Get a Life Already!

janet_pratt

I've been on here a little over a month now, I think. It has the best database for logging food that I've come across. And I've come to enjoy the online community here...to a point. Like any community it has a diverse population. From the clueless and confused to the inspiring and heroic and everything in between. And everyone has their own reasons for joining. I am usually of the live and let live persuasion. I don't generally criticize. I try to offer encouragement where I can. That said, there is a woman ALL OVER my wall who is getting on my nerves! She's not one of my friends, but out of the 35 people on my friends list, 13 are men and I think she's friends with most of them. Out of all the men on this site, what do you think the odds are of her having the exact same guys as friends that I do? They become significantly higher if she has friended every guy on the site, which I am beginning to wonder about.
Every time I go to my home page it is littered with sleazy comments and come-ons from this woman. I deleted a couple guys that appeared to be special favorites of hers because her comments had become nothing more than verbal crotch shots and she was grossing me out.
I am not a prude by any means. I can be a shameless flirt....in person. Because I enjoy the eye contact, attraction and face to face interaction. But I'm harmless. My husband just rolls his eyes and shakes his head. It's become a joke between us when we go out dancing and he drops me by the door and goes to park the car, he always says, " Don't pick up any strange men," because for a while every time we would be out and he would leave to go to the bathroom or get the car he would come back and there would be a different man sitting next to me. Thankfully, he's proud of me and he thinks it's funny and lets me enjoy myself.
I have been guilty myself of sending a friends request simply because I saw a post that made me laugh and the poster was also rockin a smoking set of abs in the profile pic. So I get all that. And have no problem with it. And I'm not above the occasional raunchy comment. But when EVERY comment has to be of a sexual nature...come on! There has to be more to you than that.
I believe she joined this site with the best of intentions. Looked in the mirror one day and didn't feel good about what she saw and decided to do something about it. But after a while it became apparent that she could hide behind a profile pic of an inanimate object and flirt and in some cases troll for cybersex and find guys who might be willing to oblige. And that's a lot easier than actually getting up and working out. There is no possible way she can respond the minute someone posts...to every guy that she's posting to on my wall alone...and still have time to work out. She has to be spending all day in front of the computer. At first I felt sorry for her. But when I started deleting friends to avoid her sleaze, it kinda pissed me off!
So with a certain amount of understanding mixed with a lot of annoyance I say, Step awaaaaaay from the computer. Take a walk and a cold shower and get some self respect. Ever see mugs shots of hookers? None of them look like Julia Roberts. Remember Hugh Grant and Devine Brown? Proof positive that SOME men will hit pretty much anything that presents itself if they are horney enough. It doesn't mean you're hot, just available.

_beachgirl_

Proof positive that SOME men will hit pretty much anything that presents itself if they are horney enough. It doesn't mean you're hot, just available.

That's fantastic! I you!

Treebeard2012

I appreciate your frustration, and am sorry that this site doesn't really have a way to block comments from one poster. I love this site, too. It definitely has room for improvement with added features, like, for instance, gettting a notice when someone replies to you post on the blogs, etc. But all in all, this site is helping me.
I hear your frustration over this particular poster. I'm sure you realize that this person is probably only trying to get positive attention when she does what she does, and probably has no intentions other than that. Some people are very big flirts and that can get annoying sometimes, but there are always those that enjoy it. You might try suggesting to the friends where you are seeing this in a private note that this really bothers you and that you are going to have to remove them as a friend because these notes really get under your skin. Or just delete them as friends. Or, just try to let go of this frustration and ignore her comments.
I certainly don't know what will best for you, but judging from what I've read from you thus far, I'm sure you'll find a way to work this out, and move on. Please don't let this discourage you from using this site. When I look and see your weight loss ticker it is a very big encouragement to me.

Judas_Queen

Take a walk and a cold shower and get some self respect. Ever see mugs shots of hookers? None of them look like Julia Roberts.

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