31yr old GIRL - dating 48yr old man ....

PoeRaven

He's 48 years old and NEVER been married. He doesn't want to be married. Why should he get married if he has all the benefits of marriage without the commitment?

Sorry, but you asked.

JNick77

Kinda in the same situation, my 20 year old daughter is dating a 35 year old who does not want to get married or have kids. I am not too happy about it since I am 39 only 4 years older than this boyfriend.

However, this is the advice I told her, if this is the guy you are going to be with and he has told you up front that he is not wanting to have these things, don't get it in your mind YOU can change him. Be upfront with each other what you want, and if it's not the same a future is not likely.

She's got a MAN-friend, not a boyfriend. Isn't it kind of weird that the man walking her down the aisle will be younger than her husband?? :laugh:

odusgolp

Kinda in the same situation, my 20 year old daughter is dating a 35 year old who does not want to get married or have kids. I am not too happy about it since I am 39 only 4 years older than this boyfriend.

However, this is the advice I told her, if this is the guy you are going to be with and he has told you up front that he is not wanting to have these things, don't get it in your mind YOU can change him. Be upfront with each other what you want, and if it's not the same a future is not likely.

She's got a MAN-friend, not a boyfriend. Isn't it kind of weird that the man walking her down the aisle will be younger than her husband?? :laugh:

Ummm... No he won't.

audram420

Kinda in the same situation, my 20 year old daughter is dating a 35 year old who does not want to get married or have kids. I am not too happy about it since I am 39 only 4 years older than this boyfriend.

However, this is the advice I told her, if this is the guy you are going to be with and he has told you up front that he is not wanting to have these things, don't get it in your mind YOU can change him. Be upfront with each other what you want, and if it's not the same a future is not likely.

She's got a MAN-friend, not a boyfriend. Isn't it kind of weird that the man walking her down the aisle will be younger than her husband?? :laugh:

Ummm... No he won't.

Yeah had to read this a couple of times...hehehe!

fiberartist219

Interesting that you call yourself a girl and him a man. At 31, you are a woman. Also, if he doesn't talk about marriage and children, then you can be pretty sure that's not his goal. If that's what you want, it's time to move on.

I agree. You are an adult. Do not call yourself a girl.

Since you are an adult, you can choose what you want in life, and if children is what you want, go find a man who will help give them to you, or go adopt them by yourself.

JNick77

Kinda in the same situation, my 20 year old daughter is dating a 35 year old who does not want to get married or have kids. I am not too happy about it since I am 39 only 4 years older than this boyfriend.

However, this is the advice I told her, if this is the guy you are going to be with and he has told you up front that he is not wanting to have these things, don't get it in your mind YOU can change him. Be upfront with each other what you want, and if it's not the same a future is not likely.

She's got a MAN-friend, not a boyfriend. Isn't it kind of weird that the man walking her down the aisle will be younger than her husband?? :laugh:

Ummm... No he won't.

Um... considering that I am younger than her boyfriend, YES he will. LOL

gethealthygetfit

Sad to say, if you want kids really bad, and he doesn't, that's a big problem. You cannot make him change his mind. You cannot make him do something that he doesn't want to do. I think you have to choose whether you want kids, or him. If I were in your position I would part ways. If he knows for sure he doesn't want kids, you cannot change that. I mean if he wanted kids but was waiting for something, I would understand, but it sounds like he doesn't want kids and you do. It sucks. I hope things work out, whatever direction they go.

swordsmith

I am 48 and my wife is 68. We just celebrated 20 years together married (21 if you add in the year we lived together). We are happy still and my wife is the envy of her friends for certain things....

Oh and she used to be my high school English teacher.