding but also the most thankless job!!!!

As I politely agreed with this earlier in the post no I do not have kids.. I work with kids that were neglected, raped, molested and have had friends committing suicide. Sooo if anyone wants to take over those issues I will gladly take over some of the parenting ones.

LCDMomma

I’m a Mom of triplets and here are my answers~Honest

#1.) They Want to Be Left Alone.
YES PLEASE!! I would just love to be able to go to the bathroom by myself and not hear: MOMMA what are you doing? I want to come in. Momma ____ hit me etc.

#2.) They're Weird About Seeing Other Women Breastfeeding.
Doesn’t both me.

#3.) They Send Their Kids to School Sick.
I try not to do this but my job has threatened me if I take off any more days for sick kids then I will be fire. As long as I check into work I can leave to go pick sick kids up from school.

#4.) Most of Them Would Like a Do Over.
My kids are still young but I would have LOVED to be a SAHM

4% question their decision to have kids ALTOGETHER . . . and 10% wish their child was the opposite sex. Of the moms who wished their kid was the other gender, 60% wish they'd had a girl instead of a boy.
I’m happy to have my babies and fought to have them. I have 2 boys and a girl and that is what I wanted. Although one day I would love to have another girl.

#5.) They'd Choose Great Sleep Over Great Sex.
I would choose good sex! Get a good workout in:

#6.) They're Distracted by Technology.
I get on the computer while I’m at work or after the trio is asleep.

#7.) They Medicate Their Kids More Than You Think.
We do have to give Dramamine on car rides, since the trio gets car sick. One benefit is they sleep another is they don’t puke in the car

#8.) They Judge Other Moms Constantly.
I try not to judge other Mom’s but I feel as a Mom I’m constantly being judged by other Mom’s and having them compare their kids to mine.

#9.) They Have a Favorite Child.
Nope. Although there are days one of my kids are easier than the other 2 but I have never favored one over another

#10.) They Use Their Kids to Get Out of Things.
Not really. Maybe a few times but I can’t think of any good examples when I have

Two other quick findings from the survey: 25% are worried their partner is a better parent than they are . . . and 44% say they'd rather be 15 pounds thinner than add 15 points to their child's IQ
I Think both of us are good parents but in different areas.
Shoot I want smart kids so when they grow up they can make big $$

VeganInTraining

I get what you're saying about working with those children, and it is very easy to start hating parents when working with children who have been that kind of stuff (I used to work in that field as well) however, the survey is about the majority of parents not about the 10 percent who neglect their children and allow bad things to happen to them (and I'm not saying that if a child is raped or molested it is the parents fault, but sometimes it IS the parents fault) HOWEVER, after spending extensive time with my siblings who have kids, I totally understand why most mom's would feel the way these moms do. (aside from drugging them, wishing they never had them, and wanting to lose weight rather than better their children) I am trying to have kids now and can't wait to, not get any sleep, never have any time alone, get people grossed out by me breastfeeding and the like, I also know that I will miss the days when I got 8 hours of sleep, had a rockin body, and could do what I wanted when I wanted.

I get where you're coming from, I've been there, it took me time not to hate all parents but then I realized that just because someone misses their past sometimes does not mean they would trade what they have now to have it back.

VeganInTraining

Also, I can't WAIT to be out of the military and back to working with troubled kids. It was the hardest job i ever had, but I miss it and those children everyday (even the one that attacked me with scissors)

jkleman79

I get what you're saying about working with those children, and it is very easy to start hating parents when working with children who have been that kind of stuff (I used to work in that field as well) however, the survey is about the majority of parents not about the 10 percent who neglect their children and allow bad things to happen to them (and I'm not saying that if a child is raped or molested it is the parents fault, but sometimes it IS the parents fault) HOWEVER, after spending extensive time with my siblings who have kids, I totally understand why most mom's would feel the way these moms do. (aside from drugging them, wishing they never had them, and wanting to lose weight rather than better their children) I am trying to have kids now and can't wait to, not get any sleep, never have any time alone, get people grossed out by me breastfeeding and the like, I also know that I will miss the days when I got 8 hours of sleep, had a rockin body, and could do what I wanted when I wanted.

I get where you're coming from, I've been there, it took me time not to hate all parents but then I realized that just because someone misses their past sometimes does not mean they would trade what they have now to have it back.

