first date ideas

adross3

I was thinking of a nice restraunt and lighting some fireworks after. It's been 7 yrs. I'm a bot rusty.

futurefitgirl88

Dinner and movies!

zorbaru

i dont think a movie is that great for a first date (even tho ive done it numerous times) you go out to get to know someone so you sit in the dark for 2 hours not saying anything.

futurefitgirl88

i dont think a movie is that great for a first date (even tho ive done it numerous times) you go out to get to know someone so you sit in the dark for 2 hours not saying anything.

Sometimes you want that...esp if your date is boring as hell!...plus its less pressure to talk/sound interesting

LaMujerMasBonitaDelMundo

A nice candlelight romantic intimate dinner

EDIT: I also appreciate doing activities like kayaking or in a romantic boat ride like in Venice.

futurefitgirl88

I don't know about you, but if a guy took me out to a super fancy dinner with candles and was trying to be super romantic, I'd run....that's damn creepy!!

My first date with my now boyfriend of years was a movie followed by dinner at nandos...so casual, so simple...haha yet I think I might have fallen in love that night!

NOTE: we were 19 yrs old then...haha standards might be higher when you are older?

kr3851

I recently went on a first date where we had dinner and then saw a movie. we had originally planned just to have dinner but once the dinner was finished we didn't want to leave and a movie seemed like a good place to go. while we couldn't talk, we did hold hands which was kinda cute (especially since we're far from being teenagers) and then went for a drink afterwards because we still couldn't get enough of each other.

needless to say two weeks later we're still inseparable when we're together. having that two hours of just touching each other was worth so much more to me than two hours of chatting - it was great non-verbal communication that was still PG.

it all depends on the situation though - do whatever feels right once you meet up!! especially if you've been out of the game for a while....

FAtGiRLFItGiRL

i would say a nice dinner and then depending how the dinner goes maybe a movie or a nice walk in the park.

zorbaru

i would suggest something fun that allows you to interact.

maybe bowling or mini golf.

FAtGiRLFItGiRL

I recently went on a first date where we had dinner and then saw a movie. we had originally planned just to have dinner but once the dinner was finished we didn't want to leave and a movie seemed like a good place to go. while we couldn't talk, we did hold hands which was kinda cute (especially since we're far from being teenagers) and then went for a drink afterwards because we still couldn't get enough of each other.

needless to say two weeks later we're still inseparable when we're together. having that two hours of just touching each other was worth so much more to me than two hours of chatting - it was great non-verbal communication that was still PG.

it all depends on the situation though - do whatever feels right once you meet up!! especially if you've been out of the game for a while....

aww that sounds like such a sweet first date. and goodluck to you guys on your new relationship.

futurefitgirl88

I recently went on a first date where we had dinner and then saw a movie. we had originally planned just to have dinner but once the dinner was finished we didn't want to leave and a movie seemed like a good place to go. while we couldn't talk, we did hold hands which was kinda cute (especially since we're far from being teenagers) and then went for a drink afterwards because we still couldn't get enough of each other.

needless to say two weeks later we're still inseparable when we're together. having that two hours of just touching each other was worth so much more to me than two hours of chatting - it was great non-verbal communication that was still PG.

it all depends on the situation though - do whatever feels right once you meet up!! especially if you've been out of the game for a while....

That is adorable!!!!!!!!!

messyinthekitchen

Sounds great!!! Don't take her to a movie for the first few dates though. She wants to spend this time getting to know you, not sitting beside you with her hand in popcorn. Your idea is romantic, I'd love it. And for a second date try a picnic and mini putting. Your first date idea is so good I know they'll be a second:)

Brandicaloriecountess

My guy took me for dinner and then a round of miniture golf on our first date. It was pretty fun.

dckim

I think 1st date should be more of get to know you and I think dine and movie is too cliche. I tried comedy club (laughter releases endorphin) or hiking (slow gentle not to sweat too much), invite to a fitness class (spin or yoga) then hit a coffee shop.

babyellie

My first date with my wonderful husband was a nice simple resturant - not too fancy not too casual. Somewhere where we talked all night.... That was over 10 years ago.

Good luck with what ever you decide to do on the first date.

321blueeyes

One of my favorites was dinner followed by an easy stroll down the street (in a nice downtown area) - as long as she isn't wearing too-high heels Gives a chance to talk and also have comfortable silence without having to stare at each other. And, lots of opportunities for you to act the gentleman (offer your arm for curbs/uneven ground, offer your coat if it's chilly, etc). Bonus points if you go prepared with random trivia about the local area/businesses/etc, something to keep the conversation light so that you can both take a breather from trying to impress each other.

But my preference has always been for a mid-range restaurant - somehow the "nice" restaurants can add a lot of pressure to the date?

A single flower (anything but a rose) is nice, but a full bouquet is "too much" for most first dates.

I like the idea of the fireworks too Consider bringing a blanket to sit on.

SimplyDeLish

Make it light and easy...lunch or dinner and an activity where you can get to know them. Dinner and a movie....not if you want a second date! Lunch and an afternoon at the park...you'll have enough info to see if YOU want a second date.

Most of all - have fun!

AmerTunsi

I would suggest dinner and mini-golf because it's a bit active and allows for conversation... or any one of those fun centers for adults. I've always liked those kinda first dates. Movies I felt just made it awkward ... and you don't really get to know each other.

I've also done an afternoon together doing something active and then go to dinner. This way you have more to build off of from having a great day and then you all can relax during the dinner conversation. We would go to the zoo, mini golf.. just whatever.

chuckyp

A sporting event is a good one too, if there is a sport you both like. That way there's no awkward silence. If you guys chat the whole time and ignore the game, that's great, but if there are lulls in the conversation, then you can just enjoy the game together during those times. Plus the game itself gives you a topic for conversation. I'm by no means a big sports fan, but my first date with my wife was lunch and a hockey game.

adross3

Sounds great!!! Don't take her to a movie for the first few dates though. She wants to spend this time getting to know you, not sitting beside you with her hand in popcorn. Your idea is romantic, I'd love it. And for a second date try a picnic and mini putting. Your first date idea is so good I know they'll be a second:)

Thank you Megan. You are the first to comment on my idea. I agree on the movie. I have a good personality and she does too. I think that we should do something that allows us to interact together. When I saw her, I took my time and got to know her. I want to be with her. I hope she feels the same. If not, it's her choice.

adross3

A sporting event is a good one too, if there is a sport you both like. That way there's no awkward silence. If you guys chat the whole time and ignore the game, that's great, but if there are lulls in the conversation, then you can just enjoy the game together during those times. Plus the game itself gives you a topic for conversation. I'm by no means a big sports fan, but my first date with my wife was lunch and a hockey game.

Thanks Chuck that is an excellent idea. I think it might be my 3rd or 4th.

adross3

I would suggest dinner and mini-golf because it's a bit active and allows for conversation... or any one of those fun centers for adults. I've always liked those kinda first dates. Movies I felt just made it awkward ... and you don't really get to know each other.

I've also done an afternoon together doing something active and then go to dinner. This way you have more to build off of from having a great day and then you all can relax during the dinner conversation. We would go to the zoo, mini golf.. just whatever.

Thank you AmerTunsi I think that interaction is the way to go.

adross3

Thank you everybody for your advice. My decision has been made. I will stick with my original idea. If it is thunder and lightning, it might have to be inside.

Thank you,
adross3

3shirts

Yeah, something where you can talk to each other but there is something else happening in case of awkward silences is ideal.

kr3851

Good Luck!

It sounds like you've got to know each other a little before deciding to give dating a go. A little romance never goes astray so I think what you've planned will go well. Who doesn't love fireworks?

bflicker11

The fireworks are too much. I've been dating for awhile and that would be sort of a turn off. The first date is to get to know one another better and check to see if there is chemistry. If you have a great time at dinner, go to another place for a drink or like someone else suggested, miniature golf. Wine tasting is also a VERY FUN first date! Good luck.

Diary_Queen

I think dinner on a first date is a bit much.... eating in front of someone is usually tough for those that are health conscious or clumsy like me and always getting something on their clothes. Movies are dark and quiet... though you can talk about them afterward. Perhaps movie and a snack/coffee afterward.... then you'll be guaranteed to have at least one thing to talk about if the conversation dies down... just dont lead off with talking about the movie too much. Use it as an opener "Man, that movie was great/sucky.... you know what other movie i really like/hate?"

medoria

Depending on how well you know each other all ready I think its always best if the first date includes some kind of activity to get the conversation starting. A movie is to much of a bore, you only get to talk afterwards. I prefer going to a standup, maybe a quiz or to bowl. I live in Stockholm and we also have artwalks in the subway, maybe something like that?

angelicdisgrace

It's been so long. Let me see our first date was shopping for his new wardore. He would try on clothes and ask me if I liked them. I was sold. Tagged him and bagged him. Lol.

pugs4eyes

My first date with my hubby was a NFL game and we are still together. Lots of excitment.

_beachgirl_

Don't do dinner or a movie!

I think at dinner you are forced to make conversation and it can get awkward at times, at the movies you can't talk at all!

I think something like bowling, mini-golf, some kind of activity where the conversation will flow normally about what you are doing together and not be forced.

I always thought how funny it is when you are dating how much you go out to dinner and once you are a couple that seems to stop. Thats why I like dates where you are doing some activity that you do anyway, just seems more natural to me.