Self Talk

arewethereyet

My daughter and I had a discussion about me fitting between the washer and dryer for the 1st . She told me she noticed I no longer call my self "Fat *kitten*" Or "Chunky Munky".

She told me she was always bothered by this for 2 reasons.

People have always told her she looks just like me. If this is so, then is she also a fat *kitten*, tub a lard or chunky munky?

She also said that she would NEVER allow ANYONE to speak of me in this manner....and always wanted to tell me "Do NOT speak that way about my BEST FRIEND!"

The words we speak are powerful, either to others or ourselves. When I say, I am hot, it is like I would say it to a friend...WOW you look HOT!! All your work is paying off!

Be your own best friend. Find a new nick name for yourself. Sexy Mommy, Pretty Girl, Too hot to handle....something that you would tell your BFF if she were losing weight and working out like YOU !!

arewethereyet

My daughter and I had a discussion about me fitting between the washer and dryer for the 1st . She told me she noticed I no longer call my self "Fat *kitten*" Or "Chunky Munky".

She told me she was always bothered by this for 2 reasons.

People have always told her she looks just like me. If this is so, then is she also a fat *kitten*, tub a lard or chunky munky?

She also said that she would NEVER allow ANYONE to speak of me in this manner....and always wanted to tell me "Do NOT speak that way about my BEST FRIEND!"

The words we speak are powerful, either to others or ourselves. When I say, I am hot, it is like I would say it to a friend...WOW you look HOT!! All your work is paying off!

Be your own best friend. Find a new nick name for yourself. Sexy Mommy, Pretty Girl, Too hot to handle....something that you would tell your BFF if she were losing weight and working out like YOU !!

pdxmomof2

AWWWW! Your daughter sounds like a wonderful person who was raised by a wonderful person!

I, myself, am guilty of that very thing. My son , who is only 5, actually threw it back in my face and it made me stop dead in my tracks. He didnt understand that he was calling me fat. He was only saying what he had overheard me say about myself but to others. We had to talk about how that was not a nice thing to say. Very confusing for the little man! I dont talk that way around him anymore. I cant say that in my own head I am where I should be but I also have not lost alot of weight. Maybe it will come in time!

melissa91971

Our words are powerful.
We can all learn from this post!

Thanks!:flowerforyou:

~Mel

Fitness_Chick

My daughter and I had a discussion about me fitting between the washer and dryer for the 1st . She told me she noticed I no longer call my self "Fat *kitten*" Or "Chunky Munky".

She told me she was always bothered by this for 2 reasons.

People have always told her she looks just like me. If this is so, then is she also a fat *kitten*, tub a lard or chunky munky?

She also said that she would NEVER allow ANYONE to speak of me in this manner....and always wanted to tell me "Do NOT speak that way about my BEST FRIEND!"

The words we speak are powerful, either to others or ourselves. When I say, I am hot, it is like I would say it to a friend...WOW you look HOT!! All your work is paying off!

Be your own best friend. Find a new nick name for yourself. Sexy Mommy, Pretty Girl, Too hot to handle....something that you would tell your BFF if she were losing weight and working out like YOU !!

excellent post my friend:flowerforyou: Daughter sounds like a keeper:flowerforyou:

hmo4

Great reminder. How old is your daughter, she's very WISE. I'll be watching myself...

arewethereyet

She is 21...she is one smart cookie! mmmmmmmmmmmmm cookie!:flowerforyou:

loreeb18

I'm trying to work on that myself. Right now Harley is only 3 1/2 months old. But I want to have a better attitude about myself before she is old enough to catch on. I would cry if one day when she's a little older, I overheard her calling herself fat or something like that. :sad:

I'm getting a little better. When I used to look in the mirror, I'd just point out the bad stuff. Now I point out the bad stuff (I said I'm working on it.) and then I'm like, "Hmm, my collarbones are showing a little more. I like my wrists, they are looking slim these days." :laugh:

arewethereyet

Now is the time Lori! Harley will get a lot of her self image from what you project. My daughter gained a lot of weight in middle school and was miserable. She slimmed down in HS and still had a lot of depression. I wonder how much of that was from my portaying a bad self image.