I don't hold all parents to this at all...it does make you dislike some though that is for sure. Really one of the topics that has always blown my mind, and I have found mostly in the U.S is the problem parents have about talking about sex with their kids. All I am asking is be an adult and talk to them about this stuff its natural it happens and no matter what you think its already happening. Kids should be learning this stuff the first year of junior high PERIOD! I know kids myself at 9 and 10 years old with kids! TALK TO THEM ABOUT SEX!!! If you think you are in time still you are probably sadly wrong. I have been avoiding starting anything on here and just reading but this one bugs the **** out of me. I have two sisters that had kids at 16 so I seen the havoc it has on families. Help prevent it! Ok thats my soap box. Dislike me all you want but I am standing hard and strong on that topic. THANKS! =0)

VeganInTraining

OMG I completely agree! Also, teach your children that it's OK to say "no" even to your family. I hate when my step mom makes me nieces and nephews feel bad if they don't want to give me a hug. Does it make me sad when they don't want to hug me? Yes, but they only see me once or twice a year so i'm not super familiar. I think it's REALLY important to teach your kids they can say no to physical touch even if it's from someone that the family trusts. I used to work at a smoothy shop and this woman came in with her kids and a family member. The family member picked up the kid and the kid screamed like crazy. The mom simply took the kid, put her down and said "it's ok, if you don't want him to hold you, you can just say 'please don't touch me' " I wanted to give that mom a freakin metal! I agree with you 100 percent on this one!

jkleman79

OMG I completely agree! Also, teach your children that it's OK to say "no" even to your family. I hate when my step mom makes me nieces and nephews feel bad if they don't want to give me a hug. Does it make me sad when they don't want to hug me? Yes, but they only see me once or twice a year so i'm not super familiar. I think it's REALLY important to teach your kids they can say no to physical touch even if it's from someone that the family trusts. I used to work at a smoothy shop and this woman came in with her kids and a family member. The family member picked up the kid and the kid screamed like crazy. The mom simply took the kid, put her down and said "it's ok, if you don't want him to hold you, you can just say 'please don't touch me' " I wanted to give that mom a freakin metal! I agree with you 100 percent on this one!

Yea I see this a lot with the touch thing. I am certified in pediatric massage therapy actually. Children shouldn't have to deal with bad or unwanted touch and should have their own voice against it. Its what is going to protect them in the future. On the other side of it as a therapist it does help kids a lot having nurturing touch. Parents should be massaging or having bonding time with their kids as much as they can. Girls starting at pre teen should be receiving body work on a regular basis. It has been proven from many studies to help with self esteem and confidence. It makes them understand that there is nothing wrong with them and they are ok the way they are.

dancer4275

And this is why my generation of kids/teens/college kids is in trouble. SO glad my parents were never like that!

crisanderson27

#10.) They Use Their Kids to Get Out of Things. 84% have used their kids as an excuse to skip a social event they didn't want to go to. And 45% do that at least once a month.

Single father going on 10 years now and this one is magic!

I'm right with you...almost 13yrs here...and that's the ONLY one I'm 'guilty' of...and only every great once in awhile. If anything, I go to more social events, family or otherwise...FOR my kids.

SiltyPigeon

#6.) They're Distracted by Technology. This one REALLY isn't cool. 5% say their child has gotten HURT because they were texting or web surfing . . . and another 18% have had a close call.

My 1 1/2 year old just ran head first into the cupboard while I was on page 3 reading these responses. Hahaha. I should probably medicate her and put her to bed so I can have some alone time. ((Kidding)) <<--(Well, except for the cupboard part, as if that wouldn't have happened anyways.)

SiltyPigeon

I've medicated my children!... Yeah, always gave them tylenol before their check-ups that included shots... LOL I do miss alone time & sleeping in. My boys are early risers.. always have been. Kept them home from school when sick... often experiencing lots of backlash from co-workers,.. (ofcourse the ones that did not have children). They just don't get it until they become a parent themself. Would never trade sleep for sex under ANY circumstance! Having a sex life is difficult enough having small children in the house. And sorry, but i'm totally against breast-feeding in public. I know it's natural,...yeah yeah yeah~ my family doesn't need to see you whip your tit out because your child needs nutrition~ that's what PUMPS are made for... give me a break:)

This is my soap box issue, so feel free to ignore me, I just have to respond.

I have never seen a mom just "whip her tit out" and I hang out with a lot of breastfeeding moms. Most moms who nurse in public do so pretty discreetly. They're not looking to be bothered or draw attention, they just want to get their kid fed.

Pumping is misunderstood by lots of people. You can build up a stash of milk for times when you're not there, but the way pumping really works is that you pump when you'd be feeding is your kid was with you. If you don't then you get uncomfortably engorged with the extra milk. In addition, many breastfed kids will not take a bottle from their mom. And on top of that, not all women respond well to pumps. I know this one from experience. It literally would take 5 or 6 30 to 40 min pumping sessions for me to fill one small bottle. I had neither the time nor patience for that when I was caring for a baby.

And because I find that most people who are against nursing in public have never seen anyone do it here. .

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1LMNoqpAM4A

That's a video I made of how I nursed my daughter in public for discussions like this one.

I breast fed both of my kids (discreetly in public). I did pump for when my husband would feed them... but if I tried to bottle feed them, just seeing or hearing them suckle the body triggered my "let down" and milk would gusher all over my shirt. Very embarrassing. I always tried to find a secluded corner and always covered up, though. No one needed a full view of my girlies.

suzycreamcheese

OMG I completely agree! Also, teach your children that it's OK to say "no" even to your family. I hate when my step mom makes me nieces and nephews feel bad if they don't want to give me a hug. Does it make me sad when they don't want to hug me? Yes, but they only see me once or twice a year so i'm not super familiar. I think it's REALLY important to teach your kids they can say no to physical touch even if it's from someone that the family trusts. I used to work at a smoothy shop and this woman came in with her kids and a family member. The family member picked up the kid and the kid screamed like crazy. The mom simply took the kid, put her down and said "it's ok, if you don't want him to hold you, you can just say 'please don't touch me' " I wanted to give that mom a freakin metal! I agree with you 100 percent on this one!

see i have mixed feelings there. Id see that as rude, and its not a bad thing for children to be polite and give a family member a kiss or a hug. I make my children do it. If we go over to france and they dont kiss on the cheek its pretty rude. I think people are likening it to almost a kind of abuse, when in my opinion its just manners

crisanderson27

OMG I completely agree! Also, teach your children that it's OK to say "no" even to your family. I hate when my step mom makes me nieces and nephews feel bad if they don't want to give me a hug. Does it make me sad when they don't want to hug me? Yes, but they only see me once or twice a year so i'm not super familiar. I think it's REALLY important to teach your kids they can say no to physical touch even if it's from someone that the family trusts. I used to work at a smoothy shop and this woman came in with her kids and a family member. The family member picked up the kid and the kid screamed like crazy. The mom simply took the kid, put her down and said "it's ok, if you don't want him to hold you, you can just say 'please don't touch me' " I wanted to give that mom a freakin metal! I agree with you 100 percent on this one!

see i have mixed feelings there. Id see that as rude, and its not a bad thing for children to be polite and give a family member a kiss or a hug. I make my children do it. If we go over to france and they dont kiss on the cheek its pretty rude. I think people are likening it to almost a kind of abuse, when in my opinion its just manners

Agreed Suzy...for sure. Saying no is an important lesson for children...but in that circumstance, its just a stepping stone towards disrespecting their elders.

porffor

I mentioned enjoying 'alone time' to my hubby the other week. He has started going out of an evening and once all my kids are in bed, I said I enjoy just.. well being alone! lol He looked at me a bit strange, till I explained it's the only time I actually get with no one with me.. whether that is my horse, my friends, children or hubby. He got me then I think as he gets alone time during hte day when baby is in bed and we're all out studying.

As for the breast feeding comment, I do think this is culture associated, it's no longer acceptable to 'whip out' a boob.. why does it have to be termed like that I don't know, I certainly never whip it out when i'm breast feeding and have always been concious of not showing too much / making people uncomfortable. However, the need for my child to feed is by far paramount. If you saw a cow in a field or foal drinking.. would you feel as embarrassed?

Some of those are alarming but as a previous poster said, we're human.. but we'd fight to the death for our children, as would many species.

catlady100

Our school sent a note to all parents asking them not to send children to school when they're sick e.g: giving them tylenol to bring down a fever and then sending them.. Near the end of one semester I got a letter saying that my son had been out for more than 10 times, and I might be referred to the school social worker if he was absent again. He's asthmatic, and has allergies, so when he gets a cold it's not always just a cold. When he tells me that he has chest pain and his Dr tells me to take him to the ER, I'm not going to send him to school. When he gets strep throat (twice) - most likely from school- he's supposed to stay home for 24 hours until the antibiotic kicks in, I don't keep him home for just a sniffle or two, because then he would probably be out for 20 days.

#staylosing

sleepytexan

So inaccurate. I'd say 100% of moms prefer sleep . . . :laugh: