To the ppl that r succeeding...

coatsie79

How many times did you stumble before you got it right?? Ive been a member of Mfp for about 2 1/2 months & have only lost 4.5 lbs, only to gain it all back. I know where im goin wrong. Not drinking enough water, to much sodium. Had 2 days this weekend that i made bad choices of eating bads things in & bad portions sizes. I have no support at home & no one around. I thank all of my MFP friends for the support, but its just not the same sometimes.

Even with all the support around the ultimate motivator has to be the person losing the weight, so don't feel too down about it. I have a great support network, but often find myself trying to talk myself out of doing excercise or trying to convince myself it's ok to have an extra portion even though I know it's bad for me. I am my own worst enemy and that's my biggest battle. I also don't eat with other people during the day as I work from home so have to prepare my own meals and it's difficult not to go overboard and snack throughout the day.

Keep logging on here (which is a positive in itself) and take each day as it comes.

neenaj33

No one is perfect, we will all fall, the most important thing is how many times you get back up! Good luck with ur first mini goal. You can do it!

Racheyj76

I have lost and gained so many times in my life I stopped counting as well. In the past I have lost some or a lot of weight and then gain it all back plus some. I am now at my highest in my life and getting as I get older I worry more and more about my weight affecting my health. Here I am again with 160 pounds to lose and I really want the pounds off. I know there will be times when I cheat or eat wrong but I plan to not let it discourage me and get back in there. I know it can be hard without support and when you have kids and are making meals for a family it is much harder to always have healthy meals and eat well. Do you have a local YMCA or something that you could join. My YMCA has a weekly meeting that is free to members where everyone can talk and support each other. Another suggestion I would have if you haven't done it is talk to your hubby and tell him how you feel. I have been brutally honest with my hubby (he has always thought I was beautiful as I am) about my weight problems and since pouring out my heart he has become much more supportive and helpful. He has even started walking with me and helping push to walk farther each day and helps me set goals. I know before I really sat down and talked to him he didn't mind my weight and/or didn't want to say anything for fear of hurting feelings but now we are in it together.

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helen0241

Do it for your health, Log everything even drinks. try stationary bike you will burn more colories than walking and it is not as hard on your feet and legs. when I was at 243lbs it was hard on me to walk.

wvualum

Oh and don't underestimate the importance of shallow reasons to lose... like I want to look hot in Christmas pics we send out this year! I have goals to be healthy too, but I have a whole lot more shallow ones, and they motivate me more. LOL

lcnelson

We all have bad days and regrets. With that being said, you accept it and move on. The guilt from my bad choices ( eating an entire bag of breadsticks from the pizza place on Saturday night or not running that 4th day last week) eats me alive. I am still upset with myself for both of those things last week and will use them as motivation to NOT feel that way again.
Good food choices and exercising will speed your journey considerably.

Good Luck!

DonnaLFitz

Apparently you have analyzed your failures pretty well. My advice is to pick one of those poor habits and focus on changing it. For example, if portion size is a problem, focus on learning -- and adhering to -- correct portions. Do that for a month or six weeks until you've got it right.

After that, pick another habit and do the same focused change on it.

If you try to fix everything at once, you are setting yourself up to fail. The journey to perfect fitness is progressive. I'm 51 and it has taken a long time for me to identify my eating triggers and bad habits. It was only the last change I made that actually made the most difference. For me, eating starches leads to cravings and out-of-control eating. If I stay off them, I'm fine and I lose weight.

If you are not exercising effectively, add 30 minutes more each day. Just that. Don't add 90 minutes and wear yourself out so you can't exercise the next day. Just add on. Then when you have the habit, increase by 15 minutes per day.\

Baby steps. Baby steps will get you where you need to be.

stroken96

I was told the other day to cut out just a third of what you eat for 3 months and at the end of the first 3 months cut a third out again, it gives your body time to get used to fewer calories. I do agree with you MFP people give great support, husband not helpful. We went out for pizza the other night, I usually would eat 4 slices of pizza and pop, that night no pop just water and 3 slices of pizza. A little at a time. It makes it I'm NOT on a DIET just LIFE changing. You can friend me.

futurefitgirl88

I cheated my plan so many times. But over all if you are doing more 'rights' than 'wrongs' then your weight will come off. Its all about balance.....its very hard. No one said it was easy.

