gotta bounce back

FitJoani

As I have posted before about the fact that my relationship was going down the tubes it happened officially last night. My now ex went out with his buddy on sat nite and I know this guy doesnt like me and thinks my now ex could have done better I also had a gut feeling something was gonna happen so I asked him if there was anything I would get angry over and he said yeah probably and started to tell this drawn out story and I knew what was coming and I said lets hear the truth get to the point right now. and he said there was this line dancing instructor who convieniently was friends with his buddy(how ironic right) so they started chatting "what he recently called being social" and she I guess express interest in him and apparently he didnt emphasize he was with someone(he claimed he did but he didnt care all that much to bring the point home) So this low morals female goes and gets herself drunk and goes back over to him and he says he turned his head and she kissed him. I know he left outr some details. I am definately not that slow and I am almost 100% sure he did something way more than that with her. I told him that was a one shot deal and he seemed unphased by how much it hurt me. I knew immediately if I didn't end it he would do it again knowing I would tolerate it so after I calmed down and after f bombing him for 20 minutes I called him back and we made the split. It also got me to thinking If he did it and actually confessed this time how many other times was he out "socializing" and betraying my trust???? I did cry at first but then realized that I can't let him win. I think I am more angry than sad but I am sure I will get over it. I just hope I can eventually find a man who will trully love me for who I am and help me to return it back with no fear.....

FitJoani

As I have posted before about the fact that my relationship was going down the tubes it happened officially last night. My now ex went out with his buddy on sat nite and I know this guy doesnt like me and thinks my now ex could have done better I also had a gut feeling something was gonna happen so I asked him if there was anything I would get angry over and he said yeah probably and started to tell this drawn out story and I knew what was coming and I said lets hear the truth get to the point right now. and he said there was this line dancing instructor who convieniently was friends with his buddy(how ironic right) so they started chatting "what he recently called being social" and she I guess express interest in him and apparently he didnt emphasize he was with someone(he claimed he did but he didnt care all that much to bring the point home) So this low morals female goes and gets herself drunk and goes back over to him and he says he turned his head and she kissed him. I know he left outr some details. I am definately not that slow and I am almost 100% sure he did something way more than that with her. I told him that was a one shot deal and he seemed unphased by how much it hurt me. I knew immediately if I didn't end it he would do it again knowing I would tolerate it so after I calmed down and after f bombing him for 20 minutes I called him back and we made the split. It also got me to thinking If he did it and actually confessed this time how many other times was he out "socializing" and betraying my trust???? I did cry at first but then realized that I can't let him win. I think I am more angry than sad but I am sure I will get over it. I just hope I can eventually find a man who will trully love me for who I am and help me to return it back with no fear.....

memaw66

His loss!

Anna_Banana

Sounds like you're better off with out him.

keiko

I know someone else going through the same thing. Better to find out now what he's like than later when your possibly married or have kids.
Take time to let your heart heal. I am sure you will find someone who is worth you.

Vanessa414

I agree with the previous posters for sure.

However..

I totally saw you on the Biggest Loser site!!! In the results section!

Weird...:huh:

Nich0le

Gotta love men's friends. Don't think about the what if's as far as if he messed around more or not, at least he told you and you know and you did what you needed to do.

You will find the right guy when you least expect it!

Geez, how many extra pounds did you loose now that he is gone? :laugh: :flowerforyou:

loreeb18

I totally saw you on the Biggest Loser site!!! In the results section!

Me too. You look great!

Good for you to end it. You need somebody who treats you better!

crystal_sapphire

i'm sorry he was a **** to you, but good on you getting rid of the dead weight!

arewethereyet

Ok so where do I go to see Joani???

arewethereyet

Oh and he is a scum sucker....good to know now than further down the line. he acted like a stray cat, HIS LOSS!

amunet07

I remember you saying that he isn't very tolerant of your insecurities... who needs that! There are men out there that can understand and be supportive! Now you are free to find such a Gem! But first take some time for yourself. :flowerforyou:

GTOgirl1969

It is better to have loved and lost, than to be stuck with a jerk.

Glad you got rid of your "jerk" before you married him/had kids. I know you will find someone that deserves you and all you have to offer. There is a right person for everyone.:flowerforyou:

Phoenix_Rising

Good riddance to him! Beautiful Joani will take some time for herself now, and then bounce back. :flowerforyou:

lisabeavers

Joani my love, i am six months past were you are right now.... and i promise, promise, promise you -- it looks better from here than it did from there. I know your heart is broken and i am so so sorry that this horrible thing happened to you. Rest assured, there IS a man who will love you just the way you are out there. And if he doesn't, then poop on him, its HIS LOSS!!!!!!

renae77

Ok so where do I go to see Joani???

I agree! I want to see her too!!! Someone let us know where.

SoupNazi

Thumbs down to him. Cut your losses and get on with your life.

Too many hot and funny guys to pass up in this world, ya know.

Now go find yourself a keeper.:bigsmile:

loreeb18

I found it!

http://www.nbc.com/The_Biggest_Loser/community/weight_loss_gallery/gallery_0004.shtml#main

3babybeans

Joani - he sucks! no woman deserves to be treated that way. i'm glad you made the break now instead of giving him the opportunity to do it again (and again and again). Jack *kitten*.

HOWEVER, after seeing the BL link that Lori posted, I am even MORE proud of you! WTG, Joani!

FitJoani

Joani - he sucks! no woman deserves to be treated that way. i'm glad you made the break now instead of giving him the opportunity to do it again (and again and again). Jack *kitten*.

HOWEVER, after seeing the BL link that Lori posted, I am even MORE proud of you! WTG, Joani!

Thats my theroy I figured if I would forgive him he would KNOW that I would let him do it. He had and blew his chance. As everybody said now you can find someone worty and I will I am sure
By the way LOVE THE SNOOPY!!!!

FitJoani

I found it!

http://www.nbc.com/The_Biggest_Loser/community/weight_loss_gallery/gallery_0004.shtml#main

thank you so much I like to see what people post!!!!