feel like crying :-(

msfazer

I know this is going to sound stupid but I'm the smallest I've ever been but feel like a whale and add to this my otherhalf said I look bigger today I know he wasn't being horrible but it cut me like a knife. I found the last 6months of this so easy and suddenly its got so hard.

I seem to be panicing and sabotaging myself at the moment I wish I just didn't have to eat then I wouldn't have to think about it anymore.

I'm sorry if this makes no sence but I feel out of control at the moment and hate feeling this way. Does any one else get like this?

bmw4deb

Yes I have these days, just keep going tomorrow will feel better
you have done amazing s far !

kmhamilton6

You have come to far...

self sabbotage is NOT the anwser...

pick up your spirit and tell yourself, " I AM A HOT MAMA!!!"

You can do it!

shanna0413

I'm sorry that you feel that way. I have days like that sometimes too. I know it is hard but all you can so is try to shake it off. People say and do stupid things without thinking about what they are doing. If they havent gone through it, they ahve no idea how hard is it to lose weight. There are lots of people out here who are proud of you and what you have done. But they main thing is to be proud of yourself. Remember that you are awesome and every change that you make is one for the better. It just takes time.

adoreabella

Hang in there, as tough as it may seem. A few weeks ago I reached the point where I didn't have to buy plus size clothes and just started freaking out because I didn't know what to do. Then I ate like crap and started sabotaging myself. I think we do it because we are outside our comfort zone and, being heavier for such a long time, we have to adjust to our new "normal".

It will pass, just stick with it. It took me two weeks to get out of my rut, but that is why I use MFP. We all need encouragement and support, whether its online or in real life. You could tell him that your comment hurt you because I am sure it wasn't meant to intentionally upset you.

You are strong and smart and beautiful and so very close to your goal. You will have good days and not so good days but that's why they call it life. Don't give up, you have come so far

Neize

You'll be fine! sounds like you are scared of losing your identity because you are changing how you use to look you are not changing who you are!

chastitykelly

I feel like this right now too. I'm working so hard but i'm plateaued right now and it feels horrible. good luck, sweetie.

beamishcas

That's exactly how I feel TODAY!. I haven't been this "small" in YEARS and yet I feel like I haven't lost an ounce Plus it's an emotional day anyway. My mom passed away 5 years ago today, so too many emotions in my head.

2ht2hand1e

Aww that is sucky. I hope your other half does something nice for you to help pick up your spirits and to distract you from food while you feel this way ...You look fantastic by the way. How much weight have you lost??

blueiz35

I do it all the time! I go look in the mirror with a pic of me at my biggest and tell my self how damn good I look now! I know im no beauty queen but compared to 2 years ago I look good! dont listen to others comments (unless they are positive ones) just keep telling yourself you can do this !!! it is hard, a struggle everyday but I know YOU CAN DO THIS!!!

NancyAnne1960

I think we've all felt this at one time or another. Try to think of it more of a lifestyle than a diet. Make sure you eat a few of the things you miss, all in proportion, and hopefully you won't feel you are depriving yourself. As for your other half saying you looked big, blame it on the clothes you happened to be wearing. I look bigger in some things than others. I just feel that much better when I DO put on something I look better in. Hang in there!! You are doing so good!!!!

mermx

First off, a big congratulations to you for losing 13lbs...we have both lost the same weight whoo hoo!!!!

Second...even if your other half wasnt being horrible by saying wht they said...maybe explain to them how you feel hun? If they don`t know how bad you feel or what they say affects you then, they are not going to change...so sit down and have a chat??

We ( i`m generalising now) all get days, or weeks when we get down.. and you wonder whether it is worth it....but YES it is!!!!

Take each day at a time, you are doing this for you and even though this sounds selfish...if you don`t do it for you then how can you be there for your family???

Hang in there and keep going...but most of all talk to those around you...if they don`t know how you feel then they can not help.

good luck x

Kierra112

I understand exactly how you feel. I am told that I am looking better but I still feel like a oinker. I just feel like it is too much right now. I will not give in to that feeling though. :explode: I cannot afford to do that. :noway:

martina123321

I'm sorry you feel like this after you have come so far.

You should be feeling so proud, you have done an amazing job.

If my partner said that to me being horrible or not!! Its still a not nice thing to say especially if hes knows the effort you have gone through getting where you are.

Get yourself esteem back!!! take it and run with it!!

I'm really proud of you!!! I wish I could achieve what you have and hope one day I will.