Slimithy

I started slow as well. I find the biggest thing is to measure everything I eat. Even if I don't log it, I at least force myself to acknoledge how many calories I'm putting into my body at any given sitting. The next thing is to exercise, exercise, exercise. As much as possible. If you don't or can't belong to a gym, then walk. Have kids, take them with you. Go to the track at a local high school or midle school (they are normally fenced in). Try couch to 5k. The exercise helps you to feel healthy and more positive, even when the weight isn't coming off. It also allows more wiggle room in the calories department. Also, release the guilt monster. When you screw up, admit it to yourself, remember why you want to do better, and then move on. If you wallow in the guilt or frustration you will just continue to repeat the cycle.

Remind yourself that you aren't trying to lose weight. You're trying to be more healthy. The weight loss will naturally follow.

daybyday

How many times did you stumble before you got it right?? Ive been a member of Mfp for about 2 1/2 months & have only lost 4.5 lbs, only to gain it all back. I know where im goin wrong. Not drinking enough water, to much sodium. Had 2 days this weekend that i made bad choices of eating bads things in & bad portions sizes. I have no support at home & no one around. I thank all of my MFP friends for the support, but its just not the same sometimes.

I've been on MFP for about 1.5 years and I still stumble - especially with sweets. I still don't drink enough water and I like the taste of water. It is a learning process. Just remember eat less & move more. You will get so much support here. Feel free to friend me and best of luck on your journey!!

DRJJ2004

Don't you give up!!! Don't do it! You will be more miserable than you are now. Trust me I know. Giving up gets you nothing but added weight and frustration. You know it, I know it, we all know it. What matters is NOT how many times you stumble, but how many times you get up!!! I've done this so many times I've lost track..but I am learning things along the way..things I wouldn't have learned If I'd lost it right away. YOU CAN DO THIS! I have a few supportive people in my life..but a lot of it comes from MFP. Let the people here help you, support you, motivate you and even listen to you rant and complain. That's what it's here for. I love this site!!!
Like someone earlier said..you know what you're doing wrong and doing right. Just do it!! To heck with what anyone else thinks! Sometimes my hubby gets aggravated cuz I go to the gym so much..alone I might add. But I do it anyway...cuz I have to!! No one is going to get this weight off but me...I wish someone else could..but it's not gonna happen. So as my hubby sometimes tell me...suck it up buttercup!! And get movin!! :O) It's all said in love by the way!! Feel free to friend me if you like.

Hugs!!

PoeRaven

How many times did you stumble before you got it right?? Ive been a member of Mfp for about 2 1/2 months & have only lost 4.5 lbs, only to gain it all back. I know where im goin wrong. Not drinking enough water, to much sodium. Had 2 days this weekend that i made bad choices of eating bads things in & bad portions sizes. I have no support at home & no one around. I thank all of my MFP friends for the support, but its just not the same sometimes.

You can do this.
If you really want to lose weight, YOU CAN DO IT. :happy:
Be CRITICALLy AWARE of what you're eating. Don't blindly put food into your mouth. :noway: Stop for a second and just take note of everything you're doing.
If you aren't getting support at home, my guess is because you started and failed. In "their" minds, you can't do it...Doesn't that just piss you off?
WELL, I AM HERE TO TELL YOU THAT YOU CAN DO IT! :bigsmile:
Show them!
Get mad :explode: and SHOW them you CAN and WILL be successful!!! Make it so that they are W-R-O-N-G!!!!!
You go girl! :drinker:
Now add me. :blushing:
(((huggers)))

You go girl!!!