2 babies under 2 and looking for help * advise welcome*

KimberlyBryant

Hello Everyone! i am new here to MFP and i would love some tips and info on how to get to my goal in a timely manor so the more comments the better.. but first i would like to tell you a little bit about myself. My name is Kimberly and I will be 26 next month. i have been married to my amazing husband Jason for almost 6 years now. Ever since we have been married we wanted to have children. We both come from huge families. Each of our families have 7 immediate children ( not including step and half) in it and we would like to have a big family as well.. ( maybe not THAT big though) . Between the time we got married in Dec 05 and April 08 we had 4+ miscarriages and each one caused me to go into a depression which caused my weight to go up higher and higher. I never was a thin girl and in high school was 222 when i got married i was 240. After each miscarriage i would put on 15 to 20 lbs until i reached 308lbs. I went to the doctors wondering why i was having so many miscarriages they told me i would never be able to carry to term at my current weight and at that point i knew i needed to do something. I decided that the gym and eating right was the way to go. and that i should give it ANOTHER shot . After watching what i ate ( i didnt use any kind of tracking) and going to the gym 3hrs a trip 3x a week for 4 months i was able to drop 20 lbs. some things happened in my life and within 1 month gained 10 of those pounds back. Then i started to realize i needed to do something more dramatic.. and that is when my husband and i decided that i should look into the gastric bypass surgery. Now I am not ashamed of this fact for it has gotten me healthy enough to have my babies. I had my surgery done Jan 7th of 2009 and Lost 70 pounds and found out on Easter morning of 2009 that I was pregnant. Found out 3 weeks later that I was pregnant with twins! How exciting!!! The next 8 weeks was great until we went for our 13 week ultrasound and found out we lost one of the twins. I had such a strong faith in gods timing and knew that the little baby was just giving its twin a chance at a good pregnancy and to be healthy. We had our little miracle baby on 28th of December 2009. I Gave birth to a beautiful 7lb 3 oz baby girl a week over due. My weight went back up to 220 at time of birth. Within 6 months I got my weight back down to 198 until we found out in July 2010 that our angel baby was on its way. The next 9 months I gained 32 pounds and gave birth to my beautiful son a week early on March 12 2011. He weight 8lbs 6oz. Since then I have been running after a toddler and taking care of an infant and have only managed to lose 15 pounds. Until I joined MFP I had no idea how much I was actually eating. Now I am holding myself accountable for every morsel that goes into my mouth and I am not depriving myself of anything. Including my love of French fries. I just work it into my daily calories Now i am just looking for some other people out there who are hoping to shed that baby weight and emotional support to go along with great advice. please Friends me

MelissaL582

I am so sorry to hear about your loss. I have 3 little boys and 2 of them are former preemies. I too, had two miscarries- I took them really hard, especially since we were trying for a little girl. Your two little kiddos are adorable. My younger two boys are actually 9 months apart- yikes, i know. It sounds like you have a great support system and that has kept you strong during your several bumps in the road. MFP has changed my life and the support on here is wonderful! I wish you luck on your weight loss journey.

jessicajoy87

Hi! I am 24 and I have 4 kids under 5. I started putting on the pounds my senior year of high school. It was a miserable time for me. Not even a year after I graduated I got pregnant with my first and thats when I really gained! I never really had time between pregnancies to lose all that weight so i would pack on a few more with each pregnancy. I know that I need to get in good health if i want to raise my kids. I am really happy that you got your two little miracles after a hard start! Add me as a friend if you like!

KimberlyBryant

You ladies are amazing! I love the support from all over the country.!!! what is your number one secret for finding time for yourselves? !!

jennmoore3

You ladies are amazing! I love the support from all over the country.!!! what is your number one secret for finding time for yourselves? !!

Well, my story is a bit different. I have 13 year old twins and a 9 year old. I was a couch potato. I work then come home and be on the computer all night. For real. I think for you nap time would be a good time for you time. OR, have hubby keep them while you walk around the block. I live in the country so for me my block is .8 of a mile. Tell Santa you want a treadmill, so you can walk and be close by. Got a stroller? take them for a walk with you! Keeping a log of everything is great. When I started I looges everything, and if I felt too lazy to log it, I just didnt eat it. With those fries... watch it the salt will bloat you up! I love fries as well. I even add salt to them. I had to totally cut them out, because I would get out of control... I also need my friends here, to tell me... hey you arent working out, or you ate for crap today. I am a fan of tough love. I need it. lol So feel free to get mean with me if I fall off the wagon!

KimberlyBryant

Tonight i am packing a lunch and my husband and I are taking the babies on a 3 mile walk to see ducks. my daughter loves any animals so if it gets me off the computer and moving i will do it. I think what i need to do instead of trying to work out at night when i am exhausted from a long day is get up half an hour earlier then any one else and go for a job and do my 8 min abs/arms.. 45 mins and i can get a good burn in.. Thanks so much for all the great advise.