You are a great example of weight loss!!! You should feel like it.

Sit down with a pen and paper, right down how you feel and then right down what your going to do about it!!

Only you can help yourself.

Hope you feel better soon

xxx

mermx

That's exactly how I feel TODAY!. I haven't been this "small" in YEARS and yet I feel like I haven't lost an ounce Plus it's an emotional day anyway. My mom passed away 5 years ago today, so too many emotions in my head.

Yep, things like this really hit you hard..I am so sorry for your loss...its always hard to lose your Mom...you will never get a better friend ;-)

TourThePast

Don't stress over it, that feeling won't last, I promise. Try and get a good night's sleep tonight, things might look easier in the morning.

Oh, and go tell your husband that if he can't say anything nice, he should shut his damn mouth. "Not meaning it" is no excuse for him being so disrespectful. You have done so well, you deserve better support than that!

Riley4ever

You've lost so much already and '145' is there on the horizon willing to greet you, you just have to reach out as far as you can and grab with your fingertips and pull yourself towards it I looked at your profile and its says the reason you want to lose weight is to prove all those who think you can't do it, wrong - so this is the time to remind yourself of that and remember tomorrow is a new day! Go for it!

Whatareherthings711

You're amazing for having lost 13 pounds. I'm down 11, and it is frustrating at times. It's always helpful when loved ones and other people around you compliment you on your weight loss. Your guy was way out of line for saying you looked bigger, especially when you're at your smallest! Don't let that get you down. And do not deprive yourself of anything. The whole point of losing weight is to better enjoy your life. Depriving yourself is a way to be unhappy and not proud of yourself for eating a balanced diet. And anyway, no matter what our weight is, we all are bound to have days when we feel horrible. I think feeling bad every now and then helps us appreciate our happier moments more. Keep up the great work and don't forget to let yourself be happy.

fionarama

Yeah I say get some retail therapy!!!! do something to cheer yourself up that isn't eating.
Maybe do a new exercise class or something.
go out and play with your georgeous little girl, take her swimming or bike riding.
Buy a nice dress or something that you look great in, something you couldn't wear before.
Do something to elevate your spirits.
You have done great its just a hump try not to focus on it and shift your mind past that.

I did some therapy once and was told that negative thoughts produce negative thoughts, its kind of a chemical chain reaction, and thats why positive thinking is so important. So next time you think that positive thought think STOP and visualise something like a red light/stop sign, and then immediately think of a positive thought to neutralise the negative thought.
Like "oh lord I feel so fat and useless today - STOP - but I have got so far and this time next week I will feel completely different.

that was garbled . I'm useless at advice really but maybe that helps!
keep smiling.

XXXMinnieXXX

Hi I'm Zara. I think all of us who have been large, or are large like me, can sometimes find you loose perspective over what you have achieved. Also its strange to see yourself changing after a long time even if its for the better. There's nothing worse than a loved one saying something like that. It would depress the best of us. Your doing really well though, and you have to think about what you have done and what you have achieved! great isn't it? I'd explain to the partner that it hurt, he probably didn't mean to hurt you, but may think about making critisism constructive in future. Don't let it get you down, be proud of yourself. Zara x

squitzwife

we all have these days...hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs. You can do it! you only have 13 lbs to go so don't let it get you down. remember-you probably feel big because you have loose skin. you just need some time for that to go. It's like that with me. I had 3 kids in 2 and a 1/2 years.
I'm so glad you posted your feelings so you can be lifted up. That takes guts. Loosing weight is never done by you alone. Make sure you express to your hubbie how you feel. he wants to support you too. I'm sure he will help you instead of foolishly saying stuff he probably didn't think about. HUGS HUGS HUGS HUGS

gerdyh

Dont worry! Your body is going to fluxuate. One day I will feel great and feel like I lost some then the next day will be the total opposite. keep on asking my husband if I look bigger and he just says that it will take time to get the weight off. I just started doing this fitness pal which seems to keep me thinking about what I am eating. I thought salads and other stuff was good for me and it doesnt have any calories but it all adds up so I have been watching my portions. i am hoping this coming week I at least lose 2 lbs. I am going to start working out tomorrow. I will see how it goes. You have lost A LOT of weight. Proud of you for getting this far. If you think you hit a plateau then change your diet intake and excerise a little more or just harder. I hope this helps.

