fittness and rest days and nasty friends comments

fittertanme

I have over the last few months been doing my fair share if not more excersices and only miss the gym at the weekends due to my long 12 shifts so it dont give me much time and sometimes and I say sometimes have a break from the diet but then start again on the monday and make up for it as if you dont have days from it then it becomes a bore and you lose interest and stop
but my friends on here all give good advise and when I am at the gym but because I had a heavy weekend and put on a few pounds which most of my friends are full of support apart from one who I will not name had left a nasty comment about my diet and saying all males are the same but not only that she has taken herself on my friends list but dont worry I will not lose any sleep over her comments as I am better than her in my diet only but why she was like this I dont know but I am better off her leaving as she is no angel but have supported her when she was down but my point is that we all have days and need comfort food and cannot be on a diet 24/7 all your life and bet she has days like that as well.
so what do you think about it was I allowed my weekend to have a break or do I stick to it 24/7 until the end I would like your views
steve

bry_all01

sorry to hear that! I like to think we all support our mfp friends. Glad you are looking to move past their rudeness.

Chairless

Your life, your body, your choice.

The only person that "cheat" days etc affect is you.

Piper has to be paid, be it all at once or over years.

cheekymonkeyface

Steve, it can be a long life if we worry over what everyone says.

It's your body, it's your life and it's your choice.

You certainly look of a respectable age where you know what you are doing and the only person you answer to is yourself.

If you want a weekend off from dieting so you can have a treat then you do it, you can always make it up in the gym...

ps, some friends are plastic and melt easily x

Happy0326

First I don't think you should look at it as a "DIET" just go with ONE day at a time. Every day won't be PERFECT just get back on track when you feel you have had a not so good food intake day. Don't ever listen to anyone else. YOU are the only one who lives with YOU ALL of the time.

Rae6503

delete her!

I go over and am back a lot of days. I pay attention to my weekly average over the daily totals. I have bad days (even over 4000) but try to average about 2000.

martinh78

Personally I don't think tehre is an end and yes, it needs to be stuck to 24/7 for the rest of your life.

You have said yourself that you have put some weight on as a result of your weekend. If you can't get to the gym at the weekend that's fine, but don't eat more than your base calories when you are not exercising.

There are no need for nasty comments, but realistic comments can be helpful if taken as such.

It is easy to put on a few lbs but not so easy to loose them, and in the long term (the rest of your life) you need to be able to maintain the balance. That's what I mean about "no end".


Nothing says that we have to stay friends with anyone on here though, I believe in surrounding yourself with beneficial people, those that make us happy or give us advice or are useful to have. So yeah, ditch her and carry on.

mermx

IMO friends are earned and not added to your life because they think they want to be your friend....this is why I do not add any friends on the website.

Having said that a lot of people do add `friends` and they give them the support and boost that they need.

I think it is sad that this particular `friend` let you down.

ou have lost 11lbs and you have done that for yourself, whichever way you do it you are losing weight...and that is the most important thing in your life, for you x

Keep doing what you are doing and we all have break days where we relax a little it is no big deal...as you said don`t lose sleep over it.... good luck x

dovesgate

After all my yo-yoing through the years, I have to agree with Martin that there is no end. I do wonder what exactly happens on the weekends if you are gaining a few pounds in only 2 days.

I build treats and such into my daily calorie count and I often add a food into my count to see what it will do to my intake before I decide to eat it or not. After all, it comes off if I don't eat it but the only way to take it off once I've eaten it is to work out and if there is a time constraint, I need to have the self control to not give in. That may be something you can try instead of overdoing it so much on the weekend if you are concerned about that. I know that if I indulge way too much I end up getting discouraged and quitting even though its my own fault for giving into temptation more than I ought to.

I don't know you or your friend nor your histories of posting but perhaps she didn't like to see you excuse your indulgent weekends and their resultant weight gain because it causes her to start making excuses for herself as well. While it is nice to add friends and get the support we need, we also have to be mindful of other people having a negative effect on our journey and if they are harmful to our mindset, we need to close communication.

PlanetVelma

No cheat days, you must log RELIGIOUSLY until the end of time AND your food journal better not be private!!!! LOL

Just kidding!

Everyone needs a day off, we all have families, events, friends, happy hour, weddings, etc... where we just want to have FUN!!!!

I'm sorry you had some crazy person who was so dang rigid.

tladame

Funny, I recently noticed that one of my friends deleted me as well. Not sure why...I didn't have much interaction with them, but I always thought they were funny. Go figure.

As far as cheat days are concerned, why not? Why, just this past Saturday I had Chick-Fil-A for lunch and pizza & beer for dinner. Oops! The next day, the scales said I was 2 pounds heavier. :embarassed: So I was really good about what I ate yesterday, and today those two pounds were gone again. As long as you get back on track, why not indulge every once in awhile!

fittertanme

thank you all for your kind comments and as I put on weight over the weekend and having spent some time in the gym today I have just weighed myself and I am not 13st 07lbs so 5lbs is very good for me and will be back there tomorrow but dont expect the same lose but it all helps so again to all the replied thank you
steve

spyork

Hi,

Your body repairs on rest days so make sure you have some and a good hit of junk does no harm once in a while, I try to eat as well as i can but what the hell we are human and we need comfort food at some point.

Scott

Bluestar083

Wow I didn't realise guys obsessed as much as girls about diet and *****y comments! Yay you are like us! (Well except the guys I know here in Australia-including my gorgeous bf, perhaps my gay brother and his friends excepted)

Ignore them. People are mean. Especially girls. Sometimes it feels like high school again but then i remember I don't need to be around *****y people anymore and drop them as friends or avoid them at work.

Well done on your weight loss, your doing well-and life is meant to be fun so forget the calories and indulge once in a while

cownancy

I think that you have to do what works for you. You might do best if you do not link diet and exercise as all or nothing. I have lost 50 pounds with very little exercise, just watching what I eat and following a prescribed eating plan. If you can practice healthy eating 7 days a week and exercise when you are available to do so, or just walk a little bit more on the 12 hour days, you'll have better results, BUT, this is YOUR life and your body and if you are consistent, you will do just fine!!!

I think a work out when you have worked so many hours and are exhausted is probably an easy way to injure yourself. I wish you the very best of luck. Remember, every day that you make good choices, is a day you take a step forward. Reward yourself for the many days of the week you get to take that step. On days you don't do as well, remember that tomorrow is another day and don't beat yourself up....keep going forward!

CaptainMFP

No one can be on game 100% of the time. "To err is human." We all have moments of comfort or indulgence. Best of the West Rib Cookoff is in town this weekend...my wife and I are going Friday and Saturday...we're not logging (how could we?)...we will exercise...we will probably gain for a few days...and we'll do it GUILT FREE. I'd be miserable if I had to be perfect all the time 'cause I couldn't do it. It sounds silly to say so, but I'll quote from "Batman Begins" -- "Why do we fall down, Master Bruce? So we can learn to pick ourselves up." Anyone who can't support an MFP friend positively through an off day or an off weekend or an off month isn't much of a friend. Either they are kidding themselves about their own perfection or trying to bring you down with them, since misery does love company. As long as you're willing to fight for yourself your friends should be willing to fight for you too. (And for the record, tough love is never nasty!) My contribution to the rant against nastiness. :laugh: