Gaining Lots of Weight Is TOTES the New "IT" Thing...

catwrangler

my partner has to put his hands on me all the time to help me out?.......

I get sexual fulfillment from getting fatter, and that’s worth a lot to me. If you’ve ever known sexual fulfillment yourself, you understand.........

And never mind that I already mentioned that I pay more than the average taxpayer because I am fortune enough to be on the higher end of the middle class. And never mind that I’m healthy today, with no indication at all of problems, making this whole line of discussion academic..........

Here is what I glean from her situation: She must be young enough for her obesity not to make her hurt physically. She is well off financially and has a live-in boyfriend. I have to wonder if his income matches hers. What will happen when she can no longer work, even from home? Will her partner disappear? Will she finally see sex and pampering alone won't keep her "happy"?

Namaste1983

I'M AT A LOSS... I wasn't happy at 430 and I certainly was not healthy. You can be happy at any size but I never knew self love or saw strength in myself until the last few months. I only speak for myself, but my heart breaks when I hear this.

ErinBeth7

Having said that, she is free to do whatever she will do about it, and we are free to have our own opinions about her situation. I know that I am not happy being overweight. I feel like I can't do anything for any amount of time. I get winded. I can't be active as long as other people, and that drives me truly crazy. I have a hard time believing that ANYONE could be TRULY happy under circumstances such as these.

Well said! I think she's kidding herself into being "happy." I'd like to hear from her partner and see how he feels and how her weight is affecting him.

bookworm03

I remember watching a Jerry Springer episode on this when I was in highschool.

elizabethblake

There are some things I wish I didn't know about, and this is one of them.

Emilyas1

I just read this article and I'm not sure if I think it's funny, or very, very sad. A lot of people love being pampered, that in itself isn't her problem at all. Her problem is that she's a complete slave to her self admitted fat fetish, which apparently she places as a higher priority than her own life. It's really depressing to think that such an intelligent woman can be so wrong and misguided, but she clearly is NOT a sane person :noway:

catwrangler

Well said! I think she's kidding herself into being "happy." I'd like to hear from her partner and see how he feels and how her weight is affecting him.

I'm willing to bet she pays his bills.

PeachyKeene

SICK!! enough said

wildcard29

I'm speechless!!!

brittanyjeanxo

being on medications (plural) is not healthy

I'll have to respectfully disagree with that statement, if it's meant as a general thing. I take Paxil every day for severe anxiety, because if I don't, I can't do anything because I get so shaky, out of breath, my heart races to a dangerous pace, etc.

You said you take one medication to help with one thing. She takes medication to help with several things her body should be able to do on its own. My 2 year old son takes medication for reflux, he isn't over weight, he eats healthy, his body was just born with a problem. Needing medication daily to help digest vast amounts of unnecessary food that she chooses to put into her body is not healthy.

Ah. That's why I said, "if it's meant as a general thing." I wasn't sure if you meant in general, or because of the weight. I agree with you on that, then.

gympamela

I consider 'pampering; getting a mani-pedi and a massage, maybe a trip to get my hair done. I would NEVER consider someone giving me a sponge bath because I had crevices and rolls like the Appalachians, pampering. Ew.

"Hey, honey, can you lift up the third roll down for me, I have an itch on my ribs..."

jmruef

"I think you have more to learn about yourself before you can claim to know much about these women. You freely admit that you can’t see how anyone could ever be happy being so fat, and when confronted with the truth of such people you conclude they are mentally ill. You never stopped to question the thoroughness of your own perspective. People can enjoy all kinds of things that you don’t care about, or even hate. You can’t project your own experiences onto that of others. "

Well...some of this paragraph is actually true. I don't think OP was nearly as judgemental as this woman thinks she is - OP was speaking from her own experiences - but the last 2 sentences are true for EVERYONE about all sorts of circumstances. Imagine the speaker isn't talking about morbid obesity, and the two sentences make sense.

"I’m on a similar quest of weight gain, although not as heavy as those two and not nearly fool enough to blast my name and picture all over the media. But I’m heavy enough that I can attest to their honesty when they say they enjoy life at very high weights. I do too, and I enjoy putting weight on just as fervently as some people enjoy losing it. I’m in a scooter. I need oxygen. I need help getting up. A part of me enjoys the luxury of all the pampering I get, but that doesn’t mean I don’t pay my taxes like everyone else. (I work from home on IT and web development, and I guarantee you I’ve already paid more in taxes than many people contribute in a whole lifetime.) And a part of me misses going bicycling and walking around town, but that doesn’t mean I don’t get a great quality of life in my daily habits like eating, reading, conversations with friends, music, sex, the Internet, movies, and so on. What’s so bad about my life? Is it that I can’t run a marathon? Is it that my partner has to put his hands on me all the time to help me out? How are those bad things?"

Hm. Well... She writes very intelligently. She's trying very hard to help us see her viewpoint and I applaud her for it. I still don't agree with it but I respect her thoroughness in explaining her position.

"I don’t exercise. I don’t care to. I enjoy being unfit. It’s a fetish thing. You’re not being asked to empathize with it, but it’s not really any different from the leather or shoes or fur or any of the other kinky stuff people come up with to satisfy themselves. I get sexual fulfillment from getting fatter, and that’s worth a lot to me. If you’ve ever known sexual fulfillment yourself, you understand."

Fair enough, I guess. People have fetishes. Hers isn't something I get, but whatever.

I deleted the rest. Overall - live and let live, I guess, but I couldn't in good conscience support a family member or friend who made that decision. Hm - guess that makes me a hypocrite. I guess with it being a family member or a friend, the possibility of my life being affected by their choice to live that way is greater - what if I wind up as a caregiver? I would have NO issues helping a family/friend whose health issues caused them to need help, but when it's something like this - of their own choosing... then again, I ride a motorcycle. Not exactly the safest hobby in the world. I could very easily wind up needing help from a family or friend for something I very definitely choose to do. So maybe it's *not* cut and dried!

seriousaboutlife

This screams INTERVENTION!!!!!

manderson27

This lady admits to it being a fetish and getting sexual pleasure out of gaining weight so we have to understand that, If she gets pleasure from her condition then she probably is happy and there is no reason to disbelieve her. However this is not the norm for most very overweight people. Life for them is painful both physically and emotionally. This is an extreme fetish which is becoming more popular I believe but as in many fetishes there are degrees.

I find it very worrying that this particular fetish is gaining so much ground, I see it as giving up control, not just their bodies but their lives and like anorexia it is a slow but sure way to an early death, it is very sad that people can get pleasure from contributing to their own deaths and even more worrying that there are people out there who will actively help someone kill themselves in such a way. If you love someone you wouldn't contribute to their self harming which is what this is.

Being overweight and happy is perfectly ok but anyone who is trying to gain enought weight to make themselves bedridden has to have some kind of mental problem no matter how much they may protest that there is nothing wrong with them.

<joke> To use a feather while making love is erotic but to use the whole chicken is just plain perverted.

billsica

I just read this article and I'm not sure if I think it's funny, or very, very sad. A lot of people love being pampered, that in itself isn't her problem at all. Her problem is that she's a complete slave to her self admitted fat fetish, which apparently she places as a higher priority than her own life. It's really depressing to think that such an intelligent woman can be so wrong and misguided, but she clearly is NOT a sane person :noway:

Clearly not. i think you pretty much figured her misguided mind out.

lukesmama

The worst lies are the ones we tell ourselves. Very sad.

NatalieWinning

A part of me enjoys the luxury of all the pampering

I've spotted the mental disorder.

Bingo!

TriumphNow

Ridiculous!

SKP1986

Having said that, she is free to do whatever she will do about it, and we are free to have our own opinions about her situation. I know that I am not happy being overweight. I feel like I can't do anything for any amount of time. I get winded. I can't be active as long as other people, and that drives me truly crazy. I have a hard time believing that ANYONE could be TRULY happy under circumstances such as these.

Well said! I think she's kidding herself into being "happy." I'd like to hear from her partner and see how he feels and how her weight is affecting him.

There's an entire community of FAs (Fat Admirers) and Stuffers (people that enjoy feeding others with the goal of them gaining obscene amounts of weight). Chances are her partner falls into one (or both) of these categories if he is staying with her. I don't understand either side of the spectrum, especially since (in my experience) FAs tend to be more on the fit/trim side. I dunno about anyone else, but I'd like to have a partner that I can enjoy life with, you know? I don't want to have to take care of a supersized woman and I don't want to EVER have to be taken care of like that.

It all comes down to not being able to (not WANTING to) control what goes into her mouth.

Jackie_Snape80

I think that the people who encourage this behavior (I've heard they are called the feeders or feed-ies) should be arrested for attempted manslaughter.

More like assisted suicide(can't remember where this is legal...if at all)

chrisja

bump

UnderCoverShyGirl

Ha, i'm afraid i'm gonna get slammed for this, but.....

I don't know, i admit to agreeing with most everyone's comments, specifically that her fetish rules her life and that she is not healthy per se. Is she happy? I don't know, maybe yes, maybe no. However, i also agree with a lot of what she said in regards to one person not being able to judge what makes another happy and how people kinda jump on a bandwagon and feel free to threaten, criticize and say horrible things about other human beings on the internet.

I think that like with just about everything, people are judging based on their own experiences, and that is a bit unfair. We all know that we are different, have different things that make us happy, have different definitions of what happiness is. Reading books makes me insanely happy...running a marathon might make you insanely happy....i don't think we can judge whether or not she is being truthful, her response sounded like she was trying to be...who are we to say she is not.

Is she deluded? Perhaps? How many of us are? Many of us are a slave to our issues too, even if they are harder to see. You know, the person who thinks their spouse is the reason for their unhappiness, even though everyone else can see it's an internal issue of their own. Or those of us who subconsciously feel better when we eat, whether because it brings on memories of childhood or it makes us feel safe because we aren't deprived...or....even though we are here trying to change our lives, who amongst us really deals with the mental parts of it.

So yes, i can admit to thinking like the majority - the woman is crazy, and unhealthy, and deluded, etc....but i also have to admit that judging her feels wrong, and doubting her sincerity feels wrong. It's a strange issue to be sure, but in some ways i am glad it brings the subject of fatness to light a bit more in the general media, even if it is negative. I remember when the Mike and Molly show came on (sitcom) and someone in the media said it was gross, because it was about a fat couple (same as roseanne back in the day)....who is anyone to say what level of anything, in this case fat, is acceptable? Is a person gross at 200lbs, 250? 350? 550? what? Is someone gross because they have a sexual fat fetish or because they are into another fetish or perhaps because they don't have anything outside of missionary in their repertoire?

For the record, not trying to comment against anyone at all, just find the subject matter very interesting...from all points of view....

meliturtlee

In my opinion I think she's has some underlying issues as we all do. And maybe if she was poor, her outlook might be different. But to judge her and call her out just because of her weight is wrong too. Yes her quality of life looks like hell but she choose that and its rude of us to say otherwise. Whether you are skinny, normal or overweight/obese, everyone makes an impact positive and negative.

KnottyJen

This woman gave up.... And she's trying to make it okay. I did the same thing once upon a time. I had gotten well above 300 lbs and felt like 'If you don't like me for who I am, screw you.' I started seeking out the Fat Acceptance communities and touting things like *Fat & Proud!*

It's just a defense mechanism. You feel like you can't possibly lose all the weight that you've put on, so instead, you decide to go in the other direction. It's a lot less work.

I feel bad for her, that she doesn't realize that she *CAN* do this. And I don't know about this woman, but I know at least one of those women that's going for the world record has kids - I feel most sorry for the children.

WhitneyW78

I totally agree that this lady deserves to live her life as she sees fit... healthily or unhealthily... but to pop up on my blog about weight loss out of the blue and tell me I can't have an opinion... not so much. I have been as heavy (possibly heavier) as she is... I was not happy... if she is happy, more power to her.

nathalie24

Oh how kinky... YES, lets ALL become obese so we can all die sooner in order to save money... thats the answer.. smart one...

daddyssunshyne

Dear gawd, I am speechless......

Diamonds_R4_Ever

Wow, this left me speechless. There are soo many things running through my head right now. For one I had no idea that there were really heavily obese people who actually strive to continue piling on more weight. No matter how hard I try or how many tmies I go back and read over that epistle, I will never understand.

UnderCoverShyGirl

I totally agree that this lady deserves to live her life as she sees fit... healthily or unhealthily... but to pop up on my blog about weight loss out of the blue and tell me I can't have an opinion... not so much. I have been as heavy (possibly heavier) as she is... I was not happy... if she is happy, more power to her.

Agreed, it was a strangely long post to reply to someone's blog (kinda like my strangely long post here hahaha). I can't imagine her being happy because i don't feel that way at my 350#+, but i can totally see how being "happy" with life as you know it is valuable. I'm so darn scared to die, i just can't think of doing anything more to hasten it....but i hear my brother say the same thing about smoking, etc. (i.e., we all gotta die sometime!) and it totally freaks me out :-(. (yes, err, i have issues!)

Kinda79

All I can say is WOW! My brain is totally blank due to all the shock it just received!