How fat would you let your spouse get?

dmpizza

This is meant as a fun question.

If your spouse was gaining weight

Would you(did you) wait to say something at 15 pounds, 50 pounds?

If so, what diid you say?

What wouldn't you say?

peripah

I would never say anything. My husband's weight is his own business.

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I like 'em round, and big
And when I'm throwin' a gig
I just can't help myself, I'm actin' like an animal
Now here's my scandal
I wanna get you home
And ugh, double-up, ugh, ugh
I ain't talkin' bout Playboy
'Cause silicone parts are made for toys
I want 'em real thick and juicy
So find that juicy double
Mix-a-Lot's in trouble
Beggin' for a piece of that bubble

xMissy6x

lol! actually hes the picky one!!! and tells me if he feels hes put on weight. Then tells me WE need to go for a run to help him lose it. So i guess its good as i end up doing more exercise to. SO no need for me to say anything to him.

poisongirl6485

I would never say anything. My husband's weight is his own business.

^^ This.

hm_day

I think it depends. If I feel that it's becoming a health problem, I would say something. I mean, you're supposed to be looking out for each other, right? I'd hope that any spouse I have would do the same for me.

I obviously wouldn't be like "Damn, honey, you're really packing on those pounds!" But more of a "You look like you're starting to gain a little weight, would you like me to start buying some healthier foods?" or if it was becoming a real problem, I would be a little more blunt about it.

UpEarly

My husband has gained nearly 80 pounds since we started dating, and I'm just fine with it. The ironic thing is that he's only about 5 pounds overweight (if that) now. He was really, really, really skinny when we met. I like the way he looks much better now. :-)

dmpizza

I think everyone gave great answers.

Thanks.

Laquaya

LOL. Be my friend now

KevDaniel

My only fear would be her happiness. Since it is obviously she would not be happy I would help guide her to be happy.

JennsLosing

i didnt say it first, he did, a couple months ago. he said "man im getting fat" and i agreed....well i didnt say YEAH YOUR A FAT *kitten* DUDE!!! i said "yeah, you've put on a couple extra pounds" hes workin on it too, just like me.

leynak

I don't say anything to my fiance. I couldn't *make* him lose it anyway. All I do is hope that my healthy choices influence what he chooses. And guess what I started in June & he's coming around.

jrcox520

I like 'em round, and big
And when I'm throwin' a gig
I just can't help myself, I'm actin' like an animal
Now here's my scandal
I wanna get you home
And ugh, double-up, ugh, ugh
I ain't talkin' bout Playboy
'Cause silicone parts are made for toys
I want 'em real thick and juicy
So find that juicy double
Mix-a-Lot's in trouble
Beggin' for a piece of that bubble

Haaahhhaaahaa!!

RainyDayKelli

I'm perfectly aware that I'm overweight, and get extremely angry when someone tells me that I am, as if I didn't already know. I refuse to treat my husband like that. If he's overweight, he knows it. Not my job to clean him up.

cabul3

my man is 6 feet tall, 290 lbs. he is a big guy and i love every inch of his body! he is sexy to me. he's trying to lose weight and get down to 220, which i support because it'll be a healthier weight for him. but i find him hott at any weight!

Nerdy_Rose

I felt like deleting this, but I don't see a delete option... d'oh.

angelicdisgrace

If my Husband's weight was a health hazard to him I would say something.

TerezaToledo

Unless it was a health issue I wouldn't say a thing. I wouldn't have liked if he picked on my weight when I was above my ideal. He did put on a few pounds after quiting smoking, but I'm really happy with the trade.

monoxidechick

I would do exactly what my husband did for me. He was supportive and never made me feel bad about it at all, he made sure that I came to the decision on my own, and he only mentioned a few subtle encouraging words about how active and outdoor activities were becoming harder and excercising more would help out with that. He is happy that I am happier and also supports and encourages the healthier choices but makes his own choices as well. He also is a great ear to my rants, raves, and every exciting pound that drops from the scale. I dont think I would have made it this far without him!!!

brittanyjeanxo

My boyfriend and I live together, and we've always agreed that we will love each other no matter what. That being said, we also agreed that if either of our weight started to become a health issue, we would work to lose weight together. So, if it ever started being an issue, I'd ask him to join me in losing weight. He honestly would not get upset.

Apryl546

Regarding his weight, I wouldn't really care as long as it wasn't physically hindering him and causing him pain.

I had a bf who had so many health related issues because he was very overweight. Bad knees, bad back, and he even had gout (even if it is or isn't related by weight he continued to eat things he shouldnt have that caused him to swell up from it). He was very unhealthy and didn't do anything about his problems. I left him because of how inconsiderate he was about himself, and how mean he was to me. He had issues.. haha.

My current bf (1 year anni today), is obsessed with his weight. I wouldn't want him to ever get fat, but ONLY because I know how he would try to lose it, and it is one of the worst ways. I would help keep him on track, and he is my motivation for me to get thinner. He was around 50 pounds heavier before I met him.

xtinalovexo

pshhh after 5lbs id tell that fatty to shape up!
(joke.) id only say sumthin if i were worried.

MayMaydoesntrun

As long as it didn't interfere with our naked wrestling, I'd be ok with it..

Jorra

I wouldn't care what weight he was as long as I could get him to eat his darn vegetables!

mcrowe1016

My husband and I have jokingly talked about this before. We decided that we wouldn't leave each other because of weight, but we were allowed to refuse to have sex because of the weight.

But seriously, I am 50-70 lbs overweight now, and he still finds me attractive, and I don't think that I could ever find him unattractive.

sassylilmama

My husband admits he is a bit overweight but is too lazy to do anything about it. I would only say anything if I noticed it really taking a toll on his daily life.

I do however wish he would have said something to me sooner. I actually told him a couple weeks ago that I wish he did not love me no matter what. Of course he though that wa crazy but I explained I meant that if he had a problem with my size I would have changed sooner.

MrsCon40

I squeeze his moobs and tell him they're hot :bigsmile:

LisaKyle11

this is a tough one for me....

my husband isn't overweight but has a tendency at times to be lazy. i have a problem with lazy.....

i also have a problem with double standards (eg. expecting women to keep/maintain their nice-fit figures while the men don't really think twice about theirs).

i will just keep it at i don't like laziness. and call me judgmental, but i would say something at a 50 lb gain. he is only 5'7.5"....he would be pretty darn unhealthy.

Jellyphant

I asked my hubs that before. He made sure to be clear that he doesn't give an ess about my weight or appearance (mmHM), but he DID say that he'd make me start working out if I LITERALLY couldn't fit through the front door, strictly for health purposes.

koosdel

I think being silent while they get FAT, would be no different than ignoring them taking up drug use or destructive behavior.

I believe that saying 'their body, their life' is cowardice, and selfish.

skinnimini16

My only fear would be her happiness. Since it is obviously she would not be happy I would help guide her to be happy.

thats sweet...i like this answer