grrrrrrrrr.....MEN!!!

Fitness_Chick

ohhh yeah sounds like my BF haha
constaly making remarks about over weight people
but he is no double standard
he worksout and keeps in shape and expects evryone else to do the same

but he is really anti over weight
which drives me insane because im fat which makes me wonder
what he thinks of me! ugggh

but he treats me like a princess and makes me laugh
we are truly best friends and i can deal with his stupid remarks they arnt too often thank god.

Guess we all have a different idea of what 'being treated like a Princess' feels like

I worry about you 'BeGorg' You're so young to be in a relationship where you feel verbal abuse is ok aka-being treated like a princess not double standard? :huh: Guess I'm a bit confused on that point......:noway: :ohwell:

Oh well......nuff on that.... but I do wish you well and stay safe....don't ever let anyone tear down your self esteem as a Woman...we hopefully find a mate to build one another up not tear us down.... we tear ourselves down a plenty we sure don't need a loved one jumpin on the band wagon to help in that area!:blushing: :ohwell: :noway:

Fitness_Chick

Awwww...what a butt :grumble: I would definately have a talk with him. I don't think men realize all of the hard work that goes into running a household. I mean I work 50-60 hours a week but I also was doing most of the cleaning, cooking, taking care of the checkbook, budget, and paying the bills, trying to plan our wedding, walking the dog (he very rarely did that), trying to workout and get in shape again, and somehow find time for myself and him, and I finally told him I couldn't do it anymore and that one person can only do so much before they break. I told him I needed help. And when I went through all of the things I do, I think it really surprised him. (we just went through this talk last week...I was super stressed because on top of all that, he got laid off) He was feeling worthless and depressed about getting laid off and thought that I was "getting on him" too soon. I explained that it's not his fault he got laid off but to help take some of the pressure off of me there were things he could do to help. I told him I was physically and mentally burnt out and on the verge of a mental breakdown. I came home yesterday and he had vacuumed, done the dishes, taken out the trash, made the bed, and got rid of an old table I had been asking him to get rid of for a long time. Oh! And the two piles of leaves I raked up two weeks ago and asked him to get rid of were finally gone. I let him know I didn't feel appreciated and that I needed some help and he got it. Just sit down and talk to him when he's in a good mood. Or if you have to, write him a letter. Sometimes when we talk it comes out wrong and they don't listen. But I found that if there is something hard to say, sometimes its easier to write it down. And he usually understands better. Then after he reads it, we talk about it.

But make sure you do talk it over before you resent him. And try to have a very Merry Christmas. :flowerforyou: Remember what the holiday is all about and try to be thankful for the things that you DO have :flowerforyou:

ahh Kel....HUGS my Friend:flowerforyou:

Smart girl letting your voice be heard.....you sure carried alot of the load...not sure how you did it...and you may not either:huh: :bigsmile: Glad you two were able to work thru the process and communicate ..... that must have made you feel pretty great and incredibly relieved to come home and find He had actually HEARD your words and crys for help!:happy:

Very awesome job .....the past can sometimes suck big time....but with all things we learn!!! :brokenheart: :flowerforyou: :smooched: :bigsmile:

and girl! have you EVER learned!!:drinker: So proud of you letting your voice be heard... sure glad you posted...many of us can learn from what you shared!!! :flowerforyou:

dothompson

Hmmm, you're easy, my wife would have considered giving a HRM as a present, being a *kitten*!

I'm hoping that my husband got me one!!!!!!

I'll have to ask, but I'm pretty sure she'd consider it something like getting a vacuum.

I was right, I asked and was told "Oh, yes!" with a emphasis on the Oh, thank goodness I didn't buy her a HRM.

arewethereyet

Hmmm, you're easy, my wife would have considered giving a HRM as a present, being a *kitten*!

I'm hoping that my husband got me one!!!!!!

I'll have to ask, but I'm pretty sure she'd consider it something like getting a vacuum.

I was right, I asked and was told "Oh, yes!" with a emphasis on the Oh, thank goodness I didn't buy her a HRM.

I think it depends on financial situation. Back in the day, when we had little 'extra' money, I loved getting that vacuum cleaner for Christmas. If he tried it NOW he'd be missing an appendage!!

My husband bought me a weight bench! It is just what I wanted.

barry1992

My wife used to bring me a beer each day I got home. The amount of times I had to send it back as she hadn't opened it !!!!

47Jacqueline

If anyone ever gave me a vacuum cleaner, I'd move out. On the other hand, one year my current boyfriend asked what I wanted for Christmas and I asked for a half-inch drill, which he did get me and that lasted longer than the boyfriend.

arian10daddy

47Jacqueline wrote: »

If anyone ever gave me a vacuum cleaner, I'd move out. On the other hand, one year my current boyfriend asked what I wanted for Christmas and I asked for a half-inch drill, which he did get me and that lasted longer than the boyfriend.

Current boyfriend.... drill lasting longer than the boyfriend...

how can something last for longer than something that is currently going on...