Going through a tough time :(

annemarielisalouise

this last week has been a disaster....I have stopped walking almost completely or when I do its with little effort, and the last few days I have eaten enough calories to do me a week.......it was the anniversary of a siblings death so perhaps it was a comfort thing but I am still so angry at myself, I can feel all my clothes tight again and I would say that I have put back on the 8lbs I lost, if not more......that 8lb loss made me feel like a woman again, gave me confidence and now I feel like a failure.....It took me a couple of months to get where I was now Im back to square one again, do I have to start again?????and then when things go bad for me again in the future, will i have to start again and again??? Oh I know Im feeling sorry for myself but I really thought I had beaten all my bad habits and had got into a good routine, but obviously that is not the case................How can I stop myself doing this to myself again once I get back on track and just HOW do I get back on track....some help, advice please.....thanks.

infamousmk

((HUGS)) I'm sorry to hear about your loss.


.... extremely emotional times can be so hard - even when we're not trying to change our lifestyle and habits. You will start again, and you will reach your goals! This is just a minor setback, and it could be a really good thing if you look at it as a learning moment. Now you know that this time of year can be really hard on your fitness goals, so that next year you can plan better. Confide in a good friend and ask them to help you stay busy this week, book a couple of sessions with a personal trainer, make plans to run a 5k in your area ... something ... that way you have a support system in place.

Knowing what our triggers are can mean a world of difference in the journey. Last year the holidays were downright horrible for me. I've already started making plans for how I will beat the emotional eating and indulge responsibly... but I won't know that I've done it right until the new year. (wish me luck!)

annemarielisalouise

THanks Ms Kortney, good to know you are not alone sometimes.....easy to forget on days like this!! best of luck, I'm sure you will get where you want to be too, I guess we just have to trust that we WILL learn from our mistakes.....xxx

infamousmk

So true - sometimes trusting our own resolve and ability to change and learn is really difficult!

whitelaurel

And just a note on the technical side of things, I am certain you did not gain back your 8 pounds. Even if you did, if you jump right back onto the bandwagon, they will take you no time to buck off again, I am sure of it. Weight put on quickly /lost too quickly is always the first to reverse itself as soon as you start looking/stop looking, in my experience. Don't let that worry you. I have been in the same situation before, with lapses in control. It happens.

Emotional times are the worst, I'll third that. I am so sorry for the loss of your sibling. I hope you'll be alright.

annemarielisalouise

Thanks whitelaurel, 'today is the first day of the rest of life'....thats what Im telling myself!!!! Best of luck to all for the week ahead xxxx

porffor

Firstly want to say how sorry I am hearing about the anniversary of your siblings death. Truly a really emotive time, and understandably so. Sounds like you did what so many of us do, which I expect helped at the time. Takes a lot of repeated effofts to unlearn a behaviour, don't feel bad. Today is a new day, you have expressed a desire to get back on track and CAN do it. Look at your avatar, we are women, we are strong.