10kgs down but still not feeling the love :(

Lecypage

Hi guys! I know this is the success story board but I kinda wanna have a whinge at the same time as my boast hehe.

So I've had a super lifestyle change; bought an inner city apartment; started walking the dog twice a day and eating more healthily. I have lost about 10 kilos (25lbs) and am down a dress size at 71kg and a healthy BMI (yay me!!). But I have not had a single good comment. I've had days in the pat where I haven't really felt any skinnier or better and people have said that I look great and thought I'd lost weight but now that I've actually done it and am on my way to my goal weight (60kgs) I haven't had anyone notice...

I know I shouldn't base how I feel about myself on other people and I personally feel better about how I look and feel but I think that 10kg is a hefty weight loss and it makes me a sad panda that no one has noticed.

Does anyone else feel a little like it is in vain if no one even notices or am I just being a whinger?

Qarol

I don't like it when people notice. It makes me uncomfortable. I don't want to be reminded of where I once was. The only person I want to notice is my husband. And myself.

dls06

As long as you know you made a change. Don't focus on anyone else. It doesn't matter.

dmpizza

People rarely comment about other people's weight. Many people consider it rude and others don't want to be saddled with your ups and downs(not saying that is the case).

Also, I am an American so "PAT" and "WHINGER". What do those mean?

Libby81

I totally know where you're coming from here. I feel exactly the same. I've lost a good bit of weight, dropped a dress size etc the same as you and no-one comments on it at all, not even my family even though they know how hard I've been working at it. I've managed to change how I feel about me and as long as I'm happy then thats all that matters. Although it does make you so proud when someone picks up on your effort xx

em1976

For the people that see you everyday it can be difficult,10 kilos is alot yea but spread it out over your whole body,little bit here and there,no doubt youve shrunk but they perhaps cant see it?We can lose from the most unlikely places,arms,middle,legs and if your still in the 'dress bigger' mode may cover alot of the work you have done.Wait a little,give it time for your body to lose more,tone more then buy some clothes that fit your size not the size you were:)

Your not whinging,sometimes an outside boost to what your doing can help with the motivation factor.Just remember your doing it for yourself not for them:)

Hand them 10 kilos of spuds,see what they think!!Well done btw

TR44

I think PAT is a typo for "past" and whinging is sort of complaining a lot unnecessarily when things aren't that bad in an annoying way, or being a bit moany Hope this helps
PS you're not being whingey at all! Your hard work deserves to be noticed
But I agree with commenter's above; when you see someone everyday, changes are a lot more subtle and hard to notice

Dootzy1

They HAVE noticed. But sometimes people don't say anything for their own reasons. (including guilt that they aren't working on themselves or maybe afraid that you'll think they thought you were fat before.) Weight loss is both a personal and public thing. But some people think because it's so personal, they shouldn't comment on your physical body.

And, yes, it is a type of pressure when it does get noticed! Because then you have to maintain it, or some may be delighted if you gain it back! Just sayin'!!!

mfdpa

Typically you have to lose more than 10% of your body weight for people to notice So if you weigh 160 lbs most people won't notice a difference until you are under 145 for example. Second if you are wearing the same clothes they may not see the difference. Try new colors, trimmer fits etc.

wickedcricket

I think ppl around you can't be paying attention. I'd say - get a new outfit. Something fitted and pretty colors; I bet they'll notice then.
And this is funny - get a new hairstyle. Nobody really noticed any change in me until I changed my hair - now I get 'have you lost weight?' 'you look younger'
A hairstyle & new outfit can say alot

kristarablue

Well sweetheart, that does suck and I remember that well, but I will tell you, people really did not start noticing on me until I had lost like 50 - 60 pounds and still some people are just noticing and ask me in an uncertain way if I have lost weight and understand I have almost lost a person so I get you. I had a co-worker ask in a very uncertain way and was relieved when I told him I had lost 75 pounds because he was afraid to ask incase he was wrong. But know this, you are healthier and I hope you are feeling better about yourself, the rest will come later. Make sure you use MFP, we are surrounded by the most amazing people here and have a great support system of people that give encouragement and support at every turn. Keep it up baby you are doing great!!!!!

houzkat

If they don't notice then you remind yourself. Go to the market and pick up a 25lb sack of flour and walk around with it for a few minutes. As you're walking around carrying this bag that seems really heavy remind yourself that you used to carry that weight around every day. Then put it down and feel the relief at not having to carry it anymore. You can't do anything about what other people say but you can remind yourself how far you've come. You have achieved something wonderful and you should be so proud!

glitterpiss

I don't really comment on anyone elses weight, unless they ask me to or its my best friend. Its just not my place, whether its weight gain or loss.

Tivo8MyNeighbors

I don't think it makes you a whinger to want positive feedback for all the hard work you've been doing. After all, don't we feel the disapproval when others give us that "fat" look??? (You know the one I'm talking about...) It only seems fair that, when we start to get fit, we'd want others to notice. Unfortunately, lots of people are too wrapped up in their own stuff to notice anything, so don't get too upset that they're clueless Instead, remind yourself by doing things like looking at old clothes that are too big now, then donate them and get them the heck out of your house I like Houzkat's suggestion of holding a sack of flour and realizing you used to carry all that weight around.

And even if the outside world doesn't notice, we here at MFP sure do, and we're proud of your accomplishment WTG, and keep up the good work~!

Valtishia

First off.. great job!!!

Secondly, I do get comments from people who know what I have been doing, however those that don't know tend to avoid making comments. At one of my old jobs, I had lost maybe 30 - 40 lbs at that time and a co-worker made a comment saying I looked good with the weight loss then her mind emmediately went to "please tell me you did it on purpose and you are not sick". People have many different thoughts. It could almost be compared to people not wanting to say anything about a woman's weight gain until they know for sure she is pregnant because if she isn't, there will be hurt feelings.