Heather

had3nuf

I know what you're goin thru...I didn't lose a lot of weight, but people still noticed....the one person who didn't notice, was the ONE I expected and wanted to notice. It was humiliating...and I felt as huge as ever before..first I thought about not eating ANYTHING..hoping more weight would come off faster, so that he WOULD notice....but then I thought about saying "screw it!!"..and stocking up on Dove ice cream. I know I'm NOT gonna give up tho...because I love the changes "I'M" seeing....whether he notices or not. Maybe by the time he notices..I won't care. It sure woulda made my day though. Stick with it...I am!!!

GrandmaJody

I just read your posts (this one and yesterdays), and looked at your profile also. It sounds like your other half is over weight. Is he scared of losing you, or jealous that you doing this for yourself? He might not even realize he is doing it, but he is sabotaging your efforts....Maybe you need to have a real heart to heart with him. He might be feeling need a little reasurrance, and a reminder that it really hurts your feelings when he says those types of things....Just my opinion-and since I do not either one of you I could be wrong. Just something to consider....Keep up the good work, you can do this!

kennethmgreen

Sorry you are going through that. The whole weight loss/body image stuff can touch us to the core, sometimes even catch us by surprise.

Wow. You've lost 47 pounds?! You're a new person! Have you gone into the store and picked up a 40 pound bag of dog food? Those are heavy.

I don't know what your relationship is like with your other half, but have you considered saying the following to him in a reasonable, respectful tone? "hey, I don't know what you meant, if you were trying to be constructive or what, but that hurt my feelings. I'm not asking you to lie to me, but want you to know that I'm going to tell you when something you say hurts."

I think withdrawing into yourself (self-sabotage) can snowball and foster poor decisions. I know conflict is awkward for some. But sometimes an honest, frank discussion can get stuff out in the open in a way that makes it much easier to move past.

Anyway, that's a lot of advice from a stranger. If none of it resonates with you, no harm done. I do sincerely hope you feel better and focus on make good choices, moving forward.

NewVonnie

:flowerforyou:

Sorry you are going through that. The whole weight loss/body image stuff can touch us to the core, sometimes even catch us by surprise.

Wow. You've lost 47 pounds?! You're a new person! Have you gone into the store and picked up a 40 pound bag of dog food? Those are heavy.

I don't know what your relationship is like with your other half, but have you considered saying the following to him in a reasonable, respectful tone? "hey, I don't know what you meant, if you were trying to be constructive or what, but that hurt my feelings. I'm not asking you to lie to me, but want you to know that I'm going to tell you when something you say hurts."

I think withdrawing into yourself (self-sabotage) can snowball and foster poor decisions. I know conflict is awkward for some. But sometimes an honest, frank discussion can get stuff out in the open in a way that makes it much easier to move past.

Anyway, that's a lot of advice from a stranger. If none of it resonates with you, no harm done. I do sincerely hope you feel better and focus on make good choices, moving forward.

I agree and think you rock!

CaptainMFP

Don't give in! You are worth it. Look at what a great job you've done so far!

Let me share something with you. My wife and I ran our first 5K yesterday. I looked around at the start of the race, and even though I'm nearly 35 lbs. down and the lightest I've been as an adult, I turned to my wife and said "I may not be fat anymore, but I'm still the fattest guy here." It was true, too. Then I took on my first 5K...with a goal of running it in 34 min. and ran it in 30:17. I was the median time for the race, finishing 17th out of 33 runners. I may have felt physically big before the race, but I felt psychologically huge when it was done.

We are always are own worst critics, and when loved ones speak out of turn it does cut deep. But it's all just perception, yes? Find your positive spirit and you'll be back on track. Feel hugely successful, 'cause you are!

billsica

You have to be healthy for yourself and that little one too.
Don't you dare give up. One comment is nothing. Your way stronger than that.

suz74

Hang on in there honey, you have lost a staggering amount.....you are amazing!

mgmlap

you look amazing...but with that being said..you are going to have those down days. To make yourself feel better..go window shopping and see how far you have come by sizes alone.

As far as your husband..well he is who he is...one comment shouldnt belittle all the hard work you have done.

msfazer

Hi thank you everyone for your kind words and for letting me know I'm not the only one to feel this way! I have been on here since February just my phone locked me out of my account so had to start again. I had my 3rd baby last September and have lost 50lb since he was born.

It's just so easy to forget how far I have come in under a year and ive just got to focus on that. As for my other half he's gone from one extreme to another he used to try to keep me big now he criticises when I eat unhealthy food I know he is very insecure so I've just got to ignore his attempts to sabotage me.

Thank you all again