They all but shoved it down my throat!

BrettPGH

That's what she said.

torregro

Well, my response would have to do with whether or not I actually *wanted* to eat what was offered.
What I've tried to do in my diet in the last year or so is to decide to eat things that I really want when I want to, and avoid eating those things that are just "around". I wouldn't bother with a store bought cookie if you paid me to eat it, but if someone has made a homemade dessert that I really DO want, then I'd have a little of it and enjoy the heck out the experience. On the other hand, if someone brought in deep fried Twinkies or Dunkin' Donuts to the office, I'd have no issue at all saying, "no thank you". Not sure why any degree of rudeness has to come in to play. We're adults, no?

Kristhin

Say you're vegan. Pretty much all sweets have dairy.

marquesajen

Well you can be very firm and say that you'd rather not because you're concerned about your health, but thanks for offering, then walk away (don't let them get in another word) OR you could say a)My stomach is upset, b)I already tried it, it was good c)That cake killed my parents 14 years ago, how dare you offer me a slice!

jgic2009

Okay, I'm less bold then others, so to keep the peace, I would take it back to my desk, and I would make sure that I'm too busy to eat it, then voila, it slowly it ends up disappearing off the napkin into the trash can. And, yes, I'd probably bury it in the trash so no one noticed!! I've had 'treats' that were really gross before, and I did the same thing, they carefully were buried in the trash so I didn't offend anyone.

I've worked in groups where some people make snide remarks to others for not participating in their fat fests on food day. Idiots!! So I know where you're coming from.

This is what I do, too. Bring it back to my desk and into the bin it goes. I don't bother hiding it though as nobody can see into my trash bin.

gloryrest

There is only one sure way to handle it. Tell the truth like you told us. You love the fact that the woman brings in these wonderful items for all to partake but you don't chose to spend your calories that way. Or if you really want to taste. Take a bite and throw the rest away (out of their presence of course). It's all ok either way--

gloryrest

Gheesh! I hope you are joking because it is really not that serious. The only serious thing is being a prisoner in your own mind. .I say speak freely and tell them NOPE, NO, NAH! I do what I need to do for me and you can't force me to eat anything--

Awkward30

No means no.

That's what my college freshman orientation taught me and I stick with it!

Heather75

Start to cry and run away.

ilookthetype

Just say no. Make like Nancy Reagan and Just Say No.

lotus_eater

I'm team No thank you. You do not have to give an excuse or lie. No thank you should be sufficient with someone who respects boundaries. If no is not good enough, ask them why they have a problem with your refusal.

kennethmgreen

First, own your choices. You decide to eat the food. I get that you were pressured. Second, try to frame things in a way that empowers you. Posting a topic titled "they all but shoved it down my throat!" is already giving away your power.

It may be semantics (and maybe you don't care), but posting the same story where you described eating dessert that was offered with a lot of pressure, owning it was your choice, but asking for ways to make a better choice next time does two things: it empowers you to make a different choice next time, and allows people to give you feedback in that context (what *you* can do next time).

Unless you never go outside, never turn on the TV, never browser the web, never listen to the radio, you will have pressure to eat bad stuff. Get used to it. Look for ways to get past it. You can do that. Stop focusing on other people and look at what YOU can do. You've already lost 32 pounds, so I am confident you can do this. Own your choices. Be strong.

SiltyPigeon

Throw the desert on the floor and stomp on it while screaming "Help! POISON!! I need an adult!!!"

I bet no one is EVER so rude as to offer you a desert again.

killagb

You can easily say no....as I'm sitting here at work, about 15ft away is a big ol bag of random candy that I've been walking past all day. I told the lady that put it there that it was 'a big bag of evil' lol

PowerEqualsStrengthOverTime

Aw, she was just trying to share something she enjoyed w you. I *highly* doubt that it was meant to be controlling or rude. If you can look at it from that angle and appreciate her thought behind it, just say something along the lines of, "I know, Joan is an amazing baker isn't she?!" She may just agree, rave about it for a second, reiterate how much you should try it, and wander back to her desk. Just wanted you to try it bc she thought it was amazing. You can share in the sentiment with her, without sharing the calories with her. No harm, no foul.

vettle

allergy! always works.