Husband finally got on board BUT.....

lpeacock06

So I've been exercising regularly since the end of march.......I started in Jan of this yr w/ Jillian's 30DS & wasn't even doing it daily & lost several pounds but I guess I just didn't see the results fast enough so I quit......I joined the YMCA in March (best deal since they have childcare & other activities for the kids) I have only maintained my weight since then.....I have FINALLY gotten back on board w/ counting my calories & trying to eat healthy
That being said I've lost 5.2 lbs in 3-4 weeks (closer to the 4 I think) & around 3 in or so........
My husband started P90x in Jan when I was doing JM videos & he lost like 20 lbs in the 1st 2 wks (another thing that just frustrated me) I felt like I couldn't do P90x since I Was so out of shape.
Well he's finally on board now & has started p90x again this week......I go to bootcamp 2x per week & another class & also run......
I find that he's bragging about how many calories he still has left in his day esp after doing p90x & sometimes I struggle to get just under mine....it's so frustrating & annoys the heck out of me.....
Does anyone else deal w/ this?

kimmerroze

While I think it is silly that he is bragging, also try to remember that men lose weight MUCH faster than women GENERALLY. Their bodies aren't programmed to hold onto fat like ours are.

So just keep that in mind. It wont always be easy for him especially if he wants to challenge himself to get to a really low BF%.

MrsPike07

So in other words he really isnt being supportive at all. I'm sorry, that is unfortunate. I dont have that problem with y husband but I do with others....it's no fun to feel like you are always struggling and someone else is having it way easier then you. I have learned that I can;t control others and that I need to worry about me. Then I think in the back of my head, well that crazy fast weight loss has to stop sooner or later and i will fly by waving Hope that helps and best of luck!

ilookthetype

I suggest punching, plus, you could count it as "boxing" and log it.

lil_pulp

Yes, I deal with this too sometimes. Once in a while my husband just feels so good and proud of himself that he gets caught up in those feelings and kind of forgets that I may not be having the same experience at the moment. I've told him things like "I'm so glad you're doing so well, but it's a little bit hard for me to hear so much about it because I'm really struggling. Do we need a code word or do you know what I'm talking about?" (Sometimes we use code words to tell the other person to shut up.) Then he generally apologizes and stops doing it for a while. Good luck--he probably (hopefully) isn't TRYING to make you feel bad.

routerguy666

Tell him he's doing a great job!

Then -> some other day <- talk to him about not wanting to hear about it all the time or whatever.

Otherwise the compliment gets lost and it comes across as wanting everything to be about you.

lil_pulp

Tell him he's doing a great job!

Then -> some other day <- talk to him about not wanting to hear about it all the time or whatever.

Otherwise the compliment gets lost and it comes across as wanting everything to be about you.

You're totally right. A compliment followed by "but" isn't much better than an apology followed by a "but." Thanks for pointing that out!

zeeeb

yes.... my partner lost 25kg in the first 4 months of the year, and now is just living normally again.... i, on the other hand am still battling away after 8 months of hard work, still have another 8kg to get to goal.

it sucks, but i'm not letting it get me down. i am determined to get there for myself, not for or because of, or in competition with anyone else.

MrBrown72

so a little teasing, some competition, and some good natured bragging. sounds like he is trying to enjoy the journey as much as possible an is treating you like, well, a friend.

if he is mistaken you should explain it to him immediately.