I now tell her she is beautiful and I am skinny (she is skinny too, that is the:laugh: part~)


The best part about her is her sense of humor. She is also a peace keeper/mediator like her mommy! I heard her discussing a fight with her roomate, who is her BFF since age 14. She said " I understand that is how you feel, now I need to tell you how I feel" :noway:

I just love her...can ya tell?

lessertess

great post.....

On of my friends called me on this a few weeks ago and it really stopped me in my tracks. A year ago she and I were talking about loosing weight and, at the time, I told her that I'd be happy to get to where she was, that I thought she looked great. I'm now smaller than she was at that time and am still complaining about my weight. She called me on it the other day and said I should think back to what I originally said I wanted and be proud of myself for what I've done. It also occurred to me that by complaining and calling myself "fat" I was also calling her fat. Not good :noway:

She's right, of course. I think it's almost a defense mechanism to always be negative about how I look. If I'm negative about me first, then no-one else can hurt me by being negative.

My committment to myself this year is to develop a healthy body-image and to be more postive and accepting of myself.

Girlmom282109

I too say the same thing to myself that is why I am trying to learn my quote below!

arewethereyet

I think it's almost a defense mechanism to always be negative about how I look. If I'm negative about me first, then no-one else can hurt me by being negative.

My committment to myself this year is to develop a healthy body-image and to be more postive and accepting of myself.

This is the key! When I see someones tag name is negative, I feel they have given up before they have even begun. I want to say HEY....how about lovelygurl02 or imworthit10x

I remember a girl I worked with some 15 pounds ago....uh I mean years ago. She was 6' tall and told me she weight 350. She has gastric bypass and had lost 150 pounds at the time. She had that sassy NY attitude. I just loved her! Anyway Laurie heard me calling my 135 pound body fat:noway: . She said dont EVER let me hear that outta your mouth again. She said watch when we go th 7-11 for our morning coffee....watch the men standing out front....they will be checking my *kitten* out...watch. It is all in the attitude!!

So as we walked over to the store that morning I watched and the guys WERE watching her! She was strutting, shoulders back, head held high! She felt SEXY and this translated to the ppl around her. One guy said something in spanish I didnt understand, but it was accompanied by a wolf whistle....and when we got inside someone bought her a cup of coffee!!!

I learned a very good lesson that day...may not have applied it to my life at that time, but I learned it nonetheless!!

Attitude my friends! When you feel good about yourself, others feel good about you!!

Nonibug

great post.....

On of my friends called me on this a few weeks ago and it really stopped me in my tracks. A year ago she and I were talking about loosing weight and, at the time, I told her that I'd be happy to get to where she was, that I thought she looked great. I'm now smaller than she was at that time and am still complaining about my weight. She called me on it the other day and said I should think back to what I originally said I wanted and be proud of myself for what I've done. It also occurred to me that by complaining and calling myself "fat" I was also calling her fat. Not good :noway:

She's right, of course. I think it's almost a defense mechanism to always be negative about how I look. If I'm negative about me first, then no-one else can hurt me by being negative.

My committment to myself this year is to develop a healthy body-image and to be more postive and accepting of myself.

Nonibug

Geeez I am sooo having trouble with posts this morning:grumble:

I think we should ALL make that commitment to ourselves this year:flowerforyou:

zaza54

Great post arewethereyet! Your daughter sounds as lovely, wise and caring as her mother. Thanks for sharing - these are good reminders for us all.

keiko

What a good post and attitude to take us into the New Year!

Whenever we are talking someone is listening. We are either encouring someone or dragging them down. I feel bad that I did not learn this ealier in life but as the saying goes, better late